Joint custody!

Wakisha - posted on 04/18/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )




So recently my ex-husband asked for joint custody. He was a terrible husband but a great father. After many days and weeks of thinking it over, I agreed. I love my son and I want him to be well rounded and know both of us. However, a part of me feels like I gave him up. Is that normal? After a year of it just being him and I, now I only have him every other week. Some people say that at least I have a break, but I didn't want a break. Just feel empty inside sometimes when he is not here with me. Am I crazy?


Christy - posted on 04/24/2009




Hi Wakisha,

I can really relate to your feelings of guilt and emptiness....In some ways, it is a no win situation for you...if you didn't allow this, but know it is best for your son, you would feel guilty. If you do, you feel guilty. It is so hard and neither decision is the easiest. I have a 20 month old daughter and similar situation to yours in that he was a terrible partner but wants to be a very involved parent and loves our daughter. He says he wants half time....I have dug my heels in hard...and have had to compromise a lot....because of her age we don't have the 50/50 thing yet (but I have had to fight this tooth and nail). There is no right answer. You know what is best for your son. I really feel for you xo

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