Help me get my almost 5 year old to eat!! He won't even try food. Yogurt, granola bars, raisins, bananas, cereal and peanut butter on a spoon. I'm so worried about him. I kept thinking he would grow out of it but he's about to start school! I feel like I've tried everything and the doctor just thinks he's spoiled.

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Caz - posted on 04/22/2009

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My son was exactly the same even after he started school...he started going to after school care and peer pressure sure helped but what helped more was the dad at ASC he put the food in front of him...that was all there was and nothing else...he would even give it to them at breakfast the next morning....when they are hungry they will eat what is put in front of them...also so you know it takes 30 times for them to taste something before their body really doesn't like the taste ! May sound hard...but it sure works...btw I am a single mum and he eats 95% of what is put in front of him.....don't let him control the situation but all choice...if there is nothing else don't offer a choice....on the other hand...he will eat one day !! Good luck x

Carol - posted on 04/22/2009

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I have been where ur at with my second son and i followed the above rules to the letter. I found that if u set dinner as normal including the fussy kid and when mealtime is over remove all the food from the table and allow no more that they will learn fairly quickly that if they want to eat its whats on the table at the set time.

I know it sounds cruel but i had battles around mealtimes for 2 years before i followed these guidelines and the once fussy kid is now always first to finish!!!! I never do reheated food as i think it encourages them to have snacking tendencies as opposed to mealtime routines. Hope this helps

Neera - posted on 04/21/2009

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I totally understand where you are coming from. My son used to be an OBNOXIOUSLY picky eater. Chicken nuggets all the way. We used to fight about food all the time and I was at a loss as to what to do. My niece and nephew will eat anything and it even hampered which restaurants we could go to with family and friends!

I started by picking one or two foods I knew he would eat and introduce something new a few times a week. I told him the rule of the house is he had to TRY one small bite and if he didn't like it, he didn't have to eat the rest of it. I would re-introduce the food a week later and follow the same rule. Now he is eating all kinds of things and tried everything at least once. The key is to stay mellow, don't make it a big deal, but LOTS of praise when he follows through. Another trick I used on him was to tell him NOT to eat what was on his plate, and because he's a corker, he would eat it just to spite me:)

I also really like the book How Do Dinosaurs Eat Their Food. The whole series is really cute and gives really good messages!

Good luck and don't despair! I try to make sure that he is getting veggies and fruit at least 5 of the 7 days and don't force too much healthy stuff all the time. Sometimes, as a treat and a break from the mealtime battle, we will eat low fat popcorn and water for dinner! That then becomes another incentive for them to eat better at mealtimes!

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Cut out all the extra juice, junk food, no special meals etc, set the table , put out healthy food, and then IGNOR him. You have created a power struggle where none needs to be. When he is hungry he will eat, all that energy needs a power supply :). Fussing only increases the problem, so don't fuss.

Irene - posted on 04/20/2009

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Hi Carrie
I agree with Sheretta. I found with my girl that the more I tried to make her eat, the more resistance she put up. Eventually, I just restricted alot of her "junk" food items and I relaxed at the dinner table. If she didn't want to eat I'd say "OK, when you get hungry Mom will reheat your supper for you" I made like it was no big deal and before I knew it she started eating better. Try not to worry; the doctor is right, your son will eat when he is hungry enough.

Sheretta - posted on 04/20/2009

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Hi Carrie. What is he taking in? What kinds of liquids or what solids will he tolerate? I now have a 15yo but we had lots and lots of boring lunches and dinners ages 3-8 I believe. Lots of plain rice, cereal anything I saw her enjoy, I gave it mindful of sweets and balancing out the nutrition. My nieces ages 2 and 5 were somewhat the same, they loved bagels and toast etc. As the doctors have said in the past, they will eat when hungry enough.,Take some food, make a game or shapes or cool paper plates, cups utensils..It's hard as heck being a single mom, and if you don't have a lot of money, hit the dollar stores and the lil guy will get a kick out of new dinnerware ever so often. DONT GIVE UP YOU ARE ALREADY AHEAD OF THE GAME, YOU LOVE, CARE AND ARE SEEKING HELP... rOCK ON MAMA

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