Dating + 4 year old....HELP!

Pamela - posted on 02/06/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have been single for over 2 years, and I know I am ready to date. I have been on a date once with this guy and everything is going great and he knows I have a child. He just asked me last night after going out for a month, if he can meet my son. The thing is I want to introduce my son to this guy, but I do not want to expose my son to different men (if this does not work out). I do not want nathan to think that the guy I bring home is going to be his new daddy. When do you all introduce your children to the men you date, or do you even introduce them?


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Marisa - posted on 02/07/2010




I've wondered this same question. I haven't started dating yet. But I'm afraid to introduce someone to my son cause he is a bit of a "mommy's boy" and clingly and I honestly think unless the guy was a saint of some sort he would run out of there so fast. LOL. I would wait to do intro's until I was sure the guy was sticking around for awhile b/c I don't want my son thinking ever guy that comes in the door is daddy or "uncle" (I don't like that one.) I guess it depends on how the relationship is progressong and how your kid is taking it, Good luck

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I actually did not let my daughter meet my current boyfriend until we dated for 6 months. I had to let him get to know me as me and vice versa before introducing my daughter. Besides I believe what you do, why put your child through getting to know the guy if you yourself are unsure it's going to last. That's not fair. So for me it was 6 months. But there isn't a book written about how to do this, it differs per situation. Trust your gut and motherly instincts.

Dara - posted on 02/06/2010




I usually didn't introduce my daughter to any men until well after the 5th or 6th date. I didn't feel comfortable letting strange men into my daughter's life, and thought it would be uncomfortable to me trying to explain to her why that guy wouldn't continue to come around.

Honestly, I think YOU have to pick your comfort level. It always depends on how/what you feel, and think is best for your child.

Good luck with everything!!!

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