how is done alone oxox just seperated

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Tina - posted on 03/09/2009

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it is not easy when you are dealing with your own feelings and the kids are shattered as well only suggestion is too not tell them adult issues that only hurts them, they will be angry confused and sad lots of love and reassurance that you are still family, it can be lonely and everyone has there own life take time for you put a face on exercise and where bright colours it is amazing how much it helps take care t x

Heather - posted on 03/06/2009

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being a single mom has its ups and downs. depending on your relationship with your ex what I found to be beneficial for my two boys is to be friendly with your ex in front of the kids and to keep the ex in contact with the children as much as possible even if its over the phone. If the split is a nasty one then just plenty of love and keep things as close to normal as possibel

Terri - posted on 03/06/2009

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It's hard but it can be done. I moved out 3 yrs ago. We are the best of friends but sadly had to go our separate ways. It took me a long time to actually believe I will be okay but I am & you will be too.

Jodi - posted on 03/05/2009

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hey i have a 2 yr old and a 1yr old and im finding it tough. their father left me for some-one else on christmas day. but no matter how hard it is just know that it is going to b ok. seeing your kids grow up and being there for everthing in there life makes it worth it trust me. life does go on just remember to take time for yourself, and happy mother is a good one. good luck

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I think it does get better. Lots of support for you and the kids will help you. Even if just someone to play with them so you can relax in a bath (with no kids knocking on the door) and have a good cry. :) Try your hardest to keep the kids routines the same (mealtimes, bedtimes homework etc...) and no matter how hard it is do not badmouth their father to them. I don't know how many times I have had to literally bite my tongue but it is not the kids' fault and they shouldn't hear bad stuff about either of their parents cuz they love you both! Post on here every chance u can even if you just need to vent about how u feel. It helps.

Diane - posted on 03/03/2009

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Hey Sandi~ I'm sorry you're having it hard. It doesn't get easier. Sorrier. There are ways to make it manageable. Prepare several meals on Sunday so that during the week you only have to heat it up. Keep to a schedule for the kids. It will make it easier if they know what to expect. TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF!!! Can't stress this one enough. Accept all offers of help. And give yourself a break.It's hard but moms do it every day and so can you. We moms we're resilient. The most important thing I can tell you is don't let the "job" of being a mom get it the way of being a mom. So what if the dishes stay in the sink until tomorrow? If the kids need you, the dishes can wait. Stay connected and make the bond you have with them as strong as you can.

Louise - posted on 03/03/2009

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its hard wen just split up. need lots of talks wiv kids, lots of t.l.c.but a good routine, and reward for good behaviour. dont forget the kids feel the split to. but not old enough to understand.hope ive helped x

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