how do u handle stubborn children

Lashawna - posted on 05/21/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 6years old since day one she has gotten her way. grandma has spoiled her iam trying to break the habit but when she crys i just give in wat do i do

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Hazel - posted on 05/23/2009

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Quoting Cheryl:

You are the parent, you are in charge, you make the rules and STICK to them. Otherwise you are creating a monster. Children need rules, children need structure, and you need to correct grandma's mistakes soon or she will be an out of control preteen and inserious trouble. Give her rules with consequences and stick to them no matter how much she and granny cry over it.


Totally agree!!

Stephanie - posted on 05/22/2009

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You can break her bad habits – it will be tough but it will be worth it. The hardest part is being consistent. Let her know what you expect, set your rules and follow them.



Try this - When she cries about not getting her way remove her that situation and put her in a “thinking spot” something similar to a time out. Ours is located in the entryway that way there are no toys to play with or TV to watch while she is “thinking” about her actions and the consequences to those actions. This also gives you a chance to walk away and catch your breath if the situation is getting out of control. After everyone has had a chance to calm down you can come back and ask her why her actions got her sent to the thinking spot. She can tell or you can tell her so that she can start to understand that her behavior will not be tolerated. After a while as with any discipline she will spend less and less time in the thinking spot.



She is old enough to understand that there are different rules at home then at Grandma’s too. I went through this some with my daughter. She would come home from visiting her dad and was a little tyrant. I could accept that she was tired and deal with that but I was not willing to accept her being rude and unruly so slowly but surely she understood what behavior is acceptable at home and what she can get away with at her dad’s.



I hope this helps. You are definitely not alone in going through this and one day your daughter will appreciate the time you took to help her grow up to be a considerate young lady – albeit not today or tomorrow :).

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You are the parent, you are in charge, you make the rules and STICK to them. Otherwise you are creating a monster. Children need rules, children need structure, and you need to correct grandma's mistakes soon or she will be an out of control preteen and inserious trouble. Give her rules with consequences and stick to them no matter how much she and granny cry over it.

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