HOW DO I TALK TO MY 12YEAR OLD SON ABOUT SEX

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Angela - posted on 05/21/2009

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LOL!!! My partner had this problem when my 6 yr old asked him what sex was when i wasnt around. He was only 18, and not her father, so he had absolutely NO IDEA what to say to her! He is now worried what to do if she gets her period while its hes alone with her. shes only 9, but going thru puberty. Our thoughts on these issues are to be honest, keep it age appropriate, make it clear that it a thing that happens when two people love each other and are both ready, and teach him about safe sex as soon as possible! Despite what people say, using the correct and scientific terms is not always the best way, often it embarrasses teenagers when their parents speak like that. i think the best approach would be to sit him down and tell him you understand that he is getting close to puberty age now, and that if their are any questions he has not to be embarrased to ask you. Whatever you do... DO NOT TELL HIM YOU READ HIS BOOK!!! He wont trust you any more, or if you do tell him explain you didnt know it was personal, and it will never happen again. good luck with this, i hope you and your son continue to have a close and trusting relationship.

Samantha - posted on 05/20/2009

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very open and honest i sat my step-sons down used correct terms and then educated on the down side to not using safe sex also told them if they couldnt figure out trig in math not to even try and figure out a girl yet ... lol open and upfront is the best approach

AISHA - posted on 05/18/2009

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thanx alot/i found a book where my son wrote how is body hAS BEEN CHanging/and he gets horny and hard

Tosha - posted on 05/18/2009

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If you have a male in the family that would be helpful. I spoke with my son and it was not hard at all... We have the kind of relationship that is open and he knows he is able to speak to me about anything... Honesty and trust is first... I informed him that he is now 15 and having adult thoughts and that is normal.. if, he feel that he has that urge, stop and think first. He knows how hard it was for me and I do want him to attend college without having to take care of a young child. His father was never there for him but by God's Grace, he still had a dad... If, for a chance, protection is needed... please come to me ahead of time... nothing just happens, u have to want it to. So, just ask your kid to have faith and trust that u want what's best for him.. I am a nurse and i have shown him pictures and he's been in clinics to witness the good, bad and ugly...

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