Dealing with boyfriend's ex wife

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My boyfriend's ex wife has not yet moved on with her life and she plays immature games trying to win him back. He doesn't fall for it and he has asked her to stop but it's getting ugly. She came to my home and harrasses my family and myself. Arguing with her doesn't stop her and ignoring her doesn't either. She is just miserable and won't leave us alone. Has anyone been through this?


Rhonda - posted on 08/24/2009




If your boyfriend does not have any ties with his ex such as children. I would put a restraining order out on her to protect both of you. Be very cautious and keep your eyes open! Your boyfriend could be leading her on. If not he would not have a problem with the order for himself also.

Erin - posted on 08/23/2009




call the cops and get a restraning order on her where she cannot come into contact with you or come within 500ft..and if she violates she could go to jail..depending on the judge....or just beat her ass..


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Kerri - posted on 09/02/2009




not to sound negative but i would make absolute sure that he is not still messing w/her-leading her on and messing with her head or actually still seeing her. he should be able to solve this and you should not be the one having to deal with it...

Carol - posted on 08/23/2009




Get a restraint on her so at least she keeps her distance from you........Thats important. She will get it sooner or later stay strong and I wish ya luck

Stephanie - posted on 08/22/2009




I agree with Ciara, a restaining might do the trick, even just a letter from a lawyer stating that you will proceed with legal action can take care of it sometimes. That's a tough one. and unfortunatly, your man is the only one who can or shoudl really deal with this. Because it's his problem, and not resolving it is making it your problem, and hey, we all know how a woman can get when she feels like she or her cubs are threathened right?

Ciara - posted on 08/22/2009




Jill, I have never been through this situation myself, there was a guy I was dating whose ex wife was remarried and had another baby with the new husband so she was pretty peaceful about the whole situation but she did at one point try to seduce him a few times by doing little things such as hanging her boobs out and what not, he never went for it but it was still sort of annoying to have to deal with. I dont really know what to suggest except maybe put a restraining order on her so she cant come harass you and your family and if she does put her in jail.. maybe that'll make her think?? I dont really know what else, i'm sorry you have to deal with this. Best of luck to you!

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