about to become a single mum again, im 8 wks preg.

Nikki - posted on 04/24/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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ok, i swear my life isnt complete without drama, hence why im the black sheep.I have a 1 year old and I'm 8 weeks pregnant to a different guy who I'm not with.



its a long strory, but in short i became lonely after breaking up with my violent ex, I found someone that I had a casual relationship with for a while and soon after breaking it off i found out i was preg, even if i had feelings for him which i dont, im too messed up from my sons dad so be in any relationhip at the moment..



I was just wondering if anyone was in the same sort of boat?

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Nikki - posted on 04/28/2009

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:( im so sorry to hear all your stories, I swear we should start our own island! no men ;)... well maybe a couple in cages lol.. anyway, amanda I know what you mean by your messed up and that you cant trust and all that, after the way my ex husband treated me and other things I found out he did to his other daughter I dont see that I could ever trust anyone again, my ex isnt following me like your is, I really hope that works out, but nothing I do can get rid of him, new years I got 70 missed calls and 8 suacide msgs and the worst thing is people who dont know him think he's a poor man whos had a hard life and sees me as a mother keeping him from his son, i dont know the dad of my baby that well and how he will handle things after, I'll have to wait and see. anyway ty guys, I hate to hear how things are going for you.. but it kinda makes me feel a little better I'm not the only one..

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I have three kids by three different men. I don't really have a history of abuse, just father's walking out on their kids. My first son, age 6, has never seen his father. That relationship might have turned abusive, but once I found out I was pregnant, he just started disappearing on me and just before I started to show, I had to move in with my dad. My second son, 4 in May, is by my ex-husband. He started out to be a great partner and was AMAZING through my pregnancy and birth, but we fought often over our step kids and he didn't give any of them the attention I thought the deserved nor me the attention I needed. He stayed on the computer ALL the time. He gets Jake maybe once every 3 weeks to a month, usually just one night. He lives with his girlfriend who is 15 yrs younger and her mom. I really think he would move back in if I asked him too, I know he misses me and wants to. I miss him too, but I have another daughter now and he just found out he had a daughter. One of our biggest problems was over the kids and money. He is on unemployment and we have added two little girls to the 3 boys we had at the time. My little girl, who is two weeks today, apparently is not going to have her father in her life. He has yet to contact me or come see her. His loss. Child support will go after him whether he is in her life or not. Part of me wants to start dating again because I'm lonely and have my hands full, but with the luck I've had with men, I'm just not sure! I endured mild emotional abuse from my ex-husband, but luckily none were physically abusive, just a history of walking away. Does the guy know about the baby? If so, does he act like he cares? He still may be a good father even if he is not relationship material and be able to help you out with expenses and what not.

Amanda - posted on 04/26/2009

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i am sort of only its the same guy... i broke up with him and two weeks later found out i was 6 weeks pregnant. he was a jerk and hardly payed attention to our son... with him around i wasn't as good of a mom because he would fight with me all the time and take every ounce of patiance i had! after all the lying cheating and fear ( he scared me when he was mad...) i am so completely screwed in the head i can't trust i don't wnat to fall in love (my only relationship before was abusive.) i am currently 19 weeks pregnant with my second. my son turns one on may 10th. and i moved across the country to get away from drama and its FOLLOWING me! my ex is starting the whole lawyer crap with me. its so hard when drama clings to you when your a single mom... like we need the added drama seriously?

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