How do you raise four kids single ?? I am going through divorce and seems impossible


Katrina - posted on 05/10/2009




Last year I started the year off with my husband walking out on me, while I was pregnant with our fourth child. Which was tough. Then things got even harder on me when a few months later my mom, who was living with the kids and I, passed away unexpectedly. On top of all of that I lost my job of nine years, the company went bankrupt. I felt like I couldn't catch a break, that some how life was against me. All of the situations were tough, but it was all amplified by the pregnancy. I didn't want to eat, I couldn't sleep, I worried about how the kids and I would survive. There were days I didn't think I could go on. I forced myself to eat so the baby would be ok, I cried in the shower, so the boys wouldn't see me cry. But what kept me going was the kids. You find ways to survive. You will all of a sudden find an inner strength you didn't realize you had. I have 3 boys who are 8, 4, 2, and a 9 month old baby girl. Those are my four reasons for getting up in the morning, my four reasons for laughing, for smiling, for enjoying life, even though all it gives me is lemonades(made myself some lemonade). You are a tough, strong, amazing woman. You will get through this and in the end you will become an even better person than you were before this happened. There are sooo many programs out there now to help out single moms, so don't be afraid to ask for help. I think I can honestly say that this community is a group of strong, loving moms, and any one of us understands what you are going through and we are here for you. Happy Mother's Day!

Amanda - posted on 05/10/2009




prob not the best one to give advice as i don't know HOW you do it, you just have to.... you realize there is no choice and no one else is going to do it if you don't. and even if someone stood up and sid i'll raise them, you know your the only person who can do the job right.

I am 26 and have 4 children (7-2) its hard and some days you don't think you can keep doing it, but you can and you will. Sorry that's all i can say. Its just one of them things you gave to play by ear....its hard and it scary but most of all at the send of the day its rewarding...cause you did it alone.


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Lorrie Willbergh - posted on 05/10/2009




I too am getting divorced and I only have 2 kids and some days I think it is impossible! Just pray for God's provision - every time I think I just can't get out of bed something amazing happens - today I came home and 2 neighbors were mowing the lawn. then one ended up tilling a spot for me to grow some vegetables. It was totally a shock but I am humbled at the things people have just shown up and done for us. clothes for the kids or a meal or a ride. Don't be afraid to ask for help - or to offer someone one else a hand - you ever know where you can team up and make it better all around!

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