its getting a little to hard!

Felicia - posted on 03/15/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I really don't know what to tell me son anymore about his father he doesn't come around and me son need a male in his life he is learning new thing and i really can't teach him about the male things b/c i am a female. He is 4 but know a LOT. I'm having hard time but i know that i can get my self through it i been doing it but i just need some help and someone to understand what i am going through!!!!!!!

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Suzan - posted on 03/17/2009

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hi Felicia i raised four healthy boy by explaining every thing to them before you answer any questions with him sit and think which way is the easyest youl get their in the end

Tanya - posted on 03/17/2009

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Hi Felicia,

Pray, it changes things. My daughter will be 7 in a couple of weeks and I have been doing it by myself since day one. Some fathers pick and choose when they want to be around and help but mothers are always there. You can teach him as much as you know about being a boy and pray that a male figure will enter you all's life to feel that void when God see fit.

User - posted on 03/16/2009

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Hi Felicia,



I know it's hard! My son's father was out of his life for a year and a half due to drugs. When he wasn't seeing my son at that time I told my son that  Daddy isn't making good choices. When Daddy starts making good choices he needs to talk to the judge and maybe he can start seeing you then. You just need to keep making the right choices for him. When you son has quesions about things research them on the internet and give him the best answer. Maybe you can research mentor programs on the internet as well to get your son involved with a male figure. Good Luck!

Cheryl - posted on 03/16/2009

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I totally know how you feel...I have 2 boys, ages 4 and 6.  Their dad is in and out of their lives, depending on what's convenient for him. As he has told me, court ordered visitation means he "can" see his kids but he doesn't have to if he doesn't want to.  I just do not make him a part of our daily lives and they seem fine with that.  I am always on the lookout for good male role models :-)  like my friends and even one of my son's preschool teachers.  I actually ask this man to babysit once in a while because I think he is a good influence on them, and it gives me the occasional break I need.



Hang in there...we all have times when it seems we can't go on like this for another day.  But this too shall pass.  We find solutions and move on. 



Hugs..

Eunice - posted on 03/16/2009

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Hi Felicia, can't really apprec8 wat u r goin thru now but can understand...i think it will help a great deal if u have positive male role models and influence around him... also if u have brothers or ur dad can also help out...



Hang in dr and goodluck...

Kelly - posted on 03/15/2009

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Hi Felicia -

I'm trying to plan for that time myself. Right now my son in only 1 but I know there are going to be questions I will want to answer by saying "Go ask your dad." My father is deceased so having grandpa around isn't going to be an option. I've already started asking close male friends or spouses of female friends if they would be willing to either step in or help me understand and be able to explain. I'll be watching this post too to get advice. I jus tknow that even when a mom has the information it's "just different" when coming from a man.

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