How do I deal with my "terrible two year old" terrorizing my other children, and myself?

Elizabeth - posted on 04/08/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I'm a single mom of 3, ages 6, 4, 2. My two year old is the youngest and by far, the wildest child I have had. She is the extreme of everything, I know it's just her independance and personality, but I feel so bad for my other two kids. Nothing is sacred! They can't play, color, read, watch tv, or sometimes even eat, in peace! I keep trying to distract/play with her, and I explain to the other kids, that it its her age, but then they really resent her, and I can't blame them. Plus, I have things to do around the house, bills, cooking, etc. so, I can't be with her ALL the time.I just keep thinking about all the creative play they could be having if it weren't for her. I let them play in there rooms, but they prefer to be in the living room mostly, and my two year old is relentless on banging on the doors, kicking them with her feet, etc.



What's a mom to do?

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Angelina - posted on 04/09/2009

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hi i only have one child a boy but i do have a 2 year old nephew who is going though this he can be a pain but also really lovely when he isnt playing up...he gets away with most things with his mum and i dont like it cos then he thinks he can get away with it with anyone....my boy is 10 and loves playing with charlie until he starts fighting, im lucky cos my boy is very calm even when charlie plays up....i use the naughty corner with charlie and he likes to throw fits but i put him back every time he moves finally he stop screaming and gives hugs to say sorry....also if u say u r going to do something do it dont give in and only give one warning as the more u give the worst they get...each time u tell them why they r put on the naughty step,room,or corner...dont shout stay calm then walk away....this is very hard to do i know...but keep it up and they will learn...if u can get u other children involed in a game and ur 2 year old plays up put then in a corner so they can see u playing go back to ur game with ur onther kids and soon ur 2 year old will want to play nicely....plus do ur other kids go to bed later than ur 2yr old as u can then spend some time with them...i hope this helps wanted to put more but dont want to bore u with my rambling..lol....good luck

Amber - posted on 04/09/2009

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I just want to let you know you are not alone in this department!! My Daughter will be 2 on the 20th and WOW is she testing my patience, as well as the patience of her 8 year old sister. I find myself making the 8 year old give up a toy, or let her sister in her room only to STOP the screaming!! I know it is bad and only adding to her "badness" but it breaks my heart to hear her so upset. Everyone says "you have to be firm" and I definately have my days, but for the majority I give in A LOT!! If you find anything that works, I'm all ears.....

Melissa - posted on 04/08/2009

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WOW i never thought any child was like my 3 year old son until i just read what you wrote. I dont have a answer to your question but i feel we are dealing with the same exact issues. I hope you dont mind that i am writing you even though i dont have any answer to your question. I thought maybe we could chat and help eachother out in some way, even if its just to talk. No one i know understands what i go through or have ever delt with a child that behaves in this manner.  I have 3 other children ages 6,8&9 and they really resent my youngest, im starting to feel so bad and im totally lost for what to do. This is my first time on here so im not to sure how it works but i do hope to hear from you. Take care   

Denise - posted on 04/08/2009

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I only have one son, but he's a handful and sounds a bit like your 2yo. Best advice I got was: when other children are upset by the behaviour, ignore 2yo (maybe use timeout) and pay attention to other children. Plus reinforcement of good behaviour through praise and reward. Took a while but we got there.

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