how do i make my kids pick up there mess without yelling ?

Qnikka - posted on 03/06/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




they will have toys everywhere and when i tell them to pick them up they tell me no. and like when they make a mess they just leave it their and i have to yell and they get an attitude and want talk to me until they want something...


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Deanna - posted on 03/06/2010




I don't yell about it at all... I have learned the art of negotiation with my two year old... She loves to watch movies. So there has to be a compromise somewhere. So she picks up her toys (with my help) and then she can watch her movies.

Bonnie Jean - posted on 03/06/2010




Make it a game....that you will have to play with them, at first, of course....1. See who can pick up the most toys, the fastest or whatever parameters you want to put on the game, the winner will get."...." 2. if they are toddlers sing the clean up song and help them clean up. 3. If they are in elementary school , make a Saturday box...if after you ask them to pick up their toys and they do not do it in 30 minutes ,when you return, the toys go into the Saturday box and they do not get them back until the next Saturday! Make sure you have a calender so you can mark the days off so they will know when the toys will be available.

Jenny - posted on 03/06/2010




Have a fun thing planned that they really love doing, then tell them they need to clean first and have fun when their done. Also give them each a task, like Joe picks up all of the clothes and Mary picks up all of the trucks so they know exactly what they need to do and it breaks it into smaller jobs.

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dont let them do anything else till its all picked up, no tv, no going out, no NOTHING!!
go about your stuff and dont talk to them until they have tidied up.

how old are they??

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I wouldn't yell at all. I would simply tell them they need to clean up their mess/room and then walk away. If they don't clean a thing, that's fine, just know they won't be able to watch tv, go outside, get a snack, etc. They can't have what they want until you get what you want. I rarely yell at my kids. They know I mean what I say. When they ask me for something (without having done what they were supposed to do), I just look pointedly at the mess and then look back at whatever I was doing. It takes a while to get them used to it and for them to know that you mean it, but its worth it.

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