How do you keep your cool?

Sarah - posted on 02/07/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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How do you manage to keep you cool with a "baby daddy"? Mine likes to be around when its conveinent to him but when I ask for help or get a little snipp after not hearing from him for weeks I become the bad guy. Next thing you know it seems to be WW3. My son is never around it but I just can't deal with it anymore! HELP PLEASE

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Wendy - posted on 06/12/2010

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my exes new wife left my daughter with a male friend of hers agter i told him the only males she was to be left with were family ie. him and my two brothers i dont even allow my mates to leave beth with thier husbands and they both know how i am on this cos i kicked up about the plans they had for beth to be cared for at thier wedding i said unless they could promise me she would not be left by her mother then it was not happening. these days you have to be careful whom you leave your child with and he agrees with this he just does not think it applies to when he has her. in four yrs i have been dating beth has never met anyone i have been seeing and never would i leave her with them anyway. it could take yrs for that sorta trust , dont know till it happens and it has not yet got that far that i have to think of it apart from when she is with her dad. he agrees with what i say but does not follow through when he ahs her and as i see it he is putting her at risk though social services dont see it that way. ggrrrr.

Samantha - posted on 06/12/2010

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i know how you feel, it sucks. my ex had a new girl a week after we broke up and he had her around my daughter and i didnt even know. it sucks. and i still freak at him sometimes.

Wendy - posted on 02/10/2010

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lol join the club, you will have to go to a solicetor and prove he has not been around, they will either take him to court to force visits or remove all visits (rare) or send u both to a mediator to sort out reg visits, if he fails this then court. they are all about keeping dad in the picture now, i know i have to grin and bare it. if i did not know he loved her in his own way id be in court trying to remove his rights to visits , but she loves him no matter what and he does love her he is just useless. so waiting till daughter asks to not see him again when she is older till then smile and walk away.

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