My son (5 years old) is almost impossible to get ready to leave in the morning. He has severe ADHD and his meds have not kicked in yet. Does anyone have any ideas because I am at whits end.

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Meredith - posted on 03/24/2009

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What a challenge!  I'm sorry your having to deal with this, Dawn.  I have a son who was tested for ADHD but didn't have enough of the indicators for a positive diagnosis. YET, we still have issues with his lack of focus/inattentiveness. 



One of the tools I use (developed back when he was seven--he's 12 now) is an illustrated daily routine sheet that lists everything he has to do to get ready in the morning and in the evenings.  He helped me with it, too, so he had a sense of ownership in it.  The AM sheet says, "It's 6:45 AM...Rise and Shine, My Love" and then it lists everything along with a picture:  1.  Get dressed; 2. Put on shoes; 3. PJs in Drawer; 4. Brush teeth; 5. Brush hair; 6. Eat Breakfast; 7. Put dishes in sink; 8. Put on Backpack;  It's 7:30 and you're all ready for school.  Good Job, My Love!"



In essence, each morning he accomplishes this routine, he starts his day with a success.  Was it immediate?  No.  I found that I had to build in auditory cues, too, like saying, "Where are you on your list?"  I also had to post his lists on his bedroom wall, in the bathroom and in the kitchen.  The good news is that when he did get into the routine, he looked forward to it, because he felt like he had mastered something that was extremely hard to manage at one time. 



You'll make it Dawn, I promise.  Try to make sure you take some time out for yourself--a pedicure, massage, yoga, a bike ride....Dawn-time.  Remember, you will be far more capable of providing for your sons needs if your needs are met, too.  Good luck!   



 

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Fleur - posted on 03/15/2010

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I understand , i have a13 year old boy with ADHD and ASD we have good and bad mornings, we are doing well this term , remember your not alone , good luck

Ashley - posted on 03/09/2010

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One of my sons meds is a patch, I put that on him an hour before he needs to get up and that has made a HUGE difference! I help him to get dressed in the morning and that also makes things go more smoothly. Make sure you get up first and have yourself all ready to go so that when he gets up you can focus on just helping him to get ready......try getting him up 15 min. earlier too so that he can have a few more minutes of "wake up" time. Good Luck!

Renachantel - posted on 04/25/2009

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Try Merideth's idea. My son has ADHD and I am a family therapist. I did the same thing, but he and I created the chart together. We went through magazines that represented what he had to do everymorning. Before I did the chart, my son would be at the door without his shoes on his feet ready to go. The child get's to put a sticker once the activity is done. At the end of the week, depending on how many stickers he has, he gets a treat.

Mary - posted on 04/17/2009

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I have the same problem with my six year old daughter! Somestimes I get so frustrated I dress her myself, because I need to get her to school and myself to work. I have been thinking about Meredith's idea about making a sheet with things she needs to do in the morning. Sometimes in the morning I wipe a wet face cloth across her forehead while she is sleeping and it seems to help her get up a little. Also, if I can (ex- if she is wearing a t-shirt, etc) I get her dressed the night before. I also have everything ready to go in the morning. Clothes out, meds out, lunch packed schoolbag by door....
I can't give her the meds an hour early and let her go back to bed because she can't swallow so I have to open the capsules and sprinkle them into her breakfast.
Mornings are always crazy though! Good luck!

Lauralee - posted on 03/14/2009

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My  friend had the same problem with her son, so she began to wake him up an hour early -just enough for him to take his medicine. Then let him go back to sleep until the alarm. She said it helped, and I am concidering doing the same thing in my home.

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