Can my ex husband drop child support to go back to school?

Sarah - posted on 03/18/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )




My ex husband has been paying about $800/month for child support since our divorce 4 years ago. Now he wants to go back to school and drop the support to $250/month. He already has an engineering degree, and will actually be having the children less. Can he do this? It doesn't seem fair that my children and I should suffer so he can get more education.


Deidre - posted on 03/18/2012




He's basically going back to court for an reassessment of finances. After a certain amount of years, yes, anyone is allowed to go about doing this. That is why the rule is in place. He will have to prove his financials and the court will still take everything into consideration. If he makes his proposal before he is enrolled they will most likely ignore his request. It is a BIG gamble on his part to quit his job and enroll in school before going to court. He is used to the money as well and he will be taking a HUGE pay cut himself. Child support goes according to both of your income. So the courts do their best to be fair. The part that really sucks is to have not been notified of this sooner. If you ever get a heads up of this sort of thing then it helps to be prepared and start socking that money away for a rainy day. Living on the bare minimum for as long as possible is the better way to go. That way when something major happens, like finding out the amount is drastically changing in the wrong direction, we will be ready.

I just want to say I am glad you have an ex who is willing to better his life and ultimately yours and your kids life as well. The second you find out how much more he is making all you have to do is "Renegotiate" in court again. It is totally fair. That is exactly what is going to happen. The amount of support will again go back up and even more because he will be making more. So chin up, girl. It may suck for some time, but it will be worth it all in the end. Please be proud of him that he is not being a TOTAL ass and quitting his job altogether and refusing to work anymore while his child support piles up year after year, building a back support upwards of $40,000, ok? You will get through this, I promise :)


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