How do you stop a child from lying? Mine's almost 8 years old, and can't get the truth out of her for even the littlest things.

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Trecia - posted on 02/17/2009

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Don't give up though Kathy. Keep doing what you're doing, I'm sure it'll get through to her eventually.

Kathy - posted on 02/17/2009

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Hi Trecia,

I've told her the same things in as much as there are consequences that will occur no matter what is done, but it will be a whole lot worse if you lie about it. I am Buddhist, so telling her about Jesus is a stretch for me. It wouldn't sound right coming from me, but maybe if someone else said it, she'd understand it.

Thank you for your guidance, I guess this tells me I am doing about all I can.

Kathy - posted on 02/17/2009

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Hi Gail,



I try not to spank, not that she hasn't had any, but I don't think in a case like this it's going to help me. I prefer to talk to her and take away priviledges that she loves. She's generally a happy go lucky kid, so even when her priviledges are yanked, she still entertains herself, and that makes it hard for the lesson to come through. I am diligent in my discipline and will not give in early just to make her happy. I'm even thinking about adding chores, I don't know, just want her to get past this, I have a son who is older who still overly embellishes, but that's what has served him or so he thinks. I don't see it as an admirable trait.

Gail - posted on 02/17/2009

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Hi there!  I went through this when my daughter was 8.  I continued to talk with her about the importance of telling the truth.  I also made sure that I was (and still am) always truthful with her and her brother.  I don't ask them to tell someone I'm not home if the phone rings and things like that.



I reinforced to my daughter that if the truth was told there would be a consequence for wrong-doing, but not as bad as if she first lied and then I found out the truth.  She had a few swats to the behind before that was learned.  If you are not a spanker ... I would suggest to go to the Bible (as Trecia did) or to stories like the boy who cried wolf.  Hang in there!  This is part of development.  Hopefully it will pass quickly for you!

Trecia - posted on 02/17/2009

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My daughter is 8 yrs old and I've had to deal with her lies on several occasions. The way I deal with her is by telling her that: as long as she tells me the truth I wont spank nor punish her but if she lies and I find out it's a lie, she will be punished.  I also go into the Bible a little bit and ask her questions like: what if I asked Jesus, would he say you were telling the truth? That usually gets her... lol. It's worked for me and I hope it works for you.

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