potty training

Sophia - posted on 12/22/2009 ( 29 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 15 months....is it to soon to try potty training????

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Sara - posted on 12/30/2009

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My Dr says the same thing. In 1902 the question was "Is it ok to wait until 2 WEEKS old to start potty training?" In 1920, it was "Is it ok to start potty training at 2 months?" In the 1940's whe Pampers were created the maker of Pampers said it was ok to wait until 18 months to start potty training. He wanted to make more money. So why in just 100 years has our potty training changed so much? The creation of disposable diapers, use of daycares, and mothers working outside of the home. We have gotten lazy because of convenience items. So, the question is are we harming our kids by doing this? Probably not. But we are making it more expensive, and harder to train our kids as the become acustomed to wearing diapers instead of using the potty.

Just some interesting history that really made me start ot think different about how we do stuff.

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Sara - posted on 01/08/2010

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Yes, I use rubber pants over top. Other than online the cheapest place I can find them is Babies "R" Us. I think tho as spring gets here I will put her in dresses w/o anythng and head outside for the day (minus nap when I will use a diaper).

Jennifer - posted on 01/07/2010

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my 15m old girl. I bought her a pink potty that makes music with pee...for the last few months when she wake and right before bed I say lets go potty. all through the day I ask her if she has poop diaper. Last week in the morning I took her diaper off and put her on her potty. She jumped off and I put her back on a couple of times. While she stood up she started to pee then I sat her on the potty and she fussed a little and then started to pee and the music went off and her eyes got big. I gave her some praise and we were off. She did this again the next morning but she now cries and fusses about sitting on the toilet. So I decided to give it a break...=(...I might try the cloth diapers at home and see what happens.

For those moms doing the cloth diapers, do you just put one of those plastic covers over so the pants don't get wet, otherwise that is a lot of laundry..

Sara - posted on 01/07/2010

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Jacqueline thanks for letting us know it is possible! And you are right about their brains being sponges!!!

Jacqueline - posted on 01/07/2010

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My daughter is 15 months old and I am only 20! But i know that infants brains are like sponges. My daughter can put her socks on and pull her pants up. Tells me when she needs to go potty and EVERYTHING! You just have to keep on it, we started at 12 months and its going great still! Start by teaching her how to pull her pants up, let her know what a dirty diaper is(while its on) that jazz and give a gift (i use colorful stickers) when she hears that little bit of tinkle in the potty! Patients too.... Thats the MAIN KEY TO POTTY TRAINING!!! good luck. also girls are easier to potty train then boys!

Jessica - posted on 01/05/2010

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We will each do what we think is best, but for my daughter Jordan...she started showing an interest in what I was doing on the toilet a couple weeks before her first birthday, so I let her see what was happening. After only a few days she started wanting to help flush the toilet, wash her hands too,etc. So we got her a potty seat for her birthday and every time I go sit on the toilet she sits on hers too. Our bathroom is on the first floor, living room and bedrooms on second, so we don't rush to the bathroom for safety's sake when she points to her diaper. But, she lets us know most of the time when she has gone in her diaper and if we are heading downstairs or already down there I put her on the potty and put the poop from the diaper in the toilet. She waves bye to it and flushes. To each their own ;)

Alison - posted on 01/02/2010

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I agree with training when you little one seems interested and ready. Likely when they are able to somehow communicate the need to go. Otherwise, I think the only one who is being trained is the parent.

Danielle - posted on 01/01/2010

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We too got a potty chair for Mylie for Christmas. We aren't forcing the issue. She was pointing to her diaper and trying to get it off and going to the potty anfd telling us "potty" Doc said if she was using her words to tell us then she was able to comprehend and we should at least try. She goes #1 on the potty between 1-3 times a day for the last few days since we introduced it.

Jenna - posted on 12/31/2009

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I'm not going to try to convince you in either direction. But I will tell you, I got Caitie a potty chair for Christmas. :) Not going to start potty learning full-time, but to get her used to the idea of the potty (so she'll figure out it's not a toy, haha).

Lilly - posted on 12/31/2009

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Quoting Kristin2:

I guess then too it would depend on if we are homemakers vs. working moms. Unless we have a great babysitter that knows the signs as well.


When I did this with my son I was a working mom, and he was in Daycare for the majority of the day.  i requested they change him EVERY hour, and then when I was home with him we practiced.  That's why I so fully believe that it is us that need to be trained.  If I had been at home I would have been able to better fill his needs.  But if you do have a great babysitter you can teach them the signs.   I also used cloth diapers at home so he could immediately feel the wetness, and he let us know if we missed one of his cues!  

Jennifer - posted on 12/31/2009

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We have just started with our son. He loves his potty chair and doesn't mind sitting on it. We started with just going after meals and naps, and now if we ask him if he wants to go potty, he will say uh huh when he wants to go. We bought the training pants, and he gets to wear those as a reward when he goes in the potty. No poop yet, but that will come with time. It just takes some dilligence and patience, and I refuse to buy diapers until he's four just because I'm lazy or he's a boy.

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I guess then too it would depend on if we are homemakers vs. working moms. Unless we have a great babysitter that knows the signs as well.

Lilly - posted on 12/31/2009

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Quoting Caryn:

Honestly I think it is dumb to want to potty train your 14/15/16mo old. 9 times out of 10 a child that young is no where near ready to train and trying before they are ready is just setting up for failure on your part.
I see this every day with my neice who lives with us. She just turned 2yrs on Dec 21 and my SIL is trying to train her. She isn't quite ready and its causing Chloe (my neice) to become very frustrated. When I babysit Chloe I never ask her to go potty, I know shes not ready and I refuse to push the issue.


I am in complete agreement with Sara Smith.  You see, we have become lazy in our culture.  Babies know right from birth when they have to eliminate, and they give us signs like squirming, crying, fussing, etc. but most people don't pay attention to those signs- they say things like "I don't know what's wrong with her right now" while leaving the baby in a wet diaper.  The baby then learns to IGNORE that feeling of needing to eliminate, and is taught to go on themselves.  That is why we then have to "train" them to go on the potty.  Whereas if we paid attention to our little baby when she/he was crying we would learn the cues of that particular child and get them where they need to go to eliminate.  I did this with my two youngest, and I wasn't the best at it, maybe part time, but by 12 months my son was in underwear (we then had a set back with circumstances in our home, which then put him off a couple more months).  By 9 months old my daughter was crawling to the bathroom and pulling on her potty chair.  I don't believe they have to know how to pull their pants up/down, or verbally say "I have to pee," YOU just have to be able to pay close enough attention to the child to read the signs they are giving you.  My kids are also excellent communicators because they know that we pay attention and listen to their needs.  Sorry to put it so blatantly, but whats DUMB is thinking that these little miracles don't know they have to eliminate.  We have to change how WE do things, in order to help them progress in this world. 

Lilly - posted on 12/31/2009

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My daughter is 15 months and is in underwear at home. She still has misses (we don't call them accidents because that implies that she did something she is not supposed to do.)but for the most part she makes it to the potty. My son who is now 2 yr old was in underwear at 19 months. It is possible, you just have to be committed, pay attention, and most important BE PATIENT! Look at diaperfreebaby.com for more suggestions, I have a diaper free book that I read and implemented when my son was a new born, so we did the same with my daughter and it has been amazing!!! I ONLY use pull ups for night time and when we are going somewhere for an extended period of time. Good luck, and have fun with this, it is an exciting time for your daughter!!!

Karlicia - posted on 12/31/2009

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Hey Sophia I was wondering the same thing because my daughter is also 15 months and takes her own diaper off and uses the bathroom on my floor and cleans it up with whatever she can find to wipe it. She also runs and hide when she is doing the number 2. What can we do? When is the right time???

Nancy - posted on 12/31/2009

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I am the mother of 4 wonderful children. My oldest (a girl) was very advanced in almost all ways. At 14 months she told me she wanted to go potty in the chair. (we had had the chair since she was like 12 months) She was completely trained poopy too by 16 months when we made a cross country trip to see my parents. I put her in a pull up but she would just sit in the back seat and cry until we stopped at a toilet. My 2nd child was trained by 2 and 1/2. He wasn't interested until after 2. My 3rd was pee trained by 2 1/2 but poop took him almost until 4. He just didn't get it. I am hoping my 15 month old shows interest soon. I think they are all different and you can't force the subject. He noticed he was peeing the other dasy when I was running bath water. It was so cute because he looked down and watched and made it stop when it shocked him.

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I was told by a mother of 4 that if they show interest put them on the toilet and if they go great if not no big deal. She has her kids trained before they are 2. Other mothers have told me they bought their kids potty chairs and had the kids eating on them to get them used to using them. I think the most important thing is not to get frustrated with the situation because I had a friend that did that a lot and her kid is almost 3 and still having issues going.

Megan - posted on 12/30/2009

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i believe that if you give your child the tools and help them figure things out they will let you know when the time is right. With a little nudge of course.

Julie - posted on 12/30/2009

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My son is 15 months, and we've been planning to get him a potty chair pretty soon to start him getting used to it, but not really doing any "formal training." But I thought I would just share this since it just happened this evening...

My son seemed to suddenly realize in his bath tonight that he has some control over his urination. He accidentally turned on the shower which made a lot of noise and scared him, so he lost control and peed a little bit. He stopped and looked down, and then peed again. He lost interest at that point, but then a few minutes later stood up, looked down, and peed again. I think it's so much fun to watch them learning new things like that, and it's sign that he's getting closer to being ready to potty train.

Jenn - posted on 12/30/2009

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I believe you should start whenever they start getting interested in what it means to go potty. My oldest daughter(now 2 1/2) has been using the potty for almost 8 months now and my youngest(15 months) is becoming interested by watching her sister. She sits on her potty whenever Lily goes to the bathroom, i don't see it being wrong to start training at 15 months...

Sara - posted on 12/30/2009

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If they can't control it then why are 90% of the world's kids completely potty trained by 6 months old? Just thinking there must be some flaw in the research we are being fed. That is the same thing I have been told for years, too, being in Child care settings since I was 15. I am still trying to figure it all out! I enjoy the discussions just to see what others are thinking as well.

Caryn - posted on 12/30/2009

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To the girls that said to wait till 18mo. I don't agree with this either. Yes at that age your child understands things easier but most children aren't physically ready (meaning they can't hold "it" if needed) until 2.5years.

Caryn - posted on 12/30/2009

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Honestly I think it is dumb to want to potty train your 14/15/16mo old. 9 times out of 10 a child that young is no where near ready to train and trying before they are ready is just setting up for failure on your part.
I see this every day with my neice who lives with us. She just turned 2yrs on Dec 21 and my SIL is trying to train her. She isn't quite ready and its causing Chloe (my neice) to become very frustrated. When I babysit Chloe I never ask her to go potty, I know shes not ready and I refuse to push the issue.

Heidi - posted on 12/30/2009

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From the research I have read, a child does not have the ability to control their 'poopy' until 18 months. So, it may be a good idea to get them used to the potty and maybe even tinkle on it. I have noticed that many babies pee during or right after a bath so that may be a good time to sit her on there and try.

Nickie - posted on 12/29/2009

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My daughter is 15 months as well, but I never really thought about training her on the potty yet. My doctor told me that by at least 18 months she should start to comprehend things and understand stuff, so I figured I would wait until then at least. I don't want to push her since she usually gives me indications when she's ready for changes and progressions. Why rush it if your child hasn't shown the interest in it? However, if they do show signs of interest, I say give it a shot!
Good luck!

Sara - posted on 12/28/2009

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I used to think that you had to meet a few of the "readiness" signs until I began doing some research. The US is one of the few countries in the world that does NOT have their children potty trained by the age of 9-12 months (many as soon as 6 months). I know it sounds crazy! I started asking around to see what older women thought about htis. I found that most women who were moms in the early part of the 20th century had their kids potty trained by 1 yr old. It really is not about "holding" it but, not wnting to feel wet. Try putting your child in a cloth diaper and see if they respond. Most likely they will not like the feeling. Keep taking them to the potty every 30-40 minutes. Lengthen the time as they learn to go to the potty by themselves. I can potty tain most kids in 2 weeks (between 18-24 months). Let em go with out a diaper (put pants/socks on to help absorb the wetness when they do wet. They will quickly learn to go to the potty and go because they don't want to be wet. The earlier you start the more attention the parent must pay to their child's "signs". Older kids can tell you they need to go, little ones can sign to you. Even a nine month old can crawl to the potty and wait for you to take off their pants. I have yet to start my 15 month old. But we do sit her on the potty and change her often so she is not as used to feeling wet.

Emily - posted on 12/23/2009

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Every child is different and so is every mother. And I've heard girls are easier so maybe starting at 15 months will be fine. My son is 3 1/2 and we still haven't been about to get him trained (after trying for the last 8 months), while my 15 month old daughter sees the potty and sits on it already, like she knows what to do with it. For me personally, though, 15 months seems young. I'm going to wait until she's at least 18 months.

Sunrise - posted on 12/23/2009

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This is my soap box copies from a previous thread: IMO- to be successful at potty training you need for the child to be able to do a few basic things. Being able to hold “it” when the urge to go happens. To recognize they need to go and be able to effectively communicate the need to go. To be able to undress and dress themselves when using the facilities and the ability to wash their hands (because teaching them this habit from early on is very important for personal hygiene).

If your LO can do these basic tasks then your way ahead of the curve! Otherwise I am of the mindset that you should not push them to early, this often leads to anxiety for them when it comes to potty learning and unrealistic expectations can cause you stress as well.

Best of luck.

Alisha - posted on 12/22/2009

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I don't know for sure. If you feel comfortable enough, there's nothing wrong with giving it a try. I've been trying on and off for about 2 months now. She's 15 months, but just doesn't seem interested in sitting on the potty yet. My visiting nurse told me that if she starts to try and take off her pamper everytime she tinkles or more, than it might be a good time to start. But my daughter doesn't do anything. She seems comfy with her wet diapers for now. So, I think I'll give it another month or two and start trying again.

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