Daughter Climbs Into My Bed

Katie - posted on 04/29/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )




My daughter goes to bed in her own bed every night, but inevitably crawls into bed with me at some point in the night. I'm not sharing the bed with anyone at the moment, and she doesn't bother me. My aunt however as a problem with it. My question is, am I creating a big problem by allowing her to get into bed with me?


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Amy - posted on 05/06/2009




My daughter does the same thing. Not every night but most. And she does bother me. She rolls around and kicks me. I get no sleep. I tried new bedding and music. Changing her room around and other tactics but she still comes in. Now I have a small tv in her room and she watches a movie and usually falls asleep. But if she wakes she will still come it.

Kirstin - posted on 05/06/2009




My son whos just turned 2 hops into my bed around 6am and sometimes sleeps till 8 but my daughter who is nearly one, even though she cant come into my bed if I wanted her to she wouldnt sleep she doesnt like it. Your choices your desicions? :)

Erin - posted on 05/06/2009




While your aunt has concerns, there was a day where the "family bed" was common, and people were fine. The only thing you want to watch for is her being unable to be by herself. She needs to learn independence from you, and it sounds like that is not a problem. :)

Laura - posted on 05/06/2009




I dont see a problem with it. My daughter is the same, she will get in her bed and then wake in the night and get into mine. It doesnt bother me at all and in truth, I have got that use to it, I sometimes find it hard to sleep until she comes in. I am just enjoying all these moments as one day she will be too big for climbing into mummies bed. And as its just me in the bed, who is she disturbing.

Antonia - posted on 05/06/2009




I dont see the problem if your daughter is going into her own bed at the beginning of the night. I think that is the main thing that children need is to be able to put themselves to sleep and feel comfortable enough in their own bed to do it :)

Melony - posted on 05/06/2009




You know what hun, Everyone has their own ways of bringing up their kids and that's how it should be. Dont let what anybody else tell you about your kid affect you in any way. You know her best and carry her best intrest at heart 24/7, so you do what feels right to you. No offence to your aunt, but my mom raised us with the saying..."My children, my decision!" so what ever feels right to you is most probably the best. And just think in a few yrs time she wouldnt want to get into bed with you anymore, so I think you should cherish every moment while you can!! But again this is just my ten cents worth :-)) Good luck and God Bless!!

Mary - posted on 05/05/2009




My daughter is almost 6 and did the same thing. My son is going to be 3 and is currently doing it. She out grew it on her own and I am not worried that my son will also out grow it. They grow up too fast so I actually enjoy it. I also had both my kids with me the first 3 months of their life and my mom totally disagreed. This time you are the mom and you do it your way. After they started sleeping through the night I didnt need to nurse I would put them in bed in their crib in another room but the nursing was just easier to be close by. Since leaving my ex while 6mos pregnant I've been at home with my mom and she just has learned to accept it my way now. She is the grandma and I am the mom. Your aunt can disagree but you are the mom and it all works out.

Alexis - posted on 05/04/2009




hi i let my now 19yo do that and for him it did create a problem. he nearly died when he was born and eveytime he was sick he would be in with us... he was 4 before i got him out the habbit and it was horrible....

i now have a 3 and 2yo and they are both crawling into my bed of a night.... i pop them back into their beds but after getting up 3 or 4 times a night it gets a bit much and i just give up..... i dont normally share my bed either but when my partner stays i dont let them in the bed.... they sem to be ok with this and settle back into their beds...

i think it must be a security thing ..... i know with my 2 they are very affectionate at the moment and just want me.....

its hard to say if your daughter will have problems when she isnt allowed in your bed anymore, but at the moment if you are both happy then why upset the apple cart....

Jennifer - posted on 05/03/2009




My son does the same also. He's 3 1/2 and is going through that monster-in-my-room phase. I also enjoy when he comes in my room to cuddle and don't see anything wrong with it. It might just be a phase and we'll probably be sad when it's over.

Mandy - posted on 05/02/2009




Make the most of it thats what i say. They grow up all to quick and there may come a day when she wont want cuddles so much. I would just make sure that she is not coming into bed with you because she is frightened or there is something she is worried about

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my daughter does the same thing. She's only two but she'll go to sleep and for majority of the night she will sleep in her own bed and around 4:30-5 she wakes up and comes to my bed.. it doesnt bother me, i acually love her cuddling and sleeping with me.. i dont think its a problem, everyone says about how bad co-sleeping, but i dont see a problem with it... i slept with my daughter from the day i brought her home, i tried her in the crib and she screamer bloody murder and i just figured if it gets me sleep then why not.... so the way i see it she'll wanna go sleep by herself when the time is right. when she's ready, and now its not bothering me or anyone else... maybe if i was married or something that would be a different story, but its not hurting me or her.. or anyone else. so i think its fine. my daughter is just so used to be so close to me all the time and shes just a mommys girl, that i think its just weird for her to not sleep with me... and sometimes i admit i just wanna cuddle with her too after a bad day. :D

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