I have a easy baby but I find that I still wish I could get a break from being a singel mom. Normal?

Mindy - posted on 09/05/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )




I have a wonderful baby but never get a break because I am a singel mom and have to watch my baby 24-7. I don't even have time togo look for a job unless she is with me. I get really frustrated because I have no one to watch her to even go out looking for a job. What do I do?


Rebecca - posted on 09/06/2009




I felt exactly the same and actually started getting sick because i didn't get any time to myself. My daughter is easy too i have been very lucky in that way but was still struggling because i wasn't able to relax. My doctor suggested putting my daughter in child care one day a week. At first i was a bit reluctant and felt selfish but after trying it i found that having that time for me has made such a difference. I am calmer and more relaxed and my daughter is getting the socialization too. It is normal to still feel overwhelmed. Good luck!


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Kristen - posted on 09/08/2009




totally normal, i love my little guy to pieces but sometimes i just need a break. Best advise i can give you is one: get a babysitter even for like just an hour and go do something that you want to do... it will save your sanity... and two: hang in there and good luck!

Anne - posted on 09/08/2009




ABSOLUTELY!!! Don't feel bad or guilty about wanting adult contact/fellowship. Having time with people your own age is so important to keeping your sanity. I had a few other single mom friends and we would swap child care so the others could go out. My babies were with people I trusted and the moms got well deserved time for themselves.

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I have been a single mom for 14 years. There have been many times I wish I could have a break, but I always worked, clean, did laundry, handled appointments, everything, I very rarely had much help due to different circumstances. My son went with me every where. As he became older, then I was able to find some help time to time, but by this time he was in preschool then school. I understand how you feel, I am still doing it today, but have more breaks now than when he was an infant. Check with your church or local churches. Family or friends, look for in home daycare even for half a day or one day a week to give you the much need break you need to do things that is not appropriate for a baby to attend.

Brandi - posted on 09/07/2009




Very normal and dont feel guilty. Your children are your life and they know that. But believe me, if you dont start taking ME time while they are babies, you may have a hard time doing it when they are a little older. Start it now and just make it normal for them, it is actually a healthy thing for both of you. Im sure you can find a friend to watch them for a few hours or so just keep looking and hang in there.

Brenda - posted on 09/07/2009




try working at a daycare.i work at a daycare and take my kids with me.it pays the bills and it works.u get help with the cost of daycare which evry single mom needs.and on the days u dont go to work or need a break u can take ur child there.and still get a discount.and churches are great support groups.

Tora - posted on 09/07/2009




everyone needs to be grown ups and not just a mum. I have the same problem. my kids are 5 and 8, but I still feel I never get just-me-time. is there no one who can look after your daughter? can you search for jobs whilst she is having a nap or after she has gone to bed in the evening? Child care is also a good idea, maybe just a couple of days a wekk?

Ashley - posted on 09/05/2009




it's definitely normal. i do it too, even though i feel so guilty about it. you may want to check around your community, some churches offer "mommy's day out" where you can drop your child off in a safe and warm environment for just a few hours.

Angela - posted on 09/05/2009




honestly, try working from home! That's what I did.

My son is an angel, mind you his grandpa comes over after work but I still have him ALL day long. So I hear you loud and clear.

I'm still on maternity leave so I work lots on the computer all day long.

If you want I could help you start a business! I know we have gov't funded programs here in the Calgary area, but I could help you get started.

Hang in there! This too shall pass...

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