how do you balance your child when they are in a spilt home

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Brenda - posted on 03/20/2009

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All you can do is be consistent with them. Show them that you will always be there for them and that you love them no matter what. Everything will work itself out and fall into place!!

Crystal - posted on 03/20/2009

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I have the same problem.... the father of my kids thinks that he can be the fun parent and doesn't disapline at all, lets my 4 year old stay up all night watching tv and lets my 19 month old son run wild... no matter what i say he doesn't change and every time they come back from his place my daughter seems to hate me. I'm pretty sure that he's not saying anything negitive to her about me. I'm thinking that she seems to be hating me because daddy doesn't put his foot down and i do. She's always saying stuff like "Daddy let me do that"

Jessica - posted on 03/20/2009

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Quoting Kim:

My 2 boys are now 18 and 15. I divorced their father when the youngest one was almost 2. I have always made sure that my boys knew what the rules of MY house were and consistently enforced/reinforced my rules. I also made sure that the ex-husband understood that one day he woould have to buckle down and become something more than the fun parent. We also agreed that we would have to be civil to one another because we have children together and would have to deal with each other as parents until they are at least 18 years old. It is a lot of work to make sure your child understands your rules and that they will be enforced no matter what or where infractions occur. Understand that this is a battle worth fighting and definitely winning for the sake of your child's future. I see a lot of kids at school who have no consistency and therefore lack respect for the rules.



i agree 100% with you ,but when you have an ex like mine and a father like him ,, meaning he try so hard to make me look like the bad one ,,,there is no consistency with him , and the total oppsite rules ,, and he is not civil!!!! how do you get past that ? or work together? i know in my heart what is right for my daughter , and how i have to mold her to be a bettyer person in this life , to be prepared for a better life for her ,but how do i convince him to do the same? :(

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My 2 boys are now 18 and 15. I divorced their father when the youngest one was almost 2. I have always made sure that my boys knew what the rules of MY house were and consistently enforced/reinforced my rules. I also made sure that the ex-husband understood that one day he woould have to buckle down and become something more than the fun parent. We also agreed that we would have to be civil to one another because we have children together and would have to deal with each other as parents until they are at least 18 years old. It is a lot of work to make sure your child understands your rules and that they will be enforced no matter what or where infractions occur. Understand that this is a battle worth fighting and definitely winning for the sake of your child's future. I see a lot of kids at school who have no consistency and therefore lack respect for the rules.

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