How do you move into the dating scene when leaving your child's father?

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Katie - posted on 04/29/2009

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I agree with Lawana; take it slow. But as for waiting until your kids are 18 to date, that's a bit unreasonable in my opinion. You deserve to have fun, casually date, and hopefully, eventually find that special someone, just like someone without kids. I made the mistake of introducing a male friend to my son too soon, though and really regretted it when the relationship ended. So I would definitely recommend waiting to do this until you are sure what kind of person he is. The man I am with now and I waited over 6 months to meet eachother's kids. I had a real good idea of his character and waited until our relationship got a bit more serious to involve the kids. In short, enjoy yourself! I don't think you need to be celibate until your kids are grown, you deserve happiness, too. Just proceed with caution when involving your kids! Good luck!

Emily - posted on 04/17/2009

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I am in the same process. I have a strict rule that no men meet my daughter. It has to be someone damn special. I just want to know why there is such a double standard for men with kids, they see them and women go crazy, men just see us with a child and run for the door.

Lisa - posted on 04/17/2009

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well, i think u shouldnt go out looking for a man but if u just happen to meet someone u like just go for it. as long as he respects u and your child then i dont see whats the problem.just make sure u show love to your child first and your child be your first priority then its okay. i dont think u should wait till the child is 18. why would your child want u to be a depressed lonely women. your child wants u to be happy. just as long as u know children always come first men second. u can always find a new man but your child is yours forever.

Lawana - posted on 04/16/2009

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I agree with you Misty to a degree. My only thing is it fair to a single mother to be alone til your kid(s) are 18?

Misty - posted on 04/16/2009

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It depends on how old your child is. If they are under the age of 18 I wouldn't recommend dating. Our children deserve our focus, not to split it between them and some stranger. You run too many risks of having a man that doesn't get a long with your kids or tries to hurt them. Good luck.

Lawana - posted on 04/15/2009

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You have to take it slow....Try to keep any male friends out of your childs life as long as possible. If you can't try to make it during day time and try not to show to much affection towards each other and just explain to your chil it's your friend. However, it's not going to be easy I have been a single mother for 5 years and believe me it's hard....Don't forget about your happiness at the same time.

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