I have a drug problem,and2 littlegirls.What doIdo?

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Brandie - posted on 05/11/2009

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God bless ou for wanting to make a better life for your children. My best friend is a recovering addict it is not an easy road but I know with the right support system YOU CN DO THIS, look into local churches and you can use your local health department to find out drug treatment programs and support in your area. I wish you the best of luck on your journey and please remember that god loves all of his children.

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Gemmah - posted on 05/19/2009

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do all of the above darl...u have 2 of the best reasons to do it ...you can do it belive in your self...dont listen to put downs ...ur a mother one of the strongest things in the world......u can do it...good luck and much

Michelle - posted on 05/19/2009

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Congrats! I wish I had your honesty... You're not alone. Listen to the comments below and beleive in yourself. Your children are worth it and they deserve the BEST of you... substance free. I am new to this, where are you located?

Hannah - posted on 05/18/2009

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Oh Lacey, my heart goes out to you...people don't understand that addiction is a disease. Addicts are so critisized and belittled. You have to dig deep in your soul and love yourself and your daughters enough to put it down. I had an addiction and I realized that I love my boys (2) too much to do this to myself or them. They did not know I had a problem and by the grace of God it was a very bried time in my life but I was determined to make sure they never did. Kids know more than you think. Please, please do whatever it takes to put down whatever it is that has this bind on you. Satin is lauging at you every time you use. hahahahaha...he loves it! aaaaahahahaha....you are weak and I've got you in the palm of my hand. That's what he is saying! I'm gonna ruin you and your daughter's lives....aaaahahahahaha!!!! You say to yourself everyday "My actions are NOT OK". I am a mother, God gave me these two gifts and I am taking advantage of them and abusing them and myself with this addiction. Abusing your girls by putting a drug before them. You can do this Lacy, I know you can. Pray, get on your knees and ask and BELIEVE that God loves you and he CAN HEAL YOU!!!

Kimberly - posted on 05/18/2009

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there is programs out there were you and your kids can be in together! my mom work in a program that is 9months and they teach you to live with out drugs! im not sure where you live but some thing else you can do is call DCF and ask for there help! they are not alway bad people and they know alot of programs that can help you and your kids! they also can help you get daycare so you can work and all kinds of other stuff!! good luck and my prayers are with you!!!

Kenya - posted on 05/15/2009

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THEIR IS POWER IN PRAYER..U NEED TO DROP THAT DRUG B4 IT DROP U UR FAMILY NEEDS U....GO GET PROFESSIONAL HELP

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HI LACEY, IT'S A WONDERFUL THING THAT U HAVE ADMITTED THAT U HAVE A PROBLEM. I WANT TO SAY THAT I COME FROM A MOM WITH THE SAME HABIT, AND MY DAD RAISED ME AND MY 3 BROTHERS WHILE SHE RAN OUT AND TREATED HER HABIT. A SHORT STORY FOR THIS IS ADDICTION IS A POWERFUL THING. YOUR MAIN FOCUS NEEDS TO BE THOSE GIRLS U HAVE. PRAY AND GET HELP NOW AND DONT LET THAT DEVIL INTERFER WITH THE UPBRINGING OF THOSE ANGELS U HAVE. TILL THIS VERY DAY I'M 35 YRS. OLD AND MY MOM STILL HAS A HABIT....YES I LOVE HER FOR WHO SHE IS, BUT SHE MISSED OUT ON ALOT OF MEMORIES THAT CANT BE REPLACED. I KNOW ITS HARD BUT SWEETY UR YOUNG AND I DO BELIEVE U CAN OVERCOME THIS AWFUL ADDICTION. THOSE GIRLS DESERVE TO HAVE A MOM IN THEIR LIFE. PRAYER IS UR ANSWER.

Lisa - posted on 05/13/2009

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Hi ,Lacey, you have received many great and helpful suggestions in answer to to your question.Have you found a programme to help you ? It's fantastic that you have acknowledged you have a problem,thats the first step in being part of the solution,but understand that you cannot do this alone ,help is out there,and your children deserve a mother, keep us posted. best wishes to you xxx

Sheri - posted on 05/12/2009

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You made the first step..admitted you have a problem. I'm a recovering addict and beleive me when I tell you, it's hard but it does get easier. You HAVE to be honest with everyone around you especially your children. Kids know what's going on! The most important person in this situation is YOU. If you want to be a good mother you must seek help. Be it out patient or in patient re-hab. I go to out patient rehab and I also go to a therapist once a week. Just pick up the phone and make the call. The therapists and doctors will decide which treatment is best for you but you are the only one that can get the help. Good luck! ~One Day At A Time~

Eva - posted on 05/12/2009

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Pray, connect with your spirit. Be strong, b/c you already are raising two children. Get away from anything and anyone that continues to put this in your life. Keep yourself save just like you keep your children safe. Committ yourself to a plan and remind yourself what do you really want in life and you need to lead a healthy life to be around for your children for a really long time and to be a great example for them. Understand that life isn't easy and although substance abuse is an easy solution to deal with immediate stress nothing will get rid of the stress, you just have to walk right through it, not give a shit about anyone or anything anymore if it takes away from your security and safety and move forward. You are an adult and only you can be responsible for your choices. You should talk to a doctor/medical professional who can help you with some immediate steps, but you know you have the power in your heart and soul to make this change possible. I'm proud of you for being so open and letting us share this journey with you.

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Safest advice for you and your family is to find someone (preferably a family member) to care for your children for the time being and get yourself some help. If you wait and children services comes in you are in trouble. Addictions are a sickness and unless you seek help you will never kick it. So do what is best for your children and yourself and get help. Perhaps moving in with family or friends who can take care of your children while you do this. But keeping your children in a home with an addict is a disaster waiting to happen so I hope you decide quick what your planning to do. Good luck..God Speed

Dimity - posted on 05/11/2009

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First Thing First. U NEED TO SEEK OUT HELP!!!!!!! Not just for your benefit but for the two little girls what will they do without a mum?

Kimberly - posted on 05/11/2009

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my brother inlaw had a problem to he wrote this poem. no one ever told me that some day i would fall in love with an uncontrolable problem,yes im talking about drugs i never knew about addiction i found out myself it took over my feelings my attitude my health its a love affair that i didnt want to let go i need drugs every day why? i really dont know i was attracted to the life style that drugs also brings parties acceptance sex and actually everything the money was spent by hundreds and despair everyday bad feelings and memories that drugs took all that away i lost control of my addiction my love it started to fall apart it took the money from my pocket and even broke my heart it took the clothes of my back and left me only shame i was living with the guilt and that im only blame i suffered the pain of with-drawel and even took more drugs with out even noticing it was me i dont love it ended my relationships and also stole my pride i fell in love with addicion which was my way to hide the moral of this poem and its why i had to share that drugs isnt the answer and it dosnt make you care i would also like to add that addicion is only a mess and where there is addiction comes abandoment heartbreak jail institution and in the end death. my brother inlaw died three year ago he left behind 2 children that miss him every day i hope this poem brings something to you and i hope you get the help you need RIP miah

Rima - posted on 05/10/2009

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Quoting Lacey:

I have a drug problem,and2 littlegirls.What doIdo?




You are not alone! Let live and let God!

Rima - posted on 05/10/2009

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Hi, Lacey! I just wanted to let you know, that I am on a similar boat liek you are. I have been battling my substance problem for over two years now. It's possible to get better! I was non believer, I thought nothing could help me, but there is help! I was very agains AA, bu tyou know, this is the only thing that is keeping me straight and right on a good track! Try NA, get a sponsor, it's possible. Get help, before children's aids will take your children away! Trust me on this. Get rid of all your using friends, dealers, etc. My only suggestion, do the 12 steps! I was so anti-step, and now, it's really helping me. Good luck, please let me know how is it going, GOd bless. You are going the right direction by admitting and not living in denial. Good for you. Lots of love, you are not alone!

Natalie - posted on 05/10/2009

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i am a substance abuse nurse and i can tell u that the first step is over..u have admitted to having an addiction. now you need to see if there are outpatient treatment centers in your area. i live in NC and i work at a substance abuse clinic in Greensboro. there may be numbers in the phone book in the yellow pages or you can search for substance abuse centers online. keep in touch and let me know how it goes.

Kristen - posted on 05/10/2009

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Quoting Jaclyn:

Well I think you took the first step and admitted you had a problem and asked for help. Now you need to do that with your family so they can help you get the professional help you need. I don't mean for "professional help" to sound as bad as it does but you need help outside of circle of moms. Talk to someone in your family you really trust about this and let them help you get the help you need for your little girls.



That's exactly what you need to do and you need to do it as soon as possible.  Get help so you can be the mom you want to be for your daughters.  You're their role model and mother to mother I know that's not the kind of life you want for them.  Good luck sweetheart!

Jaclyn - posted on 05/10/2009

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Well I think you took the first step and admitted you had a problem and asked for help. Now you need to do that with your family so they can help you get the professional help you need. I don't mean for "professional help" to sound as bad as it does but you need help outside of circle of moms. Talk to someone in your family you really trust about this and let them help you get the help you need for your little girls.

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