how do u handle bad children

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Camilla - posted on 05/17/2009

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My sister ones told me what her father -in-law said when her daughter was born: "Don´t say "NO" unless you absolutely have to. Once you´ve said "No", you stick to it"

I think a lot of the battles come from the mixed signals we send as parents, and that we sometimes fight for principles that are downright silly.

Kristil - posted on 05/17/2009

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As a teacher and a mother of six, I have learned that you have to choose your battles. Are there "bad" kids? Well, yes...but it is usually when they are closer to adulthood and have made conscious decisions to be that way. Generally speaking, there are just attention seeking and obnoxious behaviors that drive us insane. I try to ask myself if the particular behavior is going to matter a year from now, ten years, etc. There are wonderful web sites with ideas for behavior modifications. Not all of them work with every child so be prepared to try different things.

Camilla - posted on 05/17/2009

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One has to realize that kids is just learning about life and will try anything just to se what happens. Common sense, a huge portion of humor and an ability to listen, on the parents part, often goes a long way, at leats when the kids are small.

Eboni - posted on 05/16/2009

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it can be very frustrating when your kids are not living up to your expectations, but in the end I have to agree if they are not destroying anything or injuring themselves or others they are probably just being kids. Kids definitely have loads more energy than we can even begin to imagine and all that extra energy must short circuit their little brains because they can come up with some really off the wall things to get into and usually at the most inappropriate time. Nonetheless as much as mine drive me CRAZY i am miserable when its not my weekend to have them.

Valerie - posted on 05/16/2009

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There are no bad children! There are naughty children. some time they do things just so they can have your attention, be it good or naughty. If you tell your kids they are bad, that's exactley what you are going to get.They figure if that's what mom says we are then thats what she will get. I know it's hard, because i've been there and done that, but i tried real hard to be positive, so my kids changed there attitudes.Tell then even when that even though their beeing naughty, that you will never stop loveing them. It wont change over night, but you eventually see a change. GOOD LUCK!!

Jessica - posted on 05/16/2009

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Kids aren't bad & it would help taking that word out of your house. Try doing something with them to keep them busy. Idle hands are the devils tools, so keep them busy. It should be easier now that they weather is getting nicer. Don't be afraid to get on the jungle gym with them at the playground or play a game of basketball together.

Candra - posted on 05/15/2009

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i konw that's right it's just frusting at time lol if i was like mine i would take it back and would have been an angel lol

Jada - posted on 05/15/2009

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Let's be honest...unless they have destroyed something or injured themselves, they are just being themselves. If you take the time to think the way they did to get them in that predicament you find them in...you will find it hard to fuss without laughing. Remember...you once thought the way they do now :)

Lynsey - posted on 05/15/2009

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children aren't bad its how they are brought up nd if they have any special needs

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