Liz - posted on 04/16/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




Ugh! How late can you get post pardom depression? I have started to feel really bummed out lately. I am a stay at home mom and starting to feel like I am a bad mom. Like I don't do enough for my daughter. She is 6 months old. I try to do things to entertain her, but I get tired and just want to veg out and have a little me time. I don't want to be selfish. I want to do the best for my daughter. Any tips or suggestions?


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Jodie - posted on 04/21/2009




i fell with the same thing i was getting sick of sitting around since my son was born i couldnt get outside cus it was to cold out i love to be outdoors and i was driving myself crazy also my son i think lol but now that its nice out and we can get out for walks to the park and things i feel so much better i dont feel so run down and depressed i think the winter months really get to a person especially with a new baby knowing that you cant get out and go sled ridding or do all the fun things kids do and just getting out to go sit at someone elses house or go inside a store isnt enough fresh air is the answer to everything

Cynthia - posted on 04/16/2009




It can strike anytime (PPD) I believe up to a year or so after childbirth. Hormones are doing there funky chicken and changing your behaviour and emotions on a dime. Like everyone else has said getting out is the most crucial. It helps just to talk to a grocery clerk to feel connected to someone other than your wee one.

Ask at your local health unit or hospital if they host a baby talk or mothers group meeting. they are a great way to get connected with other moms in your area. Health classes are a good one. Hang in there is feels awful but force yourself out of your house and be sure to take the 2 hour trek to catch up wioth those girlfriends. Make a day or overnight of it if they are willing to host you. I spent the first three months of my first sons life doing 16 hour driving days to see relatives and it sure helped me and let me have a time out as relatives can NEVER get enough of holding a new baby...hope this helps. take care, we all think your doing a great job as you are paying enough attention to see this change in yourself. Good going. Now the real work begins...:-)

Kyla - posted on 04/16/2009




When I went in for my son's 6 month vaccinations the health nurse gave me another PPD test. Here they have new mom's fill out the questions when the babies are 2 months, 6 months, 1year she said. When I went in for his 2 month vaccinations I was fine but when I went in for his 6 month I had to be honest with myself that I wasn't as over joyed as I had been previously. But then I remembered that he was always such a happy baby but when he started teething things were more difficult and it was really wearing me down. Like the other ladies here I got out more. I am in the same situation living in a rural area so I know how hard it can be to meet new people. I do have a few friends here and the girls I worked with are great but that's the thing.... they all work. So during the day I go for walk, to the mall, and run and little errand I can find. It seems to have helped. It will be easier to get out of the house now too because the snow is gone and the temp is warming up FINALLY! I hope it get's better for you. You will find something that helps with this.... Try taking your baby swimming a few days a week. It will get you out and you might be surprised how many moms are there. I really enjoy taking Cayden. Good Luck!

Cristina - posted on 04/16/2009




I am feeling very depressed lately, mostly because I just got a promotion. It sounds crazy, I know, but now I feel like I have three things to juggle: wife, boss, mom. And I can only do two at a time well. Since my income depends on me doing a good job at work, I feel like I can't give my all to being a mom and a wife.

I have found that it helps to take 20 minutes a day for myself, hand over the baby to the husband and do what I want to do (and usually it's get on Circle of Moms). But it is a chance to let my mind unwind, and I come back to my son a happier person.

Liz - posted on 04/16/2009




We moved right after I got pregnant also. I've made some friends through church, but my problem is I live in a ruel area. So, we are 1/2 away from the nearest town. We are over a mile away from our nearest neighbor. But, I agree I really need to get out of the house more!!!

Courtney - posted on 04/16/2009




Get out of the house!! Now that the weather is warmer where I am I have been going on walks with my little one-most areas have stroller groups you can even join w/ other moms-that helped me the most--getting out, and finding support from other moms who know what you are going through--and don't feel guilty for needing your time for yourself!!! Make it happen-even if it is only a bubble bath while your ilttle one naps!

Melissa - posted on 04/16/2009




Hi Liz~


I too am a stay at home mom, and I have a beautiful 7 month old baby boy and I have good and bad days. I try to snap myself out of it by getting out of the house everyday. If that means doing part of my grocery shopping one day and the rest the next be it.  I also try to go for a walk everyday, whether its around the block or driving to the mall and walking around.

But some days I just call my husband, crying and he will calm me down, and get me out of my funk.

We moved to this beautiful new house, in a new city before the baby was born and my closest friend is 2 hours away, and I have yet to make any new friends. This also contributes to my being bummed out. I used to work at Trader Joe's where my whole day was interacting with people, and now it's just me and my son, my two dogs and the cat. It can get pretty lonley and isolating.

My advice is to give yourself a pep talk, or get out of the house even if it's just to go get a gallon of milk at the store. 

I'm usually on FB when my little guy is asleep, so I'm here too, if you ever want to talk :)

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