am i still considered a single mom?

Karen - posted on 03/11/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I am the mother to a pretty awesome 4 yr old daughter....i split from her birth father when she was 2 yrs old....i have since met someone and have been dating for a few months.....he is wonderful with her, which her father isnt. the father doesnt want to help me out at all (financially or in any other way) my current boyfriend does certain things with my daughter(plays, colors, feeds)....but neither are there for me or her full force....am i still considered a single mom? when things get tough i am still the one that the weight of everything falls on even though she has a "father" and i have a boyfriend.....

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Holly - posted on 03/12/2009

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I know just how you feel and unless your at least living with her real dad and you can confidently say here you do it now and know it will get done right, your in it alone.  Being married helps finacially but I don't feel right just passing my son off to his step-dad like I do our daughter we share. Well you know what I mean by passing. sounded bad but it's not. lol. Just remember your raising a little adult and if theres anything i can answer just ask.  :O)

Holly - posted on 03/12/2009

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I have been married now for 12 years and I consider myself a single mother of my 15 and 1/2 year old because his real father is not at all in the picture. His step-father is fine but all the problems that arise out of your childs real dad not being ther i  think is what makes up the term single mother!

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Karen, I did not mean to upset you. Like I said I was a little confused on what exactly you were thinking or asking. I definatly took it the wrong way. As posted, and this is exactly it, you can not at all be a single woman( even married) but still be a single mother. Sorry.

Karen - posted on 03/12/2009

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holly, thank you so much! that is exactly what i meant! I feel like i am still a single mother bc when things get hard i am the one that has to take care of it....it all falls on me.

Karen - posted on 03/12/2009

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Alyssa, I would like to make it clear that I have NO problem being a single mom. That is not why I posted this question, I just feel like i am in a weird grey area right now. I didnt know if the term "single mother" is what I would be considered. I am neither single nor married....my question was even though I am not a single woman (in the dating world), am i still considered a single mother.

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What answer are you looking for here? Are you not wanting to be a "single mom"? She still has her father in her life, he is not in yours, and your boyfriend is not your husband or responsible for your daughter in anyway. So I would say yes you are. Sorry if that is not the answer thta you are looking for. Dont let the negative association that some people put with being a single parent bother you. Good Luck.

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