first date as a single mom

Emily - posted on 03/07/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




So this up coming friday i'm going on my first date in almost two years and i'm so nervous! I barely remember how to date, since i've only been on two other dates in my life time. Plus i spend so much time with my kids that pretty much all i have to talk about, that and what i've seen on noggin and the news. Did i mention its also pretty much a blind date, we've seen pictures of each other, but i've gained like 50 baby weight pounds since the pic of me was taken. All i know is hes 28 divorced and has two kids he never gets to see and one on the way( by accident, long story). Idk i'm just so nervous to date and how to act and what to talk about. Do any of you have experience from dating after becoming a single mother? stories and help u could give me? oh also its a double date with an ex-bf and his new gf, their the ones setting us up. thanks!


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Emily - posted on 03/08/2009




from what i've been told he doesn't get to see his kids cause their mom is a psyco b*tch

Marcia - posted on 03/08/2009




It was four years after my daughter was born before I had a date...Be honest to yourself and just try to get to know this man. You have children - acknowledge it, but try to find commonalities to talk about. He is probably just as nervous as you are! I'm also 40 lbs heavier than pre-pregnancy. Don't draw attention to that - try to be comfortable in your own skin and don't force it. You wrote he has two kids he never gets to see (that would make me nervous) - red flag...just be careful!

Tara - posted on 03/08/2009




Good luck!  Just remember to be yourself.  I can remember my first date after I became a single mom, and I tried so hard to be what I thought the guy wanted me to be.  Needless to say, it was a disaster!  I've since learned that it's okay for me to talk about my kids because they are such a huge part of my life (ok, pretty much all I really want to talk about), but I also learned to talk about my interests outside of being a mom (even if I haven't had time to enjoy those things in years!).  Remember to ask him questions and really listen to his answers!  Again, good luck, be yourself, and have fun!!!

Elizabeth - posted on 03/08/2009




hi just in enjoy your self, ive been on one date since i spilt from my littles one dad, i was so nervious and at frist it was scary, it was just him and i there, so cos theres 4 of u the conservation shouldnt run dry, keep asking him questions about what he does, likes dislikes, my date wnet well in the end but id didnt go any where after the one date cos all he wanted was one thing and he wasnt going to get it from me, so he didnt try again, im sure your be fine, let us know how it went. x ill keep my fingers crossed for you. x

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