How do you get your child off the pacifier?

Abigail - posted on 05/12/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I can't seem to make it "easier" for my son to get rid of his binky. Any suggestions on how to try and make it easier on him? I have tried stuffed animals and special blankets, but nothing seems to work.

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Laura - posted on 05/19/2009

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Set a goal with him - do something that is for "big boys" only - and if he wants to keep doing "big boy things that he'll have to give it up!

Lindsay - posted on 05/19/2009

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I heard, yet heaven't tried, if you cut about an 1/8 of an inch off the tip every Sunday eventually your child will give it up on their own. This allows them to still have it for security purposes i.e. carrying it around, and your not taking it away unwillingly but it also defeats the purpose and they start to notice. One day they will leave it behind! Good luck. It works best with younger children so hopefully yours itsn't over the age of two.

Almighty_mush - posted on 05/19/2009

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its easier when the child is the youngest i found with my son i managed to get him off his dummy by 2 and half and he went ages without one but then my daughter was born an wouldnt settle without one an he would steal dummys and hide them an have them in bed an still does now an then an hes 4 but abis 22 months now so think its time to see if shes ready to give it up and hopefully when she does no more dummys in the house will mean no more for my boy

Gracie - posted on 05/18/2009

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my daughter is 33 months old and she still has her dummy, but her father and i seperated when she was 13 months old and he has since put her thru alot of traumatic experiences so i have let her keep it, as he always takes her dummy and her blankie off her when she goes to stay.

but i am expecting twins at the end of august and we have already moved her into a boster seat and got her her to give her car seats to the twins so we are hoping to do the same with the dummy. she also chews it chronically... so i am thinking of trying the 'chop off the end' solution if this one doesn't work.

i did like the suggestion of putting it in a teddy. that was cute and worked!

but i think making it their idea also works well too.

this is definately lilys last dummy. if she ruins this one thats it.

so we're trying afew different things...!

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Mine was 18 mths and he got a head cold, he had a running nose and couldn't suck on his 'pacie' so we took that opportunity to gather them all and throw them out right then. It took a week for his cold to completely clear up and he simply forgot about them (out of sight out of mind).

Mandy - posted on 05/18/2009

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With my daughter we took it away right after her first birthday. I cut the tip off and she brought it to me wanting me to 'fix it'. I told her it was broken so we had to throw it away. Of course she had another one that she found a couple of days later. I got a cheese stick out (she loved them at the time) and asked if I could trade her. After that whenever we saw a binky I explained to her that they were for babies and that she was a big girl. She never threw a fit but it took about a month before she didn't want one if she saw one but out of sight out of mind. It may be a little late for you but I think for the other moms that are reading this the key is to get rid of it early. We kept it until she was 1 since there some studies show it may help prevent SIDS if they sleep with it. My orthodontist reccomended getting rid of it ASAP fo her oral health so we dumped it as soon as the risk of SIDS was gone.

Staycee - posted on 05/17/2009

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I just did it cold turkey one night I just took it away and I had one night of him being mad and that was it and I was more attached than he was.

Sarah - posted on 05/17/2009

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I really think it needs to be their idea to get rid of it. Below one of the moms said explaining it like they are "a big boy/girl now" worked as well. I remember when my daughter was almost 3. She was getting ready to be potty trained that summer and it was also time to throw away her "ba". Thats what we called her passy. Come to find out this girl had 6 of them stashed around the house and she brought them all to me when I told her that it was time to throw away the "ba" because she was a big girl. She threw them all away herself and she was very proud of herself! Not to mention how proud I was of her. She replaced her "ba" with a blanket that her "mammaw" gave her. She is almost 11 and still sleeps with that blanket either with her or near her. Its just something that they have to be ready for but you have to encourage the change. It saved me a lot of crying and screaming, to make her think it was her idea. If she asked where it was I would just remind her that she is a big girl and she doesnt need her "ba" anymore. She would do the typical 3 year old thing and get interested in something else. I hope this helps a little or gives you a starting place.

Christine - posted on 05/12/2009

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I don't really think that there is an easy way to do it. I had tried to just not give my son his passy but then he would scream and I would give in but he started chewing them and I had to start thowing them away because he broke them. So I told him that if he kept chewing them and ruening them that I wasn't going to buy anymore so when there was no more there was no more. I still had to go thru all the screaming and stuff but it was easier because there was no passy to give him even if I would give in. Eventually he stopped looking for them. I like to think its the "out of sight out of mind" thing.

User - posted on 05/12/2009

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This may not help at all, but it worked for my little girl. I encouraged her in advance to her 3rd birthday that when she turned 3 yrs old she was no longer a baby but a big girl and she can keep her blanket but she can not have her binky any more because big girls (boys) don't have binky's in their mouth. ( I always made sure pretty much from the beginning that the binky was only allowed at nap, bed time or true sick days. Never allowed walking around with a binky in the mouth become way to much of a habit rather than a comfort. I began reading her Bye Bye Binky and other books like that to encourage that older kids don't have them. Then the day came. She was taken to Build a Bear workshop and she choose a stuffed animal and she placed all her Binky's inside so she could still sleep with them in the animal just not in her mouth. Made sure she always has her animal and her binky and she transitioned with out it extremely well. Hope some of that will help in the process for your little man.

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