I Planned It That Way!

Amie - posted on 04/01/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I planned my pregnancy on my own! After 27 years of knowing I wanted a child, I made it a reality. I broke up with my boyfriend at the end of 2007. I took an extra long vacation in Mexico (6 months) and found myself indulging in all of life's offerings. After relaxing and travelling I returned home to a wonderful support network of family and friends...pregnant!



Motherhood was a decision I am very proud of. Nothing can compare to the experience of raising a child. Jack will be 3 months soon. I would love to connect and hear stories from other women who have made the choice to be a single mother.

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Theresa - posted on 04/11/2009

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Like you Amie - I did the same.  Decided after years of determinimng what would be the best time.  I know the father of my baby but he will not be co-parenting.  It was my choice.  He is one of my best friends and will always be in our lives but I am looking forward to a new life with a baby.  I knew it was the right time for me.  It's so exciting!

Genevieve - posted on 04/10/2009

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I expect that your an excellent mother but i dont agree with your decision and think it was selfish...Kids need fathers, i am a single mother 2 but me and her Dad split when she was 2 and i didn't plan it this way and he has access. I'm broody again (my daughter's 5) and though it's tempting to get pregnant i don't think it would be fair to the child to knowingly skip the father bit just because it didn't suit me and wanted to do it alone. You may believe it's ok but though i'm sure your child is happy i really don't think he knows what he's missing for you to know u haven't done him an injustice..I don't judge u i'm just giving an opinion and i genuinally wish u all the best.

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I'm single by choice aswell. My ex didn't want the baby at first but said he would stick by me, then he said he was starting to get used to the idea, but he didn't show it. I'm 20, he's 24, and some of his friends said I was too young for him (4 years? hardly a difference), but he was the immature one. Sometimes I really thought his video games were more interesting than me, I'd ask him if he wanted to go out and do something and all he wanted to do was get stoned and play war games. All he does is drink and smoke pot all day, and I didn't want my baby raised in that sort of environment.  I think I've made the best decision for myself and my baby.

Danelle - posted on 04/02/2009

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hi there, how are u? I am no longer a singal mum but i was a singal mum with my first for a while and i was 16 at the time and it was so hard working caring for a 2 week old baby but now i look back and i am so glad i did what i did and the father is still not in the picture but i was lucky enough to find someone that took on the role of being his dad and now i have another beautiful son and another baby due in august and when i think back i hate to have knowen where i would have been if i had stuck around





Vicki - posted on 04/02/2009

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it was the hardiest tchoice that i made to leave my x but the kids and i have been so happy and they are better off with out him so good for u.

Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2009

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I didn't plan it this way, but honestly glad that it is this way. I am tired of lazy, childish, and self-centered men. Who needs that crap? My kids seem much happier when I am single and running the show. My oldest at 11 tells me that men are just black holes and cost too much...lol isn't that funny!

Kate - posted on 04/02/2009

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i made the choice to become a single parent by leaving my partner at the time, and i dont regret it one bit! Its the best for me and her. I think its great not having him around, he was childish and lazy... and wasnt prepared to make any changes to himself when faith arrived...



so i am 100% happy with my decision!

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