How does a single mom do it

Karen - posted on 03/23/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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how does a single mom do it on her own it is kind of hard to do it on your own

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Contessa - posted on 04/02/2009

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Try being a single mom to 3 under the age of 7, working full-time and school full-time...it's exhausting especially with no help! It's all worth it when I see what amazing little men they are:) Hope I can put 3 good men into the world to counter the one jerk they came from...lol!

Kate - posted on 04/02/2009

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the only thing i found hard when i became a single mother, was being alone. Like not waking up next to someone, sharing those moments with someone else. I havent really found it hard looking after my daughter (2 years) so far... but then I did do alot of the stuff for her b4, my ex was very lazy... wasnt any help to me or her at all. It was a relief when he left! My financial situation actually got better! I love being the one that makes the decisions!



If this is what your looking at in the future... then i suggest trying to get out and meet new ppl as much as you can. you have made one good start, and thats coming on here and finding ppl with common situation etc.



be brave and take one day at a time! x

Sarudzai - posted on 04/02/2009

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Just take things one day at a time and do it with a smile and the love for your kids...thats all I can do, I give my children as much love as I got in me, attention wise the same.  I changed my working hours so that I am there for them and we have time to sit down and eat together, do homework with the older one and play with the younger one, bath times are sorted my eldest is 9 she is 7 years older than the younger one and she is a big help with her so all I do is make sure that both of them are well looked after - there's nothing for it really!!!

Amanda - posted on 04/01/2009

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you just do what you have to in a day. that's all.. you have to do it so you do. you don;t spend time thinking " oh this is SOOO hard!' if you did you'd be miserable! the only problem i have is when my kids father rubs it in my face that he's going outwith friends and having fun while im stuck at home by myself.

Shannon - posted on 04/01/2009

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Hi! I am a single mom and have been for a long time, my daughter is 2 1/2 and we have been going strong from about 1 month old......and I breastfed. But we are women and moms so you just do it!!!!! There is no other word or choice that you have.......You set up a budget and stick to it, you cook meals for a day or two spand, you shop in bulk when possible, and always remember the dishes and laundry will be there, the little one will not!!!!!!They grow up and there is nothing you can do but spend lots of time and give unconditional LOVE!!!!! .

Julie - posted on 04/01/2009

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Hi, I am a single mom, i have a 3 year old son, i work full time, i go to school full time and i feel like i have lost my mind!! i can't imagine being a single mother trying to raise anymore than one child. but i get by drinking ALOT of coffee and enjoying every second i have to spend with my little angel. as hard as it is, i wouldn't have it any other way. right now is the perfect age because me and him are best friends and we can have so much fun together just going outside to explore the outdoors or just being silly. cherish those moments where all you have to do is play and have fun with your kids!!!

Sandra - posted on 04/01/2009

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It is hard yes, been doing the single mom thing now for 9 yrs. have 2 girls, my youngest is 15 yrs. old. What I miss the most of being with my ex is someone there that can help out with after school activities, help with the driving. You just get used to it though and do the best you can do.

Alicia - posted on 03/31/2009

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I don't know how I do it as a single mother, but I'm doing it because I got to do it. As long as my bills are paid and there's food on the table, my son and I are happy. Sometimes I get so down on myself and all I got to do is look down at my son coloring, and all the bad feelings go away. I wouldn't change my lifestyle for anything in the entire world.

Jeanie - posted on 03/31/2009

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i don't dwell on being a single mom. it is a fact of life for me right now. i just go day by day, make sure all the homework is done and the baths are done for the next day. it is easier for me to worry about the house hold chores on the weekend. i know its hard for some people to do that but my weekend actually starts on thursday. my work has cut hours so i only work 3 12 hours days a week, so i can do that. before that i did a little of the chores everyday that way by the time sunday came around i didn't have to do much but enjoy my children. good luck, and don't dwell on being a single mom

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You just do! It becomes second nature to just get on with life for the sake of your child. I've been a single mum since my daughter was 8 months old, she is now 18 and we have the most amazing relationship, I am so blessed. Don't get me wrong its hard work wroking and playing Mum and Dad, but stick with it, its well worth it in the end x

Heather - posted on 03/28/2009

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i am a single mother of a 16 month old. I work full time and go to school full time! It is difficult. But you don't think twice about it. You kind of just know what you have to do. And at the end of the day you look at that baby and you just smile with amazement. i love it!

Amanda - posted on 03/25/2009

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I am a single parent to 2 teenage boy's..I work full time and also have a part time job as well. I get some help for babysitting occasionally but mostly it's just me and my boy's..It's hard work being mum and dad but my 2 have the upmost respect for me as a result..Basically it's worth it all and for all the time's it's hard there is a million more time's when it's worth it!!!!

Claudia - posted on 03/24/2009

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Its easy when you organize your schedule and coordinate your activiities according to your child needs, I ve being doing it for eleven years and its great!!!

Maureen - posted on 03/24/2009

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I am a single mom of 3 children 16, 11, & 9. I have 2 beautiful girls and one boy. I would not trade it for the world. It is challenging some days to work full time, come home cook dinner, help with homework and referee arguements. I try to keep a positive outlook on life and I choose my battles carefully. So what if the bedroom is messy, are the clean clothes put away? Are the rules being followed? Your outlook on this paints the picture for them. I give lots of hugs and I love yous. It is all for them.

Sandy - posted on 03/24/2009

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You don't think about it and do what you have too.  I am a single mom with 7 children, two of them have ASD and I go to school/college full time also.

Kelly - posted on 03/23/2009

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it is really hard and sometimes i don't know how i manage to take care of Evan, work, go to school, do all the house work and manage to find time for myself. i do get some help from my family, but i do mostly everything, but it is worth it when he laughs, and smiles........and i wouldn't change a thing.

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