single mom and pregnant with second child

Jessica - posted on 08/26/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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im 18 and have a 1 year old and i'm 2months pregnant my ex and i have been seperated for about a month and a half.. but i miss him so very much and i'm having a hard time letting him go and it's even harder now that i'm pregnant my emotions are wild i need another single mommys advice on how to cope with this cuz i'm not doing too well :(

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Jessica - posted on 09/16/2010

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I feel ya girl.... I have two kids by a man, that it didn't work out with, now in a moment of weakness over father's day, I am pregnant again, so I am going to have 3 kids by this man, and we are not together. Somewhere deep in my heart I want us to be a family, but in my head I know that it is not the right thing, and it will never work out. Believe me, those emotions really get to you when you are pregnant. Just be strong, live right now for your kids, and you will soon feel stronger... focus on creating the best future for you and your children that you can. You are so young, you will and can meet someone later down the road that loves you and your kids... I had to accept too that it is not a failure that you and your bd didn't work out, it is life, and you live and you learn and you keep it moving. just remember that the definition of insanity is repeating the same thing over and over expecting a different result...if you want to chat i am here for you!!! you can do it!

Jessica - posted on 08/31/2010

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thankyou so much and yeah i'm still young but i have given up alot for this guy and have sooo much to get back on track and it hurts to know that he gave us up and i'm stuck while he is bulding up his life i guess it's gunna take time and alot of work but i am thankful for my kids :)

Wendy - posted on 08/31/2010

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if it did not work it did not work huni, im sorry
its not just cos your preg you feel this way if u did not end relationship and sometimes if you did you cant just drop feelings for someone it does take time.
i know people that have gone back over and over and over but it just does not work the issues that ended it in the first place resurface. being single mum is hard but it is also rewarding and as long as you are there for your children they will grow up happy and healthy.
there will come a time when u wake up and think wow who? you have let him go.
your life will be full of looking after children and the occ when you can go out.
18 is still young and one day you will meet someone who wants to be there for you and your children.
i date have done for 6yrs but my daughter has never met one of them as i am careful not to drag loads of men though her life. one day when i meet that someone she will meet him but he will need to be very special and i will take my time doing it.
being 18 somethings more than others will be difficult for you, different than anyone else, age brings different difficulties but eases other things so you will need help from different people for each problem you have , one thing you found hard may of been easier for me because i am in my 30s but being in my 30s made even being pregnant very difficult.

take your time hun move on in your own time but dont go back it never works out bing a week a year or ten yrs one day things will return to why you broke up in the first place.
enjoy this on your own. enjoy your children, enjoy your life.

goodluck.x

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