How can I word this????

Antonia - posted on 05/06/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I am planning on taking my son on holiday overseas and so I need to get him a passport.

To do this, I have to have his fathers consent and so I have to write him a letter.

I haven't spoken with his dad in almost a year and he has not seen my son either, or tried to get in contact with us.

So, I am stuck with what to write.... should i write and just ask him to get in contact or should I get straight to the point and ask about the passport in the initial letter??! I am overwhelmed with this and just dont know how to go about it. I dont want him to know where I live either, beacuse I dont know what state of mind he may be in etc.



If I cant get hold of him I can apply to leave him out on the grounds of not being able to find him.....



PLEASE HELP!!!!

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Cathy - posted on 05/08/2009

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Then you should not have a problem, just say that you don't know where he is and that you haven't seen the father in years. You are the main parent in this case.

Antonia - posted on 05/07/2009

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The father carries my surname. But his father is named on the birth certificate so his name is irrelevent i believe.

Cathy - posted on 05/07/2009

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Does your son carry your surname or the fathers? If he carries yours then the father has no say in the matter.

Antonia - posted on 05/06/2009

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Yeah, I am a kiwi too :) That is plan b if i cant get my son and aussie passport!!

Kirstin - posted on 05/06/2009

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In new zealand only one parent has to give consent on a passport, and if its causing you this much worry it would be best to leave him out all together. I havent heard my kids father in a lil while now and I wouldnt contact him just for that. Good Luck

Antonia - posted on 05/06/2009

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I would love to just say that I cant find him, but have to explore all possible avenues to find him first. Thanks for your advise :)

Laura - posted on 05/06/2009

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I agree, if you dont know what state of mind the father is in and your worried then why bother him? Just say you are unable to find him therefore unable to contact him

Anna - posted on 05/06/2009

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I would either get straight to the point in the first letter or just say you couldn't find him or he never responded and just get the passport for your son.

Kelly - posted on 05/06/2009

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Honestly, I would just apply on the grounds that you cannot find him because he hasn't been involved, hasen't seen him, and hasen't tried to contact you, so I don't think that he should have any right to be involved in what you and your son do.......if you are worried about what he is going to do after you contact him, I just wouldn't do it......thats what I think, do what you think is best....good luck

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