Going to Court

Brianna - posted on 09/05/2010 ( 27 moms have responded )

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So I am so excited my child's sperm donor sent me a text message last cause he's pissed because he got his court papers for him to go to court for child support.I'm like how do you have the nerve to be upset when our daughter is 5mths he's only seen her twice and that was 3mths ago and the only thing he has ever done is buy her one little pack of diapers which he bought the wrong size they were too big. I didn't respond to his text message but I think its funny he really mad. Esp when I was pregnant he was never around but kept saying I'll be there to help raise her but has not step up. Wish me good luck I'm nervous to go to court I've never been through this before.

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Kelly - posted on 09/14/2010

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Amen to that, it's a struggle to do it on your own , but it can be done. I've been dealing with a dead beat donor for three years and now my so's first homecoming is here, 14 now, and this joke won't even return calls....God will see us through.

Vicky - posted on 09/13/2010

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Good luck Great Mama! Going to court is a very stressful thing, but you have us and all the good people around you. Don't forget to lean on us and take time out for you!

Shannon - posted on 09/12/2010

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well i am glad u are taking him for child support all fathers need to support their children in some way and i know that there are way too many who dont i have been through this before and trust me the court will make him pay support.i dont know wha state you are living in and i know the laws vary from one to the other but they all make them pay in one way or another.i am in pa and i know if they dont pay child support here after they are court orderd to do so they will put them in jail for 30-90 days,take away their drivers liscence for 1 year and take it straight out of their paychecks and tax returns until they are paid up to date/so i wish u luck .=) and i know u will get what u deserve for your child...as u should!

Dawn - posted on 09/12/2010

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GOOD LUCK, but be very careful with the words you say ,I called my sons father that and the judge removed my child ,saying that the hate i have for the father has put the child at risk,,, so if you are going to court please act like you have no problem with him the father ,,, becasue the courts are removing kids from great moms ,,,,,

Colleen - posted on 09/11/2010

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I just went through the same thing with my ex and now that he has to pay child support he has nothing at all to do with his 13 yr old daughter... I'm feeling really bad about it only bc she's just geting to know him after 10 yrs of him not being in her life.... He just came back in to her life 3 yrs ago I feel that she blams me and I'm not shur what to say to her about the hole thing.....

Jasmine - posted on 09/11/2010

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@ Brooke my kids dad is about the same. Will get behind and then pay the day before the court hearing or 2 days before the state will suspend his license.

Jasmine - posted on 09/11/2010

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Honey, let him be pissed. He will get over it. If not, oh well. It's about this precious baby now. Not him and his feelings or even you. Let me tell you hun, I have done a lot of things that I did NOT want to do because I thought it was what's best. It will be a long road, but God willing it won't always be hard!

Stephanie - posted on 09/10/2010

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i kno what your goin thru my babys daddy was there the whole time i was pregnant but walked out on me and aaliyah when she was two months old..an come to find out was cheating on me the last couple months i was pregnant...but anyways he saids he shouldn have to pay child support we go to court in october im nervous as hell but, my baby will be 5 months then...and all he bought was a pack of diapers a pack of wipes an a rattle..i guess guys don realize babies go thru that shit in 5 days...i hate deadbeat daddys.! l:

Jane - posted on 09/10/2010

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Good luck and it is better to terminate his rights then get money from him! Will save your child the hassle of being forced by the court to go back and forth beween two homes -- and other atrocities that they can do to your child!

Jessica - posted on 09/10/2010

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Good luck and keep your mouth shut. Be the bigger person and dont saqay anything unless the judge asks you. Let your ex be stupid and make himself look bad in court.

Louisa - posted on 09/08/2010

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there say A man can father a child but it takes a real man to be a dad..... better still any dick can make a baby but it takes a man to be a daddy. He is not worth it. Give your daughter the best and God will open for you more doors and you will be just fine.

Michel - posted on 09/07/2010

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Cross your fingers that you have my luck, my ex didn't show up for the court date and I got an uncontested trial and full custody.

Stacie - posted on 09/07/2010

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Hi, Iv got 3girls to 2dads nd been going 2court since my frist was 15mths 4custody nd childsupport (she's 6 in feb) Dont get me wrong it can get hard, try 2 smile nd remember yur doing 4yur lil girl =) All my best wishes, Gd luck ;)

Tina - posted on 09/06/2010

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LOL!! Deat beat dad.. I am going thru the samething. I have a 1 year old that I let her father see her 3 times a week for a yr until he told me he was moving and was going to see her less, not to mention moving with someone else. He did not want to give me the new address or let me know who he was moving with. I need to know who my baby is going to be around, there is crazy people in this world. To make a long story short he was still messing with me, he had the nerve to tell me he was moving 4 days before his move. I told him since, I don't know where your taking my daughter you can not see her. 3 mos passed he has not called to ask for her, has not bought pampers or give me the loudsy $100 a month, so his ass is going to court and yes he had the nerve to call me the day before court asking me not take take him!! DEAD BEAT he has not even signed paternity papers.

Brianna - posted on 09/06/2010

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Thnx everyone for the encouragement I really need it the thing he is mad at he thinks Im doing this but I told him because I go through help from the state they would do it anyway he didn't believe me and thats whose taking him to court and to pay the state. I just hope he doesnt fight 4 custody he tried to scare me and said if I did he would fight for custody even though I know there's no chance he''d win I still don't want to have to go through this

Hope - posted on 09/05/2010

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wow good luck yeah court is no fun.. I have been in and out of there soo many times in the past few years with my ex and my daughter is 4 now.. my ex owes me over 6 thousand dollars and i know i will never see that i tried even getting a lawyer to help out he but lies his way out of everything its terrible.. hopefully it works out better for you

Casey - posted on 09/05/2010

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Well my 10 and 8 yr olds father is 50,000 behind and in austin texas working cash jobs wont call them or have anything to do with them and calls them only on his bday...My 4 and 1 yr olds dad wont pay support or help either but when its his wknd he claims that he supports them and does everything for them...lol sobs

Anika - posted on 09/05/2010

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Good luck! everything will go just fine don't even sweat it! I'm in the same boat. the AG should be contacting me this week on my 6 month old's donor. he wasn't around my entire pregnancy, even when I was shoved into a wall by my 2yr old's father...and only saw my 6 month old the day she was born and hasn't since. he even said she looked like him, but still is requesting a dna test...whatever!

Brooke - posted on 09/05/2010

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Good luck to all..sounds like we all need it! Mine is a little over $5000 behind..my child will be 6 in Oct...BUT, he's a smart one..pays right before the state is about to do anything..so therefore he stays outta trouble!

Jamie - posted on 09/05/2010

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GOOD LUCK GIRL. HOPE IT ALL WORKS OUT FOR YOU. I WENT TO CHILD SUPPORT COURT ABOUT 1.5 YRS AGO AND STILL CAN'T GET ANY MONEY OUT OF HIM. I THOUGHT YOU WOULD GO TO JAIL IF YOU DIDN'T PAY YOUR CHILD SUPPORT BUT OBVIOUSLY NOT IN MY CASE, LOL.

Charity - posted on 09/05/2010

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I know how both of you women feel. My daughter is 8 months old and I'm taking her father to court for support and custody. He claims he isnt the father so we're sitting around waiting for him to call so we can get the dna testing done. It's been about 5 months since we started going to court and seen his daughter a total of maybe 5 times and that was when she was about a month almost 2 months old..after that he just said forget it, so i stepped up and brought him to court considering it takes 2 to make a baby and he will get what he deserves and will eventually have to pay for his daughter...i wish you both luck and once its done you will have less to deal with...im struggling with the court cases, but when its over ill be much more happier knowing that it will work out in the long run...just have faith and be strong and stick to your guns, dont back down to them, do whats best for you and your children :)

Meaghan - posted on 09/05/2010

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i'm going through the similiar thing. my ex the father of my daughter is upset that we are going to court but i'm tired of begging for money i need it to be consistent not maybe or whatever. i'm nervous too but as soon as its taken care of i'll be happier. in fact next week we both have to go in to get dna tested. cuz he isnt on the birth certificate.

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