DO YOU FEEL LIKE YOU FAILED SOMEWHERE

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Trenier - posted on 05/18/2009

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I WOULD GIVE MY LIFE FOR MY CHILDREN, IT WAS SO MUCH EASIER WHEN THEY WERE YOUNG. I'VE MADE BAD DECISIONS, OVER INDULDGED. MY BOYS ARE 17 AND 22YRS. OVER THE LAST 6 MONTHS A LOT HAS FALLEN INTO MY LAP AND I HAVE FELT LIKE A FAILURE OF A SINGLE PARENT. I CRIED MOST OF THE MORNING OF MOTHER'S DAY. AND WHEN I GOT MY MOTHER'S DAY PRESENT 6 DAYS LATER, AGAIN I COULDN'T STOP CRYING, BECAUSE THE CARD MORE THAN THE GIFT TOUCHED ME MOST. THIS IS THE HARDEST JOB. WHEN CHILDREN FIGURE OUT, THEY CAN DO WHAT THEY WANT REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOU SAY THE CONTROL FACTOR THEN BECOMES THIS TUG OF WAR THING. WHY DO I HAVE TO ASK 7X CLEAN YOUR ROOM AND WHEN I HAVE YOUR PHONE SVC.,INTERRUPTED IS WHEN I GET RESULTS. IT'S GOT 2 B A BETTER WAY.

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Every single day. Most mums hold themselves up against the mythical perfect mum in thier minds, so everyday seems like a failure in some way. We have to keep telling ourselves there are NO perfect people, not our parents our friends or grannies. And its ok to try everyday to be a great mum and sometimes just settle for good enough. Feel bad and apologize when you screw up, accept praise gracefully when its deserved.

User - posted on 05/13/2009

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Yeah totally - today has been a rubbish day with my son. I'm impatient and i'm a crappy mum to him. It's worse when i'm tired. I feel bad because i'm not always the best mum or even near best mum that i can be. My own mum said to me recently that when it all goes horribly wrong all you can do is start again afresh!

Pat - posted on 05/13/2009

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hi trenier

we all must feel like that at some point,but we dont,I felt like that when a couple of times,when my son was a baby he kept being sick every time I fed him,and then his nan asked if she could feed him and I said yes when she finished she told me he hadnt been sick,I cried and wouldnt what I was doing wrong,my mum spoke to me and I told her and she said she was proud of me I was doing the right thing she tried to cheer me up but it didnt work at all,and then a couple of years ago we was told my son had adhd I kept thinking what have I done wrong,but it was nothing I did wrong,hope you feel better soon pat x

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