does anyones 20month old sleep on there own bed or in there own room yet?

Cynthia - posted on 06/01/2010 ( 69 moms have responded )

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My son is 20months old & is finally sleeping on his own bed! Yay! :) But he wont sleep in his room yet. His bed is right next to mines & sometimes he gets up & tries to sleep with me but im trying not to get him used to sleeping with me. any tips on how i can get him to sleep in his room?

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Kelly - posted on 06/01/2010

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Both of my kids who are almost 4 and almost 2 sleep in their own beds in their own rooms. They have never slept with me except from about 4 months and younger, but even then they were in the bassinet unless they were having issues sleeping. We have never let them sleep in our bed unless they are terribly sick. If for some reason they wake up at night, we lay in their beds with them until they get back to sleep or calm down. I am just a strong believer in kids being in their own beds in their own rooms. My SIL did not do this and she fights her 9 year old tooth and nail every night trying to get him in his bed. Its just much easier to do it when they are younger and you get your own space!! As far as putting him in his room, you just do it. You put him in there and let him cry. If you cannot let him cry it out, then go in after 5 mins of crying, calm him down without talking to him or picking him up, then leave, then wait till 10 mins of crying, go back in do the same thing, leave and then do 15 mins and so on. Make sure the room is dark and quiet. and just remain consistent. I promise it will work in a day or two. I did this with mine, but at 4 months, but I have had friends that did this at his age and it worked then too. Health Sleep Habits, Happy Child is a great resource book on this. Good luck!!

Kerry - posted on 06/01/2010

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my daughter sleeps in her own bed but she is still in my room i have moved her bed away from mine so she doesnt get into my bed! im going to start to try and get her in her own room soon but i need a night light 1st and trying to get her to sleep all night b4 i move her x i find if i get her her to help me with things she does them better by herself i got her to help me to make her bed then she wanted to sleep in it and so on x

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mines i sould be proud... he's 21 month old and he goes to sleep by him self on his bed on his room , and sleeps all night, he even says nite nite to me and gave me a kiss every night,

Gemma - posted on 06/15/2010

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My daughter Gracie who is 21mths, has been in her own bed and room since she was 15mths old. When in the cot she was waking up in the night alot but since putting her in a bed she sleeps all night but it was hard work. The first 2day was great she would sleep all night but as soon as she knew she can get out, it would take an hour or so. Of putting her back to bed again and again and again. It took about 2 weeks maybe less for her to sleep in bed without getting out all night. My tip is move the bed away from yours and if he get in bed put him right back.Once he get use to you not next to him and than move him in his room. Keep going with it, it will get easier. Good Luck x

Katie - posted on 06/14/2010

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My 20 month old son finally sleeps in his own bed too by me and by himself in his own room, but wakes up during the middle of the night or early morning to try and sleep by me. I found out that just coming in telling him its ok and go back to sleep worked best, and as far as going to bed at night, reading some books and than playing a soft musical cd for him. He just loves it and its soothing.

LISA - posted on 06/14/2010

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Its hard a first you must let your baby know its bed time then put them to bed in there own room and leave them. They will cry a few times just keep going up after 5 minutes to check on them, they will soon get used to being on there own at bed time dont give in to it, it worked for me now he just sleeps through the night.

Gaye - posted on 06/14/2010

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My daughter who has just turned 21 months. Has been sleeping in her own bed for about 3 weeks. I was like you. My daughter had a little mattress in our room, but I put a bed in her 4 year old sister's room & now my 21 month sleeps in her own bed. BUT wont go to bed in her bed. We wait until she has fallen asleep then carry her to her bed. She will come up to our room during the night, but not until around 5 to 7 am so this is a huge improvement. Once she is comfortable in her new soundings I will start putting her to bed in her bed instead of waiting until she falls asleep.

Hailey - posted on 06/13/2010

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my lil girl went in her own room 3 months ago before tht i was in the room with her

Hailey - posted on 06/13/2010

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my lil girl is 20 months she sleeps in her own bed in her own room and sleeps thought sumtimes till 11am i nw rly good she never use to she use to get up 3 times a night but i brought her a night light and i kiss her on the head gd night then i go out and close the door she crays for 5 mins then fast asleep she takes my hand wen she wants to go bed nw for her night lite it has worked for me

Tiffany - posted on 06/13/2010

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My son is 20 months old and sleeps in his room in a twin bed. But I have to lay with him until he falls asleep.

Samantha - posted on 06/13/2010

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Hi mommy,
My 21 month son, went into a toddler bed when he was around 19 months because he figured out how to climb out if his crib when he first started that i sadi you know what lets just put him in the toddler bed, best choice i ever made he loved his "Big Boy Bed" he sleeps all night, and what i did was went out and bought a TV for his room and i leave it on when he goes to bed on treehouse then trun it off when i go to bed. Try the tv thing he might like that.

Amanda - posted on 06/12/2010

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I wish i could help you but ive had my daughter in her on bed since day 1 and in her own room since she was 2 months but im having a problem with the transitional bed

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I put my daughter ina toddler bed at 18 months. she does very well sleeping though the night in her bed. The bed how ever is in our room but on the other side of our room not next to our bed. I am in the process of moving her back to her room. We wanted to make sure she would be safe in the toddler bed.She does wake up in the middle of the night every once in a while but i tell her its ok and to lay back down.Some times we do allow her to sleep with us.

Jessica - posted on 06/12/2010

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Unfortunately, if he is already used to sleeping with you, that is a very hard habit to break. My 3 kids never got in to that routine, but I had a friend that did. It took her many months to get her daughter out of the co-sleeping routine. I think the easiest thing for all parties involved is just to do things gradually. First, move his bed into his room. Try nap time first and after a week or so, move on to something else. Maybe let him fall asleep in your bedroom and once he is asleep for the night, move him into his own bed in his room. Sorry I can't give you better advice, but my kids have been in their own beds from birth. I hope you get something to work!

Ashley - posted on 06/12/2010

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i had some trouble with my 21 month old sleeping in her own bed but i eventually had to lay her down and tell her it was ok and shut the door--- she would cry and cry but eventually she slept in her own bed and had no problem... she was sleeping in her own bed/ room since she was 9 months

Kylie - posted on 06/11/2010

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Our son has been in his own room since he was 3mths, and he went into a big boys bed when he was 16mths old as he was out growing his cot, he is a tall boy and we were concerned that he was going to tip out of his cot one day. He settled into his new bed well and we havnt had any probs and he is now 20mths. All the best.

Teri - Lea - posted on 06/11/2010

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my little boy was in a cot in my room untill he was 10.5 months old as i lived with my parents, as soon as i got my own place last year i put him straight into his own room and in his own big boy bed and from the very first night he slept straight through and i have never had any problems with him, i think the sooner the better. Hope this helps x x

Nonie - posted on 06/10/2010

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Our son is still in his crib (he is a major climber and that's the only thing he hasn't yet figured out how to climb) and yes it is in our room, but our room is huge and he's at the other end from our bed. He sleeps through the night in his bed, once in a while he wakes up but we don't take him out of bed so he'll go right back to sleep on his own. We are moving him to his own room, with a gate at the door first before transitioning to the toddler bed. Did the same thing with our girls, now 9 and 6, and it worked great!

Kell - posted on 06/10/2010

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Xan stayed in our room till he was 7months, almost 8 months old, when we moved his cotbed into his own room. He still came through and spent part of the night with us sometimes, but not regularly (we had partially coslept with the side off the cotbed and pushed right up to my side of the bed) till then.

We took one side off Xan's cotbed at about 19 months and left a folded-up duvet beside the bed in case he fell out. He didn't. He got out and back into bed a couple of times, but didn't fall out. After a couple of weeks, we took the other side off too. It took him the best part of a month to realise he could leave his bed himself in the mornings, at which point he started coming through to our room when he woke up in the morning, but that's mostly after the 6am mark (which is a long lie-in for me - LOL!). If he comes through before 6am, we take him into our bed and cuddle for a while. SOmetimes he dozes off for an hour or so, sometimes we just cuddle for half and hour and quietly talk to each other if he stays awake. He sleeps right through no bother, though, and goes to bed no problem at night and at nap time, very rarely making a fuss or getting back up again. he only leaves his bed to retrieve a soft toy or get a book to look at till he falls asleep. :)

Tanya - posted on 06/10/2010

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I just never gave him the chance I guess. I put a baby gate in front of his door. He woke up the first few nights and cried for me, but after that he started sleeping through the night again.

Whitnee - posted on 06/10/2010

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My son Broke his crib and then we put him in a playpen and somehow he broke that too so we bought him a twin size bed and put a gate in his door so he cant get out of his room and he has not had a probly when it's bed time he will either play or go to sleep.

Adele - posted on 06/10/2010

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my 21 month old is in her own bed at the side ov mine but what i did is put a bed rail inbetween mine and hers, i did that with my other 2 and gradually moved the bed further away now my other 2 sleep in their own room with no fuss.
I also let them choose their own bedding etc, wich they were happy to do it made them feel 'grown' up!

Sarah - posted on 06/10/2010

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we have just put our 20 month old in a big bed shes been in her big bed now for 5 nights and hasnt got out of it once she loves her new bed and she sleeps a hour longer now 6pm - 7am

Lee-Anne - posted on 06/10/2010

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My daughter is 21 months old and has been sleeping in her bed since 18 months old. It was literally one night in her cot and the next night in her bed. She climbs out of her bed early in the morning and gets into our bed and carries on sleeping we dont mind the cuddles with her! Our son who is now 4 years old did exactly the same thing at 18 months went into his bed. Both of them are good sleepers and we never had any problems! Good luck.

SaSa - posted on 06/10/2010

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My girl is also 20 months old and I moved her to her own room since she's 2 months old. I think he just need to get used to it! Tell him & give him some time to adjust!

Angie - posted on 06/09/2010

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My son has slept in his own bed and own room since he was about 3 months old. We have had a few times where Duncan has tried to come to bed with us (he is in a Big Boy Bed now) And you just have to be consistant. Dont show emotion, dont get worked up, just take his hand and take him back to his bed.



As for getting him to sleep in his own room, you will have to do some things in there play, nap time, story time. Something that he enjoys then you can start getting him to sleep in there. Good Luck.

Megan - posted on 06/09/2010

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My son has slept in his own bed since the first night he came home, so I don't have this problem at 21 months. But you could try moving his bed closer to the door each night then once you're right at the door, the next night move it to his own room. Or you could try putting him in his own room and you sleeping in there with him, moving further away from his bed and closer to the door...eventually ending up in your own room. Good luck!

Ann-marie - posted on 06/09/2010

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my son has slept in his own room from being 2 weeks as this was when he starting sleeping all night so all we did at 14 months was take him out of his cot put him into his own bed without any probs. a couple of times he would get up but we just put straight into bed again and within a week as soon as we put him to bed within 5 mins he was asleep. he is now 20 months old.

Debbie - posted on 06/09/2010

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I have 21 month old twin boys. We went to beds last month. Took about two weeks for them to get used to. They dont get out of bed or even try to get out of their room. They have had their own crib since they were 3 months and they share their room. Now they have their own beds and sharing a room still. Have no problems

Jangeline - posted on 06/08/2010

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We moved our daughter into her own room at 8 months old. I was warned early not to get her in the habit of sleeping in our room or bed because she may never want to leave.
Maybe try make a game out of it. Let him choose where his bed should go in his room - even its a little messy, he will learn that it's his space. My daughter loves her room and she knows that occasionally she can come and sleep with us, but only if she has had a really bad night.
Make it his domain where he has more control - like maybe his favourite character on his bedding.
Hope you win! X

Lori - posted on 06/08/2010

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I wish I could help on this one. I have several friends all tackling the same problem. My son is almost 6, and my daughter is 20 months. Both of them have slept in their own bed, in their own room since the day they came home from the hospital. Neither of them have ever even spent a night in my room for any reason.

I wish you good luck. It is a very hard transition.

Norma - posted on 06/08/2010

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I used Ferber method last summer when my daughter was 8 months old. It was tough, but we got through it. Now, she will not fall asleep if she is in bed with us. She prefers to sleep alone and falls asleep by herself after we put her down. I think you can still use this method, but I'm not sure.

Kerry - posted on 06/08/2010

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u and ur son sit in his bedroom and play show him its a safe room and nice to be in just spend a hour n get some toys out n he should grow to like it

Amy - posted on 06/08/2010

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No way! Our son sleeps in his bed, in his room. He's been doing it since we brought him home. It might be hard at first, but gradually do it, you don't want to wait to long, before it's an issue, and you need your own space to sleep

Joanne - posted on 06/08/2010

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Hi mommy,

my advice is to have his bed in his room, if it is in your bedroom, the baby will never want to sleep in his own room! I know letting go is challenging & scary, but you can do it ;)

You don't want your child 4/5 yrs old sleeping in your bed! Also ensure that his room does not have too much stimulation, so he can sleep peacefully! Try soft classical music, put away toys in chest, leave a soothing night light, & most importantly read a book w/him every night!!!!

Great success ;-)

Laura - posted on 06/07/2010

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I would say put them in there own bed in there own room form day one and then they don't know the difference and will always sellp thin there own room. My son has.

Gabby - posted on 06/07/2010

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all i did was put her in her bed she was crying and screaming until she fell asleep it may be cruel but its all i knew wat to do.

Gabby - posted on 06/07/2010

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i dont have any tips but my daughter is the same age ive got her sleeping in her own bed in her own room but she wakes up in the middle of the night and comes running into my bed !!!

Annemaria - posted on 06/07/2010

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I have had my 20 month old son in his own room since 18 months. My friend told me to start by sleeping on the floor next to him for a few night and slow move 5 ft away every couple of nights until you are out the door. Worked like a charm!

Carys - posted on 06/07/2010

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My little boy (21 months) went into his toddler bed a week ago and loves it. He is in his own room but has been since he first slept through the night at 10 weeks old. He can be a little silly going to bed (getting out a few times) but once he is asleep he is fine and sleeps through the majority of the time. If he wakes up we go and comfort him and leave him in his own room. You just have to make the choice to put him in his own room then stick to it, however hard it may be for both of you.

Sarrah - posted on 06/07/2010

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my son is 20month old and hes been in his own room since he was 9month old and in his own bed since he was 12/13month old he loves havin his own room bcz he likes it really quite and would wake up alot when he was in my room now he sleeps right thro x

Tara - posted on 06/06/2010

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Our son is going through the same transition right now! We were ready for him to start sleeping through the night and he was used to sleeping in our room. We tried making a big deal about his new toddler bed and bedding showing him that big brother slept on his own. We even considered letting them sleep together, but that definitely did not work. :-P We finally just had to decide it was time to make a drastic change in routine. He goes through his routine at the same time every night (pajamas, brush teeth, story) and we switched it all to his room. Then we turn off the lights, turn on a story on tape that leads into music, (for some reason this works better than just music, I think they are quiet to hear the story) and then I hold him and walk him just until he is drowsy enough that he can't keep his eyes open. I set him down in his own bed and tuck him in, if he starts squirming I just put my hand on his chest to let him know I'm nearby and he CRASHES! If he wakes up at night, I just turn the music back on and walk him again to let him know he sleeps in his own bed and isn't coming to ours.

When we first changed it up on him, he was a little unhappy, but he didn't really cry and went to sleep pretty easily. It got easier every night with him even asking to be put into bed in the end - it's way more comfortable than trying to fidget around in my arms! He sleeps longer every night and has almost slept through a couple times. It probably takes a little more patience doing it this way, but it's worth it!! I just wasn't comfortable with the cry it out methods and wanted to make sure he knew bed was safe, and mommy and daddy would respond if he needed us. (We've had some nighttime problems with our older one...) It's working way better!

You just have to be consistent with the routine and maybe find a comfort toy - ours has a cuddly puppy and an "Ocean Wonders" that he can turn on music to calm him when he does wake up and he is learning to soothe himself. Good luck!

Amber - posted on 06/06/2010

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When we moved from the crib to toddler bed...it took some time. We learned quickly that she would not stay in her bed all night. We would put her down after her nightly routine around 8 and by 11 she would tip toe into our room. She would then expect to stay in our bed...and we let her for a while or until we thought she was alseep and then we would move her to only get woke up again. After a few nights of little sleep, we tried just cloing her door...she screams in the middle of the night then until we get her. So, then we decided to use a baby gate and leave her door cracked until we go to bed. TOTALLY WORKED!!! We have been doing it ever since and let me tell you...a full nights sleep really makes a difference...for all of us! Hope this helps you!

Amanda - posted on 06/06/2010

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My daughter who is 20 months now has been sleepimg in her bed since she was 5 months she does wake up some nights and I get her and bring her to my bed for half the night.I just didn't want to get her in the habbit of sleeping with us.I would just tell him let's be a big boy and sleep in your bed and your rm and maybe put a light in there for him.

Katherine - posted on 06/06/2010

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Also, he goes to sleep with classical music playing and he has a special blanket and LOVEY...that i am sure, will be an issue when it is time to wean him off. Oh well....,maybe you should wait until your baby is 2 yrs and then really push the SLEEPING IN YOUR OWN ROOM THING?

Katherine - posted on 06/06/2010

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Wow! My 20 month old will NOT sleep anywhere else but his own bed in his own room. Maybe it is because he is a child who needs his own space, whereas, some kiddos like to cuddle and be with other people. I know this sounds crazy but we have tried to have him sleep with us and he will not have any of if! Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 06/06/2010

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I have 20 month old twin boys, they've succesfully slept in their own cribs in their own room since they were 6 months old. Before that it was off and on in our bed and they just wouldnt sleep through the night, because they werent used to it. We had to let them cry it out one night in their room and get them used to getting themselves back to sleep if they woke up. At that age it only took about 1 or 2 nights and it was the best choice we ever made. They get a better nights sleep and so do we, therefore we are all well rested for the next day! We turn on their wall projector and soft sounds music when we put them down and theyre good to go. One of them occasionally will wake up crying in the middle of the night but it only lasts a few minutes and hes back to sleep. The only time we we take them out if is theyre sick or teething and wake up screaming and wont stop, but even then sometimes all it takes is giving them their pacifier and turning their soft music back on. Within the last 6 months theyve become very attached to certain blankets and their blanky puppies and wont go to bed without them, but they love their cribs and are always willing to get right in for naptime too!

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My girl sleeps in her own bed in a room with her brother. She was about 16 months when we lest the room to a smaller one and her brother came in to her(bigger room). She wasn´t ready before that time, and that was ok. It´s just now when she sleeps the whole night, but I think she´s getting night terrors. She wakes up screaming the roof off.

Betsy - posted on 06/05/2010

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what i did with my daughter is when she went to sleep i would move her into her own room and it seemed to work with her

Heather - posted on 06/05/2010

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My son has been in his own bed in his own room since about 17 months. I started out with laying down with him....but that became a bad habit! Now I simply go through our bedtime routine ( we love him, is he gonna have sweet dreams, is he going to stay in bed ALL night...)and then give him a kiss goodnite, and put the baby gate across the door.
At first he screamed and cried...then the next nite he threw toys and cried...then the next nite he pretty much just went to bed. The gate goes up EVERY nite...for his safety as much as to keep him in bed. He knows how to unlock and open the outside doors, so this keeps him safe if and when he does wake up in the middle of the nite.

Fiona - posted on 06/05/2010

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start w naps in his room, with tons of leading up to the nap, play in his room so he liked being in there. is there anything you do before he goes to bed (in your room) that you can do in his room? a special book, a bottle?...etc. good luck.

my 21 month old always slept in his own room and we just switched him to a big boy bed instead of a crib!!

Zoe - posted on 06/04/2010

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My daughter is 21 months and sleeps in her own bed in her own room.She still doesn't sleep through the night but when i put her to bed i talk to her and tell her what i am doing before i leave her room or that i will come back and see her whilst she goes to sleep. However, she does not always stay once i have left and will winge so i tend to call out to her and say go to sleep please good girl and she tends to nod off easier. I didn't find it easy but if you stay calm and stick to it they eventually get to know the routine. I still have to get up through the night a couple of times and occasionally have to stay in her room for a while but she is getting there slowly x

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