Has anyone gone through this?

Julie - posted on 12/09/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I am a single mom of four girls and there as been some issues with their dad. Their dad don't see them often, maybe once a month (his choice), even though he has regular weekend visitation. There was a recent incident with his behavior towards his kids when he was visiting them. My oldest daughter was somewhat playing with him a good way, more like little rough play like boys play. I guess he didn't like it!!!! He doesn't know how to play with them anyway..... My daughter told me that he told her "you should hit your mother in the face as she deserves it." I was shocked and completely blown away when he told her that. Plus, my oldest daughter (12yrs) didn't like what he said and was very upset by it. Shortly afterwards, he pulled my other daughter (10yrs) behind the car while her sisters were in the car and tried to get information from her about her grandma and me. She said she almost cried. Because he didn't get an answer from her, he was so upset that he took her $2 away from her that he had given her. This is not his first time he has done this and has done it many times and I am getting fed up with this. What would you have done?

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Amanda - posted on 12/10/2012

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My ex used to pull this on the my kids. I called him out on it....I explained to him that it isn't fair to the kids he was treating them this way. I also told him that I would pursue counseling services for the kids because this is no different than emotional abuse. It is hard to tell people this but we always have to remember that we can't let our kids suffer because of the choices we made for them in the past. My ex decided that he couldn't see the kids without drilling them for information so he just decided that he didn't want to see them at all. I encourage the kids to contact him when ever they want....let me tell you for me this has been a god send. I didn't do anything to the kids but they have now formed their own opinions about their dad and don't even talk about him anymore. He only sees them 3 or 4 times per year. Your situation may dwindle to something more manageable but seeking help and making it known worked for me.

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