Has anyone met a guy online?

Jade - posted on 04/13/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )




I recently started talking to a guy that added me on facebook who says he saw me play with my band that I used to play in about 5 years ago and said he 'fell in love when he saw me play bass' lol. He works with my best friend's boyfriend but I haven't had a chance to ask him what kind of guy he is. This guy even emailed my daughter's father to ask him if it would be ok if he asks me out! He seems nice...but a bit older than any guy I've ever been with. I'd like to know if any of you have ever met a guy online and what are your stories? I'm interested in hearing from other moms before even thinking about actually meeting this guy! :)


Tiffany - posted on 04/16/2012




PLEASE BECAREFUL! I suggest you run a background check if it is his real name.

I hade 3 bad experiences with men online. 1 was a sex offender and I never knew till someone informed me when she reconized him. 2nd I found out was not only a sex offender but a rapist and a child molester and i dated him a month before leaving him and still never knew, I was looking up the last guy on the regestry and came across his name and saw the stuff he was charged for. 3rd my friend intrduced me to online threw my fb, was a child molester when I did a background check.

I just wanted to let you know that there are men out there that will trick you and never inform you of there past so please becareful.

Take Care.

Tammy - posted on 04/14/2012




I met my husband through Facebook in 2009, he's military and coming from a military family I have a soft spot for them. At the time we were both involved with someone else so we remained online friends only. In 2010 he walked into my place of employment and the moment our eyes met I knew I would marry him one day. We dated for about a year and just before our one year anniversary he asked me to marry him. He was stationed in Mississippi at the time and I had one month to plan our December wedding. Like the others have said take it slow, make sure he's in the up and up. Look for warning signs, my husband didn't meet my daughter for 4 months after we started dating. Not sure if you have younger or older children but either way it's best to be sure before you bring him into the fold of your family life. Good luck, I wish you much happiness


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Dawn - posted on 04/25/2012




I am amazed. I have been talking to a guy from online for quite a long time. We have become such wonderful great friends over the phone. I wanted to meet him so so badly. And on a Saturday night, we went out. I was so amazed at how attached we really were. It was like seeing my soule mate right before my eyes. We had the best night together. And me, not having many friends and dont get to get out much, had the time of my life. I know kissing on a first date may seem a little to fast, but it was all so perfect that night. I kept saying to myself, how could I have been so lucky to have found this guy. If he was any more perfect, I would swear he was an angel. Well, a couple days ago, he wasnt himself. He wouldnt call me and he only text me a few words. I was upset and a little confused. he never done that before. Well, last night he called and explained and said he was sorry. As of last night, my whole world just shaddered before me. He was diagnosed with cancer that day he didnt want to talk. He had a soar throught and was having a hard time. I have always believed in God and all, but just reciently really started really wanting to know more and get more involved. But, I still have so many questions. Such as: Why would he take my only best friend in the whole world? I havent been able to stop crying since he told me. I live an hour away from him, and I am raising my five kids. I really feel helppless that I cant be there for him. I dont know what I can do for him. Does anyone have any Ideas? He told me he to has only had two best friends in his life, and I am one of them. I love this guy so much and i dont even know how to tell him. We havent known each other all that long, but i still feel it down in my soul. We wont know till today sometime what the outcome looks like. Were the cancer is and how much spreading it has done. So, yea, I have meet someone online and just receintly. And I fell inlove with him. And now, I feel like I am being punished. Now he may be taken away from me. Feelings like this only come once in a life time. I know I will never feel this way again for anyone.
Yea, mine turned out to be the most wonderful moment in my life, but not everyones does. Please be careful meeting people online. And If anyone has any suggestions how to get through this hard time, plese let me know.

Alisha - posted on 04/19/2012




Well, I met my current amazing boyfriend online and I know several people who married someone they met online. I have also met several creepy men online who were extremely desperate and wanted to meet after talking for 3 days & were always talking about a honeymoon. I mean, i would look up warning signs and if you have a bad feeling about talking to someone, then tell them then end communication right away. It's good to talk for awhile before meeting & make sure you drive separate, meet public & tell several people where you're going. Also remember people will show their best (or fake) self in the beginning of getting to know someone, so be careful about that! Don't be too trusting.

Dawn - posted on 04/17/2012




This really caught my eye. I have meet 3 guys on line. None of them were bad, but totally not what I expected. It never worked out with any of them. I do agree hundred percent to take it safe. Meet in public and always tell someone where you are going. Not just once, but maby even a few times. Guys are good at playing games for a long period of time. Especially if they really want something.
I do have to say, in your case, it does seem he knows you and really does take interest. He doesnt sound like someone who would hurt you, but just to be safe, please keep it safe.
I still talk to people online, i havent met anyone for over two years though. Not really interested in meeting anyone. At night when my kids are in bed and I have moments to myself, its great just to be able to get online and chat with grownups. That really helps me from being to lonely. I know its not the same, but it still feels good knowing there are friends online waiting to chat.

Marcy - posted on 04/15/2012




I started dating a guy online and we have been dating for almost 3 years. He is the father figure to my son and we have been talking marriage and more kids. Dating online can be great!!! But be very careful as well. People can say anything on line regardless if its true or not, people can even post pictures that are not really themselves online. If you decide to meet... make it somewhere very public. Let someone know where you are before you go just in case, and if you get any bad vibes... do not be afraid to cut the date short and tell him you are not interested.

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Like the others have said - take it slowly, meet in a public place for coffee. worth asking the mutual friend for some low down on this guy. Interesting that this guy asked your ex if it was OK with him that you dated you.

Certainly it shows that he knows/acknowledges that he's seen you before and let you know when/where rather than just liking the picture he saw.

Nothing wrong with getting to know him, before taking the plunge and becoming an item. Take your time and don't feel that you have to rush into a relationship.

Kari - posted on 04/13/2012




WOW, that's pretty AMAZING that he e-mailed your daughter's father for permission...possibly overstepping bounds, but it definitely shows he's interested!
If I were you, I would definitely ask you mutual friend about him; they might not be willing to tell you much, but it's worth a shot!

Like the other person said, meet in public, etc. & get to know him a little bit before you actually meet. My advice would be to meet for coffee (not dinner), something light & low-key.

I met my present boyfriend (single father of 1 girl) on a dating website (the most advertised, paid, legit site out there) & things are going extremely well. Our first date was dinner on Valentine's Day (no pressure there! LOL) but it turned out great.
If you are ready to date as a single mom, get out there & do it! Just make sure he is worth your time :)

S. - posted on 04/13/2012




Just take care and stick to the rules, meet in public places, let people know were you will be ext. My best friend met her now husband in a Internet cafe and her sister met her now husband on a date site, also my husbands best friend met a girl over the Internet it didn't work out but she was a lovely girl and the two of then are good friends now. There's a lot of bad stories too that why I must stress to be careful but you can be one of the good stories! Good luck :)

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