How can I get my 4yr old to fall asleep on her own in her own bed?


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Crystal - posted on 02/02/2010




I know how you feel this is all a work in progess. My daughter is also four and never used to have this problem til about a year ago when she got really sick and I always wanted to be at her side so I let her sleep in my bed with me. Now 1 year later its hit and miss we have our good days and our bad days. Recentlly I've started letting her know that if she wants me to decorate her room like a big girls room She needs to be a big girl and sleep in her own bed like a big girl. SO once we can get that down and keep it that way for at least 4 weeks then we will go and picka paint colour and if she can go another 4 weeks inturn we will go pick out curtains till I think she's got it down then I'll just finish the rest. Now in the begiging it was little things like I'd read her a book of her choice. Also try those Febreeze night lights things I let her pick her fav smell ( direct her towards LAvendar) Anything LAvendar scented help to calm people so Getting those Lavendar filled teddys from Avon or a baby store is a great investment or even putting a sprig of LAvendar in her Pillow case(She'll never know its there) I also still to this day use Johnson bed time bath on her and the lotion it's loaded with LAvendar (or as they say Calming escences) Also right after diner we like to get out for a walk a good 1/2 hour or even dancing around the house for a good half hour limit her TV time in the evening then she's forced to play and wear out her Sillies(as we call them) If you giving a snack in the evening give it at least an hour before bed time then it has time to settle in her stomach. Thus not keepin her awake cause he body is still working on something else and is unable to relax. I also still keep with the Infant massage on now I just massage her shoulders and back and her feet too if she's been a really good girl. Now you by all means don't need to do it all every night I sure don't but its good to have many different ideasn to try out and roll with! I hope this has helped you out some how. AS I know its taken me forever and I'm still working out a few kinks but I'll let you know if I find anything else that works for this!~!!! BE thinking bout you tonight when I'm putting her to bed hoping your having good luck also!!!!

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Tiffany - posted on 02/02/2010




no more naps, let her play all day find all kind of things 4 her to do.then if she have a t.v in her room let her watch her video then she should be out like a light

Becky - posted on 01/31/2010




I have the exact same problem with my 4yr old son. He is always wanting to sleep in my room with me. It has gotten a little easier since I got him a "big boy" bed for xmas..but for some reason he doesn't seem to think he need to sleep. EVERY night he does the same thing over and over..pulls the sheets off the name it he does it. I feel like I have tried just about everything to get him to go to sleep but nothing seems to work.From saying just ignore a swat on the closing the door..taking the story time away for the evening. So...if any of you have any ideas please let me know.

Bonnie - posted on 01/30/2010




not sure if i can actually help, but i will encourage you to get it fixed asap if you can.

oh yeah. its a problem. pretty much same story as sheri plus combo that with being a preemie, and spoiled and all that. she was about 5 before i could really get her to sleep in her own room, and by then i was engaged. even then, every chance she got or when she would wake up, she'd come right back with me.
I never minded it, but i understood the problems it would cause once i did date/get married etc. and it did.
but like sheri said, there were lots of tears, crying, screaming and sleepless nights. and that was just me! but it did come down to being strict, firm, in control and not backing down. from me and the husband.
she's 9 now, we just separated, and the first thing she did was lay claim back to my bed. again, i dont mind and i rarely sleep , so have at it.

good luck!

Sheri - posted on 01/29/2010




I have had this problem. I moved back closer to my family after my divorce. I got a 2 bedroom appt. but my daughter did not want to sleep in her own bed she had to sleep with me. I needed up getting her to sleep in there by starting off when she fell asleep I but her in her own bed. Then my fan had to go in her room to act like she was in my room. Now she sleeps in her own bed ever night with a fan on and a night light. I love it. Its hard at first when they scream and cry but you have to stay hard and not give in to them.

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