what is a good age to add another baby into the picture?

Emily - posted on 12/22/2009 ( 14 moms have responded )




my boyfriend and I have an 15 month old we have been talking about haveing another baby... but as of right now we live in my mothers house because we moved to davenport from burlington so my boyfriend could get a better job which he has done.... so in feb. after taxes we are going to look for a place we have been but..... we have 3 dogs and tons of tool so its hard finding a house to rent in are price range with everything we need too.......

I want 4 kids but I have been thinking about it and almost feel bad to have another because my 15 months old is still a baby and I dont want to take away from her time with mommie and daddie .... soooo which leads me to my ? what do you guys think would be a good age for my daughter .... when we go to have another baby? and did any other moms feel this way when they were going to have another baby ?


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Christa - posted on 01/18/2010




lol..i'm sorry. I found out i was preggo again when my daughter was a week away from 8 months old. I'm due to get induced in 6 days and still feel like she's my baby and that in just a few days it won't be just us anymore. I don't regret the fact that we're having another one so close. It will be hectic and crazy, but I love the fact that my kids will be close in age and be able to be friends with each other. And i think that no matter what age your daughter is you'll still feel like you'll be taking time away from her. I know plenty of parents who had children years apart from each other and still felt bad when they first found out they were expecting. Only you can know when the time is right for you. It's a personal thing. A lot of people would tell me I was crazy for my two being 16 months apart and then there's people i think are crazy because their kids are 4 years apart. Just rely on your gut feeling. It won't lead you wrong. And enjoy your little girl and your one on one time as much as possible. It's priceless and there won't be a lot of it as she gets older. Remember. We'll be the mean and rediculous and old minded moms one day they'll be embarrassed to say goodbye too at school. :)

Ashley - posted on 01/05/2010




I would wait until your baby is atleast 2. It seems like that is the usual age most people wait. Or under different circumstances until your ready. But if it seems like a good time for you and your boyfriend and yall are both ready for the responsibility for another one then i would say go for it. just make sure you have time for both of them and that your not overwhelming yourself because then that will be what offects your little one.

Janine - posted on 01/05/2010




I am 8 months preggo and my son will be 18 months when our daughter will be born. I am soooooooo nervous about having 2 under 2, but it will be exciting that they're close in age :)

Suzanne - posted on 01/01/2010




Wait until you have your family financially stable in your own home before thinking of having another child. After that it is a personal decision on how you want to space your children. We prefer to space them about 3 years so they are out of diapers and in preschool to give time with the new baby.

Laura - posted on 12/28/2009




We too, have a son 15 mos old and just found out I am pregnant, due in September. Ideally, we would have waited too but I guess since I am no spring chicken, we didn't want to wait much longer to try. It is a very personal decision and it will all work out.

Emily - posted on 12/28/2009




thank you everyone that has commented on this! we has sat down and talked about it and in feb. we are starting up the house hunt again and then after we get moved in we are going to start trying for another baby! thats what we decided on doing! so when the baby comes our daughter will be 2.

Michelle - posted on 12/28/2009




Mine are 12months and 2 days apart and although it was hard I love it they are so close in age that they can do a lot of the same things and enjoy the same toys. On the other hand my brother and I were/are 6 years apart and I hated it. When he was born I was old enough to know that I was an only child and was very jealous of the attention that I lost when he was born. I agree though with the others it is important for you to settle into a place of your own before making a decision. Also I would suggest sitting down with the daddy to be. It is a big deal for him as well and he may have a strong opinion on the situation as well. Good luck. It will all work out in the end.

Lindsay - posted on 12/26/2009




My husband and I are planning to have baby #2 when my daughter is atleast 3 years old. We want our daughter to have switched from the crib to a twin size bed, potty trained and have started nursery school before number 2 joins us!

Theresa - posted on 12/24/2009




I would wait until you find a place of your own. If your preganat and trying to move it's just more stress on the prengnancy. I think it'd be easier if you were settled into your own place. I agree with Sunrise, how do you think your mom will fell if you add anither one to her household. Plus you should be sure you're financially secure before adding more or it will only be more stressful and could cause problems in your relationship with the dad (and possibly your mom).

Erin - posted on 12/24/2009




My son is 15 months and we weren't planning on trying until the spring, but my body had a mind of its own and decided to get pregnant in October. So my children will be 21 months apart. I wanted my kids to be two years apart because my sister and I are 5 years apart and it was difficult growing up together because we were always at different stages.

Tassia - posted on 12/23/2009




I have a 15 month old and expecing my baby in February. I am happy they are so close in age becuase they will be able to grow up together and play together. Plus this baby thing is still fresh in my mind and I can get this thing over with and never do it again!

Sarah - posted on 12/23/2009




We found out we were pregnant with our second last month. Our first son, now 15 months old will only be 22 months old than his baby brother/sister. I have to say, I am quite nervous about having them so close in age, but I also think that it will be good because they will grow up close (I hope). They will also be doing a lot of things clower in age so I'm hoping they will be friends. It wasn't planned this way, we were discussing TRYING in another 4-5 months, but I figure things happen the way they are meant to be and we need to trust that everything will be just fine.

Sunrise - posted on 12/23/2009




Emily, spacing for children is a very personal decision and each person has to weigh their own situations. I had my older two kids 14 months apart and while it had it's cons there were also many pros. I remarried when my older kids were 7&8 and DH and I then had our daughter (Sept baby). I must say I love the spacing between our youngest and older two. They are old enough that they were heavily involved in our pregnancy and are an emmense help now.

If it were me I'd first wait to be setteled into a place of my own. Then evaluate the financial situation. I would ask myself questions like are we financially stable? Do I want my baby to be potty trainned before we add another child so we dont have two in diapers? If I get pg. while living at my moms house how will she feel? DO I want to be married before we add another child?

Those are just some passing thought's I had, best of luck in your decision and have fun TTC if that's the route you go!

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