Can I really do this?

Stacie - posted on 05/13/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )

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So I have 2 sons, Ryan is almost 3 and Parker is almost 7 months. My fiance just left me a week ago for another woman and I am so scared! I know I am a great mother and I can do this, but I dont want to. It hurts even more that he left me to be with someone else, like she is more important than his family. I am heart broken and angry and I feel so betrayed. My sons have 2 different fathers and my fiance was like a father to my oldest since his real dad was not around and now he keeps asking me where his daddy is and when his daddy is gonna come get us. I just dont know what to say or do anymore!!!

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Krystal - posted on 05/13/2009

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Stacie- I've been there my little girl was 4 when her father left us for another person. It was so hard to deal with her pain plus mine on top. It was a very stressful and unhappy time. I couldn't belive he could just throw away the 7years we were together, our house, and our daughter for somebody else. But with support from family and friends the people who really did care about us we moved on. The hardest part for me was being honest to Kailey that dad left us and he was happy where he was at and wasn't coming back to us to live. He still took her everyother weekend, but Kailey hated the new girlfriend and I hated the fact there was another woman taking care of my daughter. But its been 2 1/2 years, and everythings good. Infact the person he left me for (we were frineds before the deal happened), he cheated on her, they broke up, and me and her are friends again. Kaileys dad and I get along fine. Hes single and I moved on. Be strong it will get better, also it helps to be involved with stuff. I started going back to church and became a girl scout leader, once i got over the depression.

Karen - posted on 05/13/2009

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well stacie im in the same boat only my fiance left me pregnant and got the girl his with pregnant and he just dont seem to care bout the baby im carrying or our 4yr old son after ten yrs together i thought i knew him but obviously not, but really im happier now and im starting to get a better relationship with my son now... just letting u know everything will be ok may not seem that way now but it will be you seem like a great mum just focus on your boys they will give you the strenght u need.....take care im here if u wanna chat!!!

Mel - posted on 05/13/2009

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Good luck and surround yourself with a helpful village. Mine was the Scouting program. I met so many wonderful people willing to help me raise my boys and I have a lot to be proud of.

User - posted on 05/13/2009

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((HUGS)) It's early days, but you can and you will do it. Children are incredibly resilient and if you provide and stable loving home, they will be just fine, more than fine! You will have a whole range of feelings that are negative, and it's normal to feel like that! There are MANY, MANY advantages to being a single mum you know. Searh through lots of forums, there are usually threads about the pros of going it alone...you will have a few of your own to add to the list soon enough! Women are made of strong stuff, you know that don't you? You soon will :) You'll come through this a stronger and wiser person.

Tisha - posted on 05/13/2009

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Its had to take advice from people that have no idea what you are going through. I have been through something like that. My daughters father and I are not together it was my choice, and i was scared to go and scared to stay, but it wasnt working. Im sorry that your relationship has ended but you have two kids that need you. You have to be strong for them. It will get easier with time. Your children are young as my daughter was so its hard for them to understand. I told her that her father and i love her but we are going to be apart and it has nothing to do with her. We can still love her and take care of her and not be together. Both adults have to be mature in order to make tht work though. I pray that everything works out for you.

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