help with postnatal depression

Steph - posted on 01/28/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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has anyone been diagnosed with postnatal depression and then had to change there whole life around because it went down the toilet? any useful suggestions or anything

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Courtney - posted on 02/14/2009

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Hi there

I found that my whole life was destroyed even though I have these 2 amazing babies that have done so well and come so far I just find it so hard to see through the darkness. I attemted to have a relationship with someone that meant the world to me but unfortunatley because of my crazy state of mind that fell apart and once again found myself at rock bottom.

I got help from a local support center and got onto medication. It was vey hard to get the ball rolling in the right direction but its been about 6 months now and Im no where near being better but Im alot closer than I use to be. I can happily enjoy my days with my babies and on most days can actually be happy.

I think what helped me the most was getting onto the medication and very very slowly finding different ways to help myself. I found that on my "good" days Id plan thing me and the kids could do that week, I have a list that I always add too of different activites we can do so on those "bad" days you can scan over that list and find something to shift your mind to a better place.

I find that my worst times happen when I havent had enough sleep and I over think thing while trying to get to sleep. When this happens I plan something nice so I can get the yuck thoughts out of my head and go to sleep thinking about the nice thing I have planned.

Im not sure if my suggestions helped you but feel free to add me as a friend, im always happy to help out other mums in the same situation as me.

Amanda - posted on 01/31/2009

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Oh - and if you need someone - feel free to add me as a friend and I can do what I can! I can share my hardships with you but I never know if that makes people feel bad or worse. I went through I very rough time before birth, and after birth. There were times I thought nothing would ever get better. The good news is it did and my son and I are all the more stronger for what we have made it through!

Amanda - posted on 01/31/2009

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I was diagnosed with clinical depression/anxiety years before my son was born. I have been on medication and when I was pregnant was able to quit taking it. However, it kicked back in and postnatel depression on top of it made it that much worse. I would make sure you have a good support system and seek the advice of a doctor. Make sure that if you have ANY feelings of hurting yourself or your baby that you tell someone. They will not think you are crazy and try to tae your baby away. I finally called my doctor when one night I found myself screaming at my poor crying baby. I never hurt him but I did have thoughts of doing so - that was the first thing the doctor asked me when I called her. Stay strong because it will get better! I think some helpful things are to get as much daylight as you can, make time for yourself if at all possible, and try to get as much sleep as you can. I know the later 2 can be very tough with a new baby - but hopefully you have someone that is willing to help out. ( I didn't which made it that much worse!) You may want to look for a support group or seek out a good friend that you can unload on with no worries :)

Good luck to you - keep youself and the baby safe :)

Vicki - posted on 01/29/2009

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hey it can be hard and i agree with all that the other mums said, if you think your lifes gone down the toilet the only way is up tho right?!!!



You have to tackle the depression first then you will be strong , confident, and looking forward to rebuilding your life the way you want it.



For me altho i never thought it was something i would ever have to do and i hated going the first time i found a support group for PND mums, I had 3 failed attempts at going to the first meeting , panic attacks and all, it was in a play grroup setting so we all had our children with us, but was able to have a one on one chat with social workers, health visitors, and other health professionals if we wanted.



It was the best thing i ever done and i made some really good friends , and changed my whole life!



Have a look on the net or even better ask at your health clinic for advice or a refferal to one of these family centres,,good luck and i hope youo start feeling better soon.

Allie1972 - posted on 01/29/2009

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I agree with Melissa.  Get help and support!  I had horrible postpartum depression after the birth of both of my children.  Lots of us have gone through it - you're not alone.  I know how hard it is to talk about and you should be proud of yourself for reaching out here and talking about it.  Don't be afraid to open up to people - especially family, friends, your Doctor.  It is nothing to be ashamed of.  There may even be some postnatal groups you can join in your community - check with your Mental Health Unit in the area or with the Children's Unit.  Also, read up on it.  Get a good book from the library. 



The scariest part for me was the violent thoughts and suicidal feelings.  If you have any of these GO TO THE DOCTOR IMMEDIATELY.   Do not wait.  Get the support and help you need.  If you need someone to talk to, I'm here.



Hugs, A.

Melissa - posted on 01/28/2009

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I had postpartum depression although I also had depression while I was pregnant. I think my life went down the toilet and then I got depressed though! I guess the best advice I can give you is to ask for help...with the baby or with the laundry or just to talk... Whether it be your Mom, a friend, a therapist, doctor or better yet, all of the above... Just make sure you have a support system in place!

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