How would u react to see the other woman holding YOUR baby?

Nicole - posted on 02/15/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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So last night in an act of boredom and curiousity I went on my baby's father's myspace and saw that the girl he had dumped me for while I was pregnant had a picture with him and MY SON as her default. When his father took him I had told him that I did not want him taking my son to go see her. Obviously, he had ignored my request. And he wasnt even going to tell me, I had to find out through myspace. I understand that he is HIS baby too so I really can not dicate who sees him and whatnot but seeing that picture blew a HUGE fuse in me. I had already disliked her because the father of my child broke up with me to be with her while I was 7 months and just to see HER holding MY baby made me go off the freaking wall. And if you were to look at the picture shes holding him like its her child or something. I was extremely infuriated but then again I feel like I have no standing because he has just as much right to our son as I do. It just really felt like a stab in the back to see that girl holding MY son. So, Im wondering, how would u react if you saw another woman holding your child? Am I justified in my anger? Any advice?

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Nicole - posted on 02/15/2009

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Thank you. You know some people are just like "suck it up" and yes I understand its his kid and that he is going to have females in life just as I may have a boyfriend or (I can hope) husband in my life someday but it still hurts to see someone trying to play a "mothering figure" to YOUR child that you gave birth to and take care of every single day. And the picture, I cant get over how it just looks like a "family" photo.

Sarah - posted on 02/15/2009

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You have every right to be upset and frustrated that someone else is involved in your childs life as the "mothering role".  I know when this happened in my separation I had a talk with my daughters father about bringing his new "girlfriend" around our child since we had only been split apart for not even 3 weeks.  It made me feel better that I voiced my opinion on the situation and to know that his new found girlfriend did not have a place in my daughters life just yet...needless they didn't last very long and I am hoping that maybe my words did somehow make it through to him that until you know for sure that this is a "real" relationship not to bring them around our child so soon.  Just talk to him that is the only was anything can start to get resolved!

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ouch ya i would freak out, cause you told him not to take the baby to her place, and he should have respected your wishes but he didn't. and obviously the girl wanted to piss you off by having the picture up, it seems like shes a sneaky bitch, but that's just my opinion

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OMG!! That would hurt sooo much! It is very selfish of both of them. You have every right to be upset. You just remember YOU are his mother and you always will be. Nobody can ever change that. They sound very imature, so you hold your head high, be the best Mum you can be and that little boy will grow knowing who his Mum is. xx

Alison - posted on 02/15/2009

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I think you have every right to be irritated. I recently had the girlfriend of my babies father (who wanted me to have an abortion) tell me that MY child was going to be a significant part of her life! It took everything in we to not tell here where she could shove it right along with her selfish, narcissistic boyfriend.

Courtney - posted on 02/15/2009

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I think your right to be so angry I would go completely crazy. The fact that she has the photo on her page is a little strange, If he was holding your son and the photo was on his page I dont think there would be as much to get angry about but knowing me Id still be angry especially since you already disliked her. and the fact she is holding him like he's her son is just plain wierd, She must be crazy because although woman loved babies we never pretent they are our own when they are clearly not. So dont feel like you havent got a leg to stand on it should be out of mutal respect that she doesnt have "family" Photos with your son.

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