Do DNA testing or not

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I am in a situation, I left my daughter's father when I was pregnant with my daughter after he hit me and his ex threaten to kill our daughter out of jealousy back then he told everyone that she was his daughter now his name is not on any documents of her's , his never tried too meet her and when she was born he started demanding a DNA test so he could have his rights .. I am to scared that will hurt her or even kidnap her .. Should I do the DNA test ?


Kekua - posted on 12/21/2009




If you really believe that she could be in danger, I wouldn't do it. I would also get a restraining order. Yes he may be able to go to court and force you to DNA her but that takes time and meanwhile having the TRO could help show that he may be an unfit parent and be some weight on your side should you need it.


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thankyou all for your helpful advice .. I have decided to take it to the courts and not consent to doing willingly daughters safety is my number one concern

Erika - posted on 12/27/2009




I think you should go through the courts to get one. Just to avoid any problems,then it's out of the way. His name being on paperwork isn't what's really important, you don't want your baby to grow up hearing from him or any one else you don't know who fathered her.

Keira - posted on 12/27/2009




You should do the DNA test if you would like him to pay child support for your child..which i believe any father should! My son's father will and he wants nothing to do with my son! but when you go to court if he does take you there when it comes to custody make sure you have a good lawyer and tell them about his abuse might help you alot! I wish you the best of luck!

Sarahlynn - posted on 12/26/2009




You shouldnt initaite a DNA test. However you cannot deny him the right to have one done. Force him to take it to court though, do not willingly allow him to get a test. Most likely if he has to put out the money to take you to court to have a DNA test done then put out the money for the test he will not do it. THink of her saftey first not of his feelings or his rights as a father.

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i know it is a hard decision to make. but i have 2 kids w the same guy and he is a piece of work! just remember when making ur decision that people like that usually dont change, while till they learn that what they do is wrong. i grow up without my father. n it is hard on a child wondering where their father is but at the same time u are protecting them by keeping them from a situation that could become very bad! so your child will thank you for that when they get older! trust me i was that child. now my dad and i talk n he as truly changed but we still arent like me n my mom! she has always been there nomatter what. i know from my experience that if i could go back, them i would have never done the dna test w my kids and keep them from their dad bc he is just letting them down now and they r 5 and 3! n it makes it harder the older they get!

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