When/What to consider having another baby...

Lindsay - posted on 01/10/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I know this is really soon after my son was born, but my husband and I definitely want at least one more baby. What should I take into consideration when we discuss this subject? Son's age? Finances? etc...?

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Savannah - posted on 05/15/2011

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I think every person is different and there isn't really a "right" answer. I know my husband and I want kids pretty close in age so we're in the talks of having another one soon. I do go back and forth with the whole thing because I don't want to take attention away from my daughter and I know having two kids under 2 is difficult. There's always pros and cons to every decision. I think as long are you're able to take care of your kids, it's just preference.

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Jennifer - posted on 10/03/2011

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I was just coming on here to post a similar question! We have a 3 year old and a 1 year old and we would like one more, I would like to start trying now, but I don't think we are quite ready (my daughters included) for another, we decided to talk about next summer. Our girls are two years apart and I do think that's a really good age difference. I just love they will have each other to play with, it's like always having a best friend! Haha I;m sure they won't fight at all ;). Goodluck to you!

User - posted on 07/06/2011

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I think it is best to wait at least a year and a half so your body has time to rest and regain nutrients before going through another pregnancy.

Alyssa - posted on 05/31/2011

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When ever your ready. Personally i dont want another for 3-5 years, only because i want to have my son more self dependent so that itd be easier to have a newborn but everyone is different and if you can handle it then go for it!

Rachel - posted on 05/05/2011

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I would wait till your son is 2 or 3 at least. He is still a baby and another child will take precious time away from him. My sister and I are only 12months apart, I had to grow up faster and she didn't get some of the babying she could have if there had been more time.
As far as finances go, there will never be enough money to "afford" another baby. Unless you are living on state assistance then I would really say that if you wait till you can afford it...you will never have another one.

Angela - posted on 02/09/2011

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Well it all just depends on your situation. I just had my daughter in September of 2010,and I would love another baby but I have considered these factors:

-My daughter is just 4 months and I would like to give her All my attention right now.
-I would like to take a break from being pregnant for at least 5 years.
-I would like to be more financially stable than we are now.
-Im a new mom,So im still learning :)

Mandagray88 - posted on 01/19/2011

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My husband and I have talked about this a little bit recently. I think our biggest issues are our son's age and finances. We've come to the conclusion that we'd like for them to be about 2.5 - 3 years apart. Finances are always an issue and we haven't really come up with an decision on that. :)

Lindsay - posted on 01/14/2011

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I'd like to wait until my little one is at least walking but don't want to wait too too long. Thank you for your advice, Fran!
Oh, and I gave up a great career to be a stay-at-home and love it!

Fran - posted on 01/11/2011

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I'd go for age. They need to be close together or far apart! Mine have 5 and have years between them, i couldn't have coped with 2 at home together in nappies etc. But also consider if you work/are taking a career break, i dropped to one day a week till my first was 3, then went back to 3 days, and have dropped back to 1 again, which isn't great for my career in the long run, but i wouldn't have it any other way. Good luck.

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