Don't know what to do

Nicole - posted on 04/21/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hello. I just joined yesterday. I'm currently 24 and 21 weeks pregnant. Baby daddy is not my ex, never dated and never will. He's a okay guy but i wont be able to count on him for much. He doesn't come around or ask about my pregnancy at all. I have a roommate who is my best friend of 21 years, she does not like kids, and I'm here with her for at least 3 more months after my son is born before i can move. My parents aren't very happy about this, but they will live. My job is okay, but i work nights. I don't feel like i have any supporting friends or family. People who are supportive are my roommates friends and if she goes i don't feel they will stay. I'm worried about raising my boy, having everything he needs and time with him. Money for day care or baby sitter etc.

I'm not sure what to do or where to start with my child. Before he born or after. Any tips, advice?


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Nochelle - posted on 04/21/2009




Hi think you are never alone in this world. The most important thing is keep your spirits high and be strong esp that there is a little one who's gonna need all the strength & support from you. If the dad doesn't care, well his loss as i bet he dont realize that for now. Trust me as a mum you will know what will be the best along the way. Reach out and stay active. You are lucky (there are those whos depressed not having a child!). Your little boy is lucky to have you. Thinking about the time you can give him and giving all his needs at this stage is a good start.

Lorrie Willbergh - posted on 04/21/2009




excellent resources - add the United Way - in our state there is a helpline with all available resources and also MOPS - make friends with other moms and build support around you.

Melanie - posted on 04/21/2009




Okay the first thing i need to ask is where is God in your life? Find a support Christian church hun! That is the first and formost thing. Then start looking into all the family planning you have in your area. I am a single mom of 2 and it was hard after their dad left. But I turned to the places that help us when in need. Food shelters, family planning, catholic charties help even if you are not catholic. Start looking for resources. You can do this even if it means doing it with you and your son. Get a backbone built up you are strong even though you can't see it. Having sex and getting pregnant is part of the after effect now take charge of your life and you can be the best mom ever. Just keep in mind it is going to be hard but if you turn to God for all your needs trust me there is no better support!

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