I have to ask, do you all close the doors into your babyes rooms?

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Yeah, the topic says it all:) I have to ask because it seems to be normal in America but nowhere else. I would never close the door into my kids room unless I was vacuuming or painting or such. The door is always open so I can hear them if they call me at night.

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Amanda - posted on 03/14/2010

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I always keep my son's door shut because I live in an apartment so I want to keep as much noise out since my boyfriend works late he gets home around 2:30am so I don't want him to be awakened when he comes in but I never have any problem with hearing him if he needs me in the middle of the night or when he is ready to get up in the morning.

Kelly - posted on 07/13/2011

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My son (5.5) sleeps like a rock so his door is open half way. My daughter (2) needs to sleep with her door shut or she thinks its playtime. Her brother, although an excellent sleeper has a tnadancy to talk in his sleep and the one night I left her door slightly ajar he was dreaming about dinosaurs, and she woke up yelling, 'E, I'm awake too! I comin to play" I had to take her into his room to show her that he was fast alseep and it took another 45 minutes to get her back into her crib. It's just a no brainer for us to keep her door shut, not only for her to have a good sleep but also so that I don't go insane from lack of sleep. When we are downstairs the baby monitor is on, but once I go up to bed I don't need one as my room shares a wall with hers and I hear every little snore she makes :o) Oh and I am in Canada.

Valerie - posted on 03/21/2010

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i dont ever close my daughters door she is 1 and i dont even close my sons door and he is 3. to me it is just a safety issue. if there was an emergency and my son couldnt get out of his room because the door was shut i would never forgive my self and i think it makes them feel more safe when they know that if something happens they can just run right out of the room...hope this helps

Bryndís - posted on 07/21/2011

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Þegar strákarnir mínir voru litlir notaði ég "barnapíu" og hafði hurðirnar alltaf lokaðar því ég bjó í íbúð og það var svo hljóðbært þar. Í dag er sá yngsti 11 ára og allar hurðir eru lokaðar þegar við sofum. Ég pældi reyndar ekkert í því að hafa lokað á nóttuni fyrr en ég las um öryggi í sambandi við eldsvoða. Ef það kemur upp eldur um nótt þá er öruggara að hafa allar hurðir lokaðar svo það komist ekki reykur inn í herbergin. Þannig að já, hjá okkur eru allar hurðir lokaðar um nætur :)

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Christina - posted on 08/17/2011

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I would always close the door at bedtime so that it would be quieter for them (the bedroom opened into our living room, so if we were watching TV all the noise would go right into the bedroom). When I went to bed, I would open their door so I could hear them if they needed me. Now they all have bedrooms upstairs and I keep their doors cracked open so I can hear them. I'm in the US.

Alyss - posted on 07/20/2011

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My son is 3 and his door is closed almost fully whenever he's sleeping. Not because of noise or light that's just the way he likes it. Even when he leaves his room in the morning he closes it almost fully.

Angela - posted on 07/13/2011

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my 19 month old is in a big bed (been there since 15 months) we moved her as we also have a now 8 month old.. we tried the putting her to bed and returning her each time she came out etc but because of the age she just didnt get it... so now we shut the door and open it about half an hour later for the night she seems to feel calm and secure and if there is any crying at bed time it is short and not out of control, in fact most nights now she just goes to sleep... seems like the same as having them in a cot to me - just bigger!.....

Jessi - posted on 07/13/2011

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Yes I close my son's door and yes I live in the states. I close it because I close EVERY door and I have been that way ever since I can remember...if there is a door, it should be shut unless stated to be left open. I cannot sleep if any door is open. growing up that drove my parents insane.

Misty - posted on 07/13/2011

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It seems that alot of people have said the same as what i'm going to say. I have always kept my children's doors closed at night. They also leave them closed during the day but only to keep the dog and cat out of their room (little Chihuahua steals small toys and the cat LOVES to purposely knock stuff off of dressers, nightstands, etc.) Anyway, at night, I always keep my bedroom door closed for a couple different reasons. I started this when they were babies because I want my daughters to respect our privacy. I felt that if we "only" closed and locked our doors when we were, ummm, baking cakes (lol).. then they would know exactly what we were doing. So we keep the door closed and locked whenever we're in the bedroom so that way they have no idea when we are and when we aren't... umm.. baking cakes. To them, knocking is just the courteous thing go do. For another reason, I have always heard that in case of fire, it's safer with the doors closed. I somewhat disagree with this because I kinda feel that if there was a fire and our doors were closed, I wouldn't be able to get to them in time. So, in conclusion, just do whatever works for you. Either way is fine. Whatever you do choose, start early and plan on keeping it that way forever. My kids will NOT sleep with their door open because that's the way it's always been.

Misty - posted on 07/13/2011

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It seems that alot of people have said the same as what i'm going to say. I have always kept my children's doors closed at night. They also leave them closed during the day but only to keep the dog and cat out of their room (little Chihuahua steals small toys and the cat LOVES to purposely knock stuff off of dressers, nightstands, etc.) Anyway, at night, I always keep my bedroom door closed for a couple different reasons. I started this when they were babies because I want my daughters to respect our privacy. I felt that if we "only" closed and locked our doors when we were, ummm, baking cakes (lol).. then they would know exactly what we were doing. So we keep the door closed and locked whenever we're in the bedroom so that way they have no idea when we are and when we aren't... umm.. baking cakes. To them, knocking is just the courteous thing go do. For another reason, I have always heard that in case of fire, it's safer with the doors closed. I somewhat disagree with this because I kinda feel that if there was a fire and our doors were closed, I wouldn't be able to get to them in time. So, in conclusion, just do whatever works for you. Either way is fine. Whatever you do choose, start early and plan on keeping it that way forever. My kids will NOT sleep with their door open because that's the way it's always been.

Amy - posted on 07/09/2011

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We have always closed our daughter's door for fire safety. She did go through a phase where she wanted it open a little, but otherwise I close it.

Amanda - posted on 07/06/2011

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i have kept my daughters door closed since she moved into her own room at 3.5mnths old. we have 2 dogs that would either pester her or want to sleep in her room with her and she is a light sleeper so the dogs "puppy dreams" wake her up at night. maybe when she is older we will keep her door open. we have a monitor and it is always on when she is sleeping.

Dani - posted on 07/06/2011

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i always have closed my daughters door, i have a sensor monitor... i find she sleeps better as it cuts out noise and light ect. I live in England.

Megan - posted on 07/05/2011

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I have always closed the door to my daughters room, our house is average size and noises really carry throughout pretty well, plus we have a monitor for any of her little noises.

Jen - posted on 06/29/2011

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I close my bub's door, have always closed the door.. I am a very light sleeper. I don't see a problem with it.

Jane - posted on 06/17/2011

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We closed the doors because we have cats and it kept the cats out. With a baby monitor it really doesn't matter if the door is open or closed because you can hear what is going on.

Emma - posted on 06/16/2011

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I close my baby's bedroom door as she has a very noisy older brother. I have a baby monitor that I carry around so I can hear when she wakes up and obviously I check on her regularly. It's gonna sound funny but I can hear when she wakes anyway because she starts kicking her legs and that shakes the crib which vibrates on the floor so I can hear it on the living room ceiling :) We're in the UK by the way.

Crystal - posted on 06/16/2011

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I have always closed my girls door and just used a baby monitor they wont go to sleep with the door open and the light would wake them up in the morning plus we have 2cats and they'd be in there meowing and running around through out the night wakeing them up

Angela - posted on 04/11/2010

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We close the door when he goes to bed at night and i open it when we go to bed,other wise he would keep coming out to the lounge. i guess closing the door for him means it's sleep time. I accidently left the front door wide open one hot night and his room is right across from it. We live in a small town in New Zealand and i'ts quite safe to do that here. And the section is fully fenced.

Bri - posted on 04/10/2010

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We have two cats so my daughter's door has always been shut because I didn't want them jumping in the crib at night. It also cuts down on noise. The problem is it get cold in there. We've been wondering if we should try it open one night and see how it goes with the cats. I'm not worried about them smothering her anymore, but they may wake her.

Sunrise - posted on 04/08/2010

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We do not. We're located in the states but this is something I don't believe will benefit my children.

Vicki - posted on 04/05/2010

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Every night. We live in a pretty small apartment, our rooms are like 3 feet from each other. Plus, unless i'm dead to the world asleep, I hear them. It helps keep the noise down to a minimum. It works for us.

Rachel - posted on 03/28/2010

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i keep my 18month old daughters door closed while shes sleeps but when i go to bed i crack it open and put a baby gate up so our cat cant get in there and wake her up. but i live in a little apt and even if i forget to open her door b4 i go to bed i can still hear her when she makes the slightest noises.

Reissa - posted on 03/25/2010

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I close the door to keep out noise that might wake her and my cat and dog. I use her baby monitor so I can hear her in the night.

Debbie - posted on 03/25/2010

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We close the door when she's napping so that the dog doesn't shake in the hallway and wake her up. That and we have a super loud family (living with the inlaws sucks) and most of the time they don't care that she's taking a nap or trying to sleep at night. One of us is usually in the room with her anyway (she sleeps in our room but has her own bed) and doing something. If I'm home and I'm in the room with her, I'm usually working on making tutus, bows/clips and other things.

Danielle - posted on 03/25/2010

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my sons room does not have a door. if it did i prob would close it all the way except for a little opening. doors are supposed to be kept closed in case of fire.

Sue - posted on 03/25/2010

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ALWAYS ALWAYS keep your babys door closed! this could save their life if there was a house fire at night. Use a monitor if you fell the need. Also remember if there is a fire LEAVE the babies door closed if you can it's a difficult one though! we just had a talk at our childrens centre from the fire brigade they showed a film af a house fire where the nursery door was left closed and the effect was amazing, the babies cot was left soot free whilst the rest of the house was destroyed. Please think about it x

Kelli - posted on 03/24/2010

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Yes, I always close Sunshine's door. Her room is too close to the living room, and she would never sleep if it were open.

Nicole - posted on 03/23/2010

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Yep, pretty much always keep his door shut during nap/nighttime. There are times when I leave it cracked. I live in a condo and can hear him talking or crying if he wakes up. (I'm from USA)

Michelle - posted on 03/23/2010

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During the day his door is open so he has free roam of the house, but at naptimes and bedtime the door is shut. he's one that will wake up at the slightest noise, so it's kind-of a must. although right now the newborn (1 month old)is in there too as we're trying to get him used to noise and get both of them used to sleeping in the same room. I do always have the baby monitor on, cranked as high as it will go, glued to my hip or right by my head when laying down, so i don't worry much. with the baby in there i do go in and check on them quite often at night. also i've got a waterfall cd that plays to help drown out the noise from outside his room, so i know that the monitor is working just fine and don't have to worry about if it quiet cause they're sleeping or if it's quiet cause the monitors gone out...

Gemika - posted on 03/23/2010

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Australia. Ds sleeps with us and we close and lock all doors at night. On the rare instance that he has slept in another room part of the night we kept both doors open (ours and his) so that we could hear him and knew he was safe. Safety is one of the many reasons that we choose to cosleep. We know where he is, and we know he is safe. No chance of monitors not working or other things

Joslyn - posted on 03/23/2010

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I close my daughter's door during naps and at night. #1, she is a light sleeper, #2 the more important reason is because if you have a fire in your house, it spreads quicker when doors are open, if doors are closed it takes a lot longer for the fire to spread, and would take a lot longer for smoke inhalation too.

Courtney - posted on 03/22/2010

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We keep our daughter's door closed all the time, but we still use a monitor and we have a cat. We don't want the cat making herself comfortable in Kaytlyn's room..that's her space. The cat has her own (along with the rest of the house). When she's a little older and can play in her room unsupervised and can come wake us up without getting into everythin in our room, we'll leave the door open.

Amanda - posted on 03/22/2010

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I close his door during the day with nap times because I'm in the other room and able to get to him if anything happens, but at night we always leave it open. It's a fire hazard to close the door all the way, so everyone keeps their door open at night at my house. =)

Laura - posted on 03/22/2010

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I always close my daughter's door when she sleeps and eventually gave up on the moniter cuz i can hear just about every sound she makes anywhere in our house. We did it at first to keep the cat out of her room, but now its mostly to keep it dark and quiet.

Katrina - posted on 03/22/2010

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I ALWAYS close my son's door.. This is mainly due to the fact that he is getting close to climbing out of his crib, and his bedroom is at the top of the steps. But we always keep the baby monitor on.

Natasha - posted on 03/22/2010

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I'm in England. The mornings are getting lighter earlier as are the evenings so having a dark room helps our sons body clocks adjust. Also we have cats so unless we don't mind our sons having furry hot water bottles in their cots the doors stay shut :o)

Terri - posted on 03/21/2010

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We close our daughters door at 18months, we also have a monitor and her room is just across the hall so I can hear her at night

Ivonne - posted on 03/20/2010

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I always close the door, but I also have a monotor in my room so I can hear her every sound.....if I didn't have one...I would definitly leave the door open

Sara - posted on 03/19/2010

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I live in Germany and here it is a normal thing to close doors well unless the child cant sleep with the door closed.. my daughter's room is right next to our bedroom and the walls are very thin here so i can even hear her snore ..

Nicole - posted on 03/19/2010

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I always close my son door it keep the noise out and thats why we have baby monitors people to hear when there something wrong.

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I don't close my daughter's door all the way, if at all. I have a monitor for times I'm in the basement tending to laundry and such. I like her to be able to get out of her room if she needs to. Plus I can hear her at night even without the monitor.

Karin - posted on 03/19/2010

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During the day if hes napping i shut his dorr so i can vacuum or do housework. It makes alot of noise and it helps him wake up less. I also chekc up on him every 15 min or so to make sure hes ok. At night i keep our bedroom door open and his in case there is an emergency. And it makes me feel better and its easier for me to hear him. I will probably keep doing that for a couple years until he can open the door himself.

Erika - posted on 03/19/2010

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Absolutely! I have a 9 yr old and a 6 1/2 yr old, both loud boys, if I didn't close the door to his room, he'd never sleep. All of the kids doors are closed at night and ours is open and I have no problem ever hearing the baby.

Tina - posted on 03/19/2010

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I only close it halfway at night. His room is upstairs and we use a child's gate. We also still use a monitor b/c of the distance (he is 18 months). This way when he gets up of the morning, he can go find his brothers or toys. Nap time is different. He will stay of the bed if the door is closed but keeps getting up if it is open. He calls when he wakes up. I never closed it all the way with the other two b/c they would hear it open and close and wake up. I see no problem with it as long as you aren't using it to keep the child "trapped" from being under your feet. Of course with the room upstairs, mine is always downstairs into everything except for naptime.

Cheryl - posted on 03/18/2010

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I wouldn't worry, I'm from Australia and I have never closed my baby's door. She was bout 14 months before I took the monitor out, cause I was afraid I wouldn't hear her.
Everyone has their thing and whatever makes you comfortable.

Sheri - posted on 03/18/2010

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I always shut the door as well, and i have baby monitors all over the house. She is a light sleeper otherwise.

Suzanne - posted on 03/18/2010

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Most American's have baby monitors and live in considerably larger houses (sq ft) than other parts of the world. So even if the door was open I still couldn't hear our child because his room is so far away so it makes no difference. That is why we use monitors!

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I keep the door shut during naps, and at night. I have no problem hearing her if I'm upstairs. If I go downstairs I use the baby monitor.

Sylvie - posted on 03/18/2010

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My son did not like his door closed and for my daughter it has always been closed. Since we have relocated they have to share a room and the door is always closed to keep the cat out and noise. we live in an apartment so hearing them is not a problem. The doors are always closed here and there. my daughter likes to get into everything so i have to close everything.

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