I am far away from my little girl as i am working abroad. Is it worth it or should i just go back home...

Nochelle - posted on 04/21/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I feel i made the right decision to go abroad work and earn more for my baby's future. But then she recently had her 2nd birthday and i feel bad she's growing without me. Shes with my sisters family. Should i just go home & raise her the best way i can even with a little money enough to make our ends meet?

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Nochelle - posted on 04/23/2009

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Thanks for the replies it always strengthen when theres someone whos on the same boat someone who understands. Hi michelle, i really appreciate what u said though. Those are the things that i am honestly so afraid of when i start asking myself if where i am now is really worth it. I am thinking maybe i should just go home and not let it last too long. After all she is my life and she will be a little girl only once. Maybe i can start a little business when im home. Thanks. Ciao!

Valencia - posted on 04/22/2009

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That's a tuff one. I had to do the same thing when my daughter was 4 months old. Had to leave her and finish medical school in a country that was 2 plane trips away. But I'm done now and looking back I don't think I could have finished on time if I had kept her, but at the same time....I could never leave her again. Sometimes you have to sacrifice short term gratification for long term goals. Just don't let it last too long....be there for her when it counts. I'm sure your family is loving her as you would. At the same time, don't stay away too long. You will want to be there when she starts to make memories!
Hope this helped.

Michelle - posted on 04/22/2009

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i don't know if you will like my opinion - but money and jobs come and go - but will you ever get that missed birthday back? Or those little smiles - the hugs at bed time - those are things you couldn't take away from me for a million dollars. Because you can never get them back. And really when she's older - is "I was trying to make a better life for our future" going to matter when she doesn't have that relationship with you?

I don't mean to make you feel worse - I just think that money isn't worth a relationship with your child. There is help out there - grants for single moms to go through school - vocational programs for single moms - financial help through the government - there are a lot of ways to make it with out sacrificing your relationship with your baby.

But you also have to do what you have to do - there isn't nearly enough info here to really say what we would do

Tonya - posted on 04/21/2009

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I'm in the same boat with you, I relocated to Memphis, Tn from Columbia,Tn and my kids stay with my grandmother because I have no family here! Its hard but I think we are doing it for the right reason, hang in there a little longer. Jobs are hard to find these days!

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