Potty Training

Alicia - posted on 02/23/2010 ( 30 moms have responded )

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How soon is too soon to start potty training? And how do you get them to understand how to do it?

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C - posted on 02/23/2010

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Some kids are ready this early, but most aren't until colser to two. If you start too soon you are only training yourself or setting everyone up for a longer, more frustrating transistion. Summer time is coming up and that is a great time to do it since they can just be in undies and not freeze :) Signs they are getting ready are telling after they mess their diapers, even better is if they tell before they go. If they can hold their pee. You may notice their diaper stays drier longer then is suddenly wet. Or they can stop mid stream if they are naked and start going. They should be on table foods so they have more "normal" instead of gushy baby poo. Drinking regularly from a cup. The physical capabilities of taking pants on/off. (They won't be good at it, but the effort counts) Verbal (or sign) communication so they can tell you when they need to go and you know they understand you. I'm sure I've forgottens something....

Jessica - posted on 02/28/2010

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You are so right on the starting to soon thing. I started pushing my son at 18 months to be potty trained. He had the signs they say to look for. However, he fought me the whole way. At two I finally backed off. We were both so frustrated. Finally at 30 months, he just started going. It took me 3 days to have him completely potty trained. It was a breeze! My daughter (18months) is now showing the signs (saying pee pee and pulling off her diaper when wet) however, I know this time around to let them initiate it and not push!

Jamie - posted on 02/27/2010

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I learned from my now 3 year old that starting early doesn't do anything to get them there quicker. It really is when they start showing interest that they'll start to learn anything. We started sitting her on a potty at 13 months and even though we got her to pee a few times here and there, she wasn't potty trained till 2 1/2.

Nikki - posted on 02/27/2010

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It's important to distinguish what is actually potty training, and what is just aspect of EC.



We've all heard the parents who have their children 'potty trained' by 12 months, but it is very very rare that a baby as young as 12 ,months fully comprehends that they have had a bowel or bladder movement, and that it needs to be done in a certain place i.e potty.

What a LOT of parents do, is confuse potty training with aspect of Elimination Communication.

EC means that you eliminate the need for a nappy, by learning the cues your baby that they are about to have a movement, where as potty training the child needs to full understand that they are having the movement, not just show signs they are about to do one.



So picking up little 14 month old Johnny just in the nick of time and placing him on the potty to poop is definitely not hurting him...but he's also not learning anything from it either. Really, the only people being trained by that are the parents, as they are learning when their babies need to go, the babies are not learning much at all.



I personally bought out the potty for my son to familiarize himself with just this month, at 17 months old, but I don't expect him to actually start potty training any time soon, he just has no idea just yet.

All babies do develop very differently, and at different rates, but for a baby to be fully aware of their bowel and bladder movements, and understand that they need to be done on a potty, before 15 months is pretty Ripley's believe or Not.

Cristen - posted on 02/24/2010

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My toddler was ready kind of early. "They" say that earlier than 18 months is only setting yourself up for disaster, but every child shows signs of readiness at a different time. DD tells me when she needs to go "pee pee" and we are working on "poo poo". She has been constipated since birth so I have anticipated more problems with that aspect... however she does always go into or near the bathroom when she has a BM now, so I think she is really associating the bathroom with going potty. I read somewhere to start changing their diapers in the bathroom too so they start to associate everything in the same category.

I think the key is to work with your child according to their personal readiness. Not all children are going to be ready at 18 months, some will get ready sooner, some will be later. Trying to press the issue will make matters worse if the child is not ready. HOWEVER I also believe that NOT potty training your child when they are showing obvious signs of readiness will also make the whole process harder when you do finally decide to go through with it. It's a daunting task but it's our job to do so it shouldn't be put off until it is convenient, JMO.

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Stephanie - posted on 08/17/2011

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I agree with Nikki about distinguishing b/w potty training and EC. I am a strong advocate of putting your child on the toilet as soon as they are able to sit up (around 3-4 months). We started my son around 8 months. But I would only call that potty training in the sense that he associated going to the bathroom with sitting on the toilet. He didn't really know he had to go. It was more training for the parent at that point. But the association is an important one. As long as we took him regularly, he wouldn't have any accidents. It's actually easier to "poop" while sitting.

Deborah - posted on 03/03/2010

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My son started walking at 10 months old so was too soon to start potty training i felt. But he will get it and i am surew he will let me know when he is ready, my daughter was 18 months and said no more nappies and that was it for her (she got it straight away but wanted to wear nickers like her big cousin Brooke so was easier i guess)

Destiny - posted on 03/03/2010

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Wow, so much advice. My baby girl is almost 18 months and I've been thinking about when to start potty training. She hasn't shown any signs yet really at all, so I don't think she's ready yet. When I bring her in to the bathroom and sit her on her potty chair, she sits for a second then hops right back up. (I can't tell if the seats cold or what the deal is) She'll play with the removable bowl and not really be interested at all in "using" the potty or really even sitting on it for longer than a second. It's just a very basic potty, do you think one with a cushy seat might be better? And also what toddler books about going potty could anyone recommend that my daughter may like? Thank you!

Joy - posted on 03/03/2010

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I researched that it is not actually whether THEY are ready themselves but whether their bodies are ready. I read that toddlers should have full bladder control before trying to potty train which means nappies should become drier and drier and that you should base the right time on when you see a change in how wet and how often nappies are wet. The average age is 3. This is just based on what I read. My son is 18 months old and I am just starting with teaching him the difference between wet and dry by allowing him to wear little undies some of the day. He comes to me when he has done a pee and says "wet". Im happy with that untill he has more bladder control. good luck with whatever you choose to do.

Ashley - posted on 03/02/2010

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i started potty training when my son started walking. i brought him into the bathroom every time i had to go. id sit him on his potty chair and say go potty. but he would only poo he wont pee on the potty.... so now we are working on that part. and now every time he needs to go he goes to the bathroom door and points.

Deborah - posted on 03/02/2010

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My Daughter was fully toilet trained at 18 months morning and night and has never had a accident (she is now 5) My son is nearly 18 months old and i don't feel he is ready for toilet training just yet. We put him on the potty and he makes sounds like he is peeing but when we see him pushing and take him to the potty he says no no no and gets upset. I just sit him on the potty and we sing songs etc so hopefully he will get used to the idea of sitting on it if we make it fun

Jennifer - posted on 03/01/2010

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I spent three years working with toddlers in a child care center and part of my job involved potty training. Most of the children potty trained somewhere between 2 and 3 years old with some exceptions. They need to be socially and emotionally mature enough to be successful. I do not reccomend just "catching" then at their regular times and placing them on the toilet. This might become confusing and they still might not be ready to train. However, I am now home with my own 17 month old and we have stopped changing her diaper on the diaper table and now do it in the bathroom to get her used to the fact that the bathroom is the place where this occurs. I also reccomend allowing your child to see you using the bathroom regularly and if your child is a boy and you have a father figure in your life, showing them how men go to the bathroom is important too. Reading books and talking about the toilet and what is appropriate is also important. My 17 month old has occaisionally told me "poop" or "pee" and then done so on the potty. I believe she is beginning to feel the sensations, but I don't think she is ready to go without diapers any time soon. I will probably really start training this summer if she is still interested. Training means, no more onsies or outfits that she cannot take off by herself in a hurry. Easy clothes are a must. Look at potty training as a transition. Just like learning to walk there are steps that occur in an order and if you child cannot pull down their own pants or use any words then it may be too soon to start trying. On the other hand, if your child doesn't like to be messy and can dress him/herself with minimal help, then listen to your child's signs and don't worry about a specific "time" to train. Make sure that the whole family is ready and don't do it during a stressful time for your family as this will only make it worse. Transitions, like new additions to the family, may pose some set backs. Relax, don't stress and make it fun. There are a lot of fun books and songs that your toddler might love to help with the process. Good Luck!

Cindi - posted on 03/01/2010

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my son is almost 18 months and he watches his cousin whos 28 months use the potty so now hes starting to sit on it but thats all he will do. My nephew at 28 months has only been using the potty for 3 weeks now and still wears the diaper to bed. my other nephew wasnt potty trained till 3 years. i heard its harder for a boy and the average is between 2 and 3 years

Nicole - posted on 02/28/2010

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Our daughter became very intrigued with going potty on the "big potty" at about a year so we got her a potty and let her sit on it when she wanted and she would go in about once a day. Then we got her a little pink Dora seat that fits on the big potty which she loved even more and she would go on it when we put her on it. She is good about telling us when she has to poopy but not so much when she has to pee. She was doing great at potty training and then she got a bad stomach virus for over a week and it all kind of went out the window so we are back to square 1. Anyway, I recommend getting a potty seat that fits onto the big potty. I know it made Ryleigh feel like a big girl. Also, if you get a seat with their favorite characters, that may get them more interested too. I think the biggest thing is PATIENCE and if you're starting this early, don't expect quick results!

Ann Marie - posted on 02/27/2010

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I have started my son around 15 months. Not something I'm really pushing but have introduced it. He goes every morning and sometimes during the day. Just started training pants and he now says TEE-TEE when he wants to go. Once they are hiding to poop or pulling their diaper when dirty or napping without peeing I think there ready. My oldest was fully trained by 18 months.

Audrey - posted on 02/27/2010

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I've always heard that its better to use the potty seat on a regular toliet than a little potty, sometimes it can be hard transitioning. We bought a potty seat and started sitting her on it before every bath because when the water runs she pee's, we also are using "potty candy" (hurshey kisses) when she does go. She doesn't usually tell us when she has to go, but every once and awhile she will go into the bathroom and try to put her seat on the toliet so we take that as a hint, sometimes she goes and sometimes not, but it's getting her used to it!

Jacinta - posted on 02/27/2010

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Hi my little girl is 18mths old. i was told (by dear MIL) that i should start potty training her.. but the truth of the matter is she is just not ready. She prefers to play with her pottty!! i think that each child is individual and u will know when ur little one is ready.. they might start pulling at their nappy or squatting when they wee. Good luck!

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My 'RockStar' is 18months (Turns 18 on the 5th of March) and have just started toilet training him about 2 months ago. We have set a routine to sit on the potty; 4-5 times a day - Mornings after brush. Mid-Day, mid-afternoons, evenings and night. This has helped the pooing discipline. But the peeing still is pretty random. So the diaper/pampers are still on. However the 4-5 times a day sitting on the potty is getting him into some kind of routine. And on rare occasions, even encouraging him to point to the toilet or potty when he wants to go. Everytime we change his diaper/pamper we tell him "please tell mumma when u want to go, say mumma pee pee" needless to say he always gives his big smiles acknowledging the request. But dutifully returns to his ways equally fast. But I guess patience and routines have helped in stage 1. stage 2 will hopefully be equally easy. All the best!

Johanna - posted on 02/26/2010

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I guess it all depends, My daughter was already potty trained by the time that she was my son's age. That is because I would put her potty in front of the toilet and I would take her with me every time that I would go. We would sit there together. I would also remove her diaper and have her where little undies in the house. It's easier for them to realize they have wet themselves with out the diaper on.

Adrienne - posted on 02/26/2010

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My son is 17 months old and pulls at his diaper when it needs to be changed. He then says "diaper" and starts to walk to his room. This is after the fact, but he is telling us. I was told by someone that boys do better when started at the regular toilet, with something to stand on. Has anyone else heard this? We have the training potty, but have not brought it out yet. I tried to let him stand at the big toilet and he just screamed. We have not tried that again, yet.

Elisa - posted on 02/25/2010

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My son tells me when he is doing a wee or poo he says yucky usually he has a potty and i put him on it regularly he has done one or two wee's in the potty so far

Amanda - posted on 02/24/2010

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Cristen, You said in the above response that your daughter DD, has been constipated since birth.?. Try giving her a cup of prune juice in the mornings. I had the same problem with my oldest daughter. She had to have it every morning or she wouldn't have a BM at all that day! It fixed her right on up! Its the same thing my mother did for my older brothers when they were babies.

Vernita - posted on 02/24/2010

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i started as soon as my son started walking at 11 months...not really hardcore training mainly just getting him use to siting on it opening and closing. He went everytime i went and i got everyone in house to do the same. Now hes 17 months tomm and he pees and poops every morning in potty and pees every once in awhile thru out the day so consistently in the morning but not through out the day dont want him to regress backwards....i would start when your comfortable

Stephanie - posted on 02/24/2010

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They will show you signs when there ready, my son it starting to pull at his diaper and walks to the bathroom when he has to go. The most commen sign is hiding when the poop and pee.

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My son is almost 17 months and we started last month. He recognizes poo poo and he tells me when he has gone in his diaper or is currently going in his diaper. If I catch him pushing, I say" I see you are going poo poo, let's go try on the Elmo potty" But, I have friends with children the same age and who were slower to develop their verbal and motor skills (my son walked at 8.5 months while my friend's son, the same age, walked at 15 months) so they are not ready to start trying. My pediatrician says most boys will not be potty trained until 36 months so don't push it. I think every child develops differently and at different speeds and only you can know when you think they are ready.

Natalie - posted on 02/24/2010

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Ok... with my 1st born, I started potty training when she was 2... she ddn' get it right away, but I noticed that she always pooped at the very same time every night... and peeing was pretty routine for her as well! So, when the time came, I would sit her in HER potty and she would go... there were the occassional accidents, but for the most part it went very smooth! With my second daughter, she saw what her sister was doing and wanted to do it as well (they're 11 months apart). It took her a while longer (She 4 now and she still wre's pull ups to sleep). You justhave to be very patient whil potty training! My youngrer two (ages 2 & 1) I have ye to potty train, mostly because I'm not ready... but the 2 year old is definitely ready... you'll notice that they start telling you when they're dirty...Also, if you have a potty already...they like to sit on it to experiment...hope this helps, and good luck!!!

Amanda - posted on 02/24/2010

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I usually dont start until they are almost 2yrs old. However, I will buy and show them the potty around 17-18 mos. Another thing to do is when you change them make sure you say " You went pee-pee in your diaper" or " you went poo-poo in your diaper" and repeat it over and over while you change them. That way it is easier for them to understand " pee-pee in the potty!" ect. when the time comes. Even if they dont understand now, they will eventually make the connection! I hope this helped!!!

Jennifer - posted on 02/23/2010

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They need to understand when they are wet or poopy, and notice it. We just got our 18 month old a small potty, for warming her up to it - but we don't expect to start training her until the end of summer,closer to her 2nd birthday. (We have our 2nds baby due in June and I don't want to be struggling with training until we've got somewhat of a routine down with the baby)

Joyce - posted on 02/23/2010

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My mom told me to bring him/her to the potty every 1-2hrs to pee. My girl knows what a potty is for already, but still hasnt learn to tell us when she pee/poo. However, occasionally, she'll point to her diapers & say "Poo-poo.". potty training can be quite tiring, but dont give up! Gd luck! :)

Dorothea - posted on 02/23/2010

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my son is 17 1/2 mnths old. im not starting to potty train yet. but he goes to the potty[#2] in his diaper in the same spot. so we bought a potty for him and put him in that spot. so he can start associating{sp} potty with bathroom. we can ask him where his potty is and he will go right to the potty and squat, but thats it.

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