Lately my patience with my kids has just vanished,what should i do to deal with my kids without losing it?


Amber - posted on 03/26/2009




Alot of times when I am getting short with my daughter it has alot to do with what is going on in my life. For example when her father and I are fighting I get really short with her and alot of times it's about something that I wouldn't normaly get short with her for. When we are mad and stressed out we tend to take it out on everyone around us it's a way of venting or releasing. But it isn't fair and it should be done. Make sure you are getting enough alone time with friends or by yourself or whatever just as long as you can take a break from being a mom. Don't hold everything in if you are feeling like you are gonna break call someone and talk with them about it even if you don't want advice alot of times it is nice to just have someone listen to you so you can get it out.  That makes me feel better alot of times. If there is something in your life that is making you feel that way. Deal with that so whatever or whoever isn't or can't make you feel like that.  I hope this helps.

Lorra - posted on 03/26/2009




Mommy time out!!!! When I find I am getting short, or about to loose it, I explain to my 3 yr old that mommy needs a time out (not cause she was bad, but because she needs to simmer down) and so I put a movie or something on for him, or get him set up with something that will occupy him for a bit, the me and my cup of tea sit quietly in my room for a bit ( until i feel calm again) When in my room I look at pics of my babe, I think of what it is that is really bothering me and how it is I can fix it or push it aside si that I can fully enjoy my time with my son,

Tavia - posted on 03/26/2009




when you are feeling overwhelmed (patience short), take some me time. Hot bath, read a good book, take a walk or just anything to relax you. We as parents have to remember they did not ask to come here so we have to find a medium between our moods. Just like us children go through mood swings, find that one avenue to help relax them and place them in their room, doing this routine it will become second nature to the children that when they act up they will be sent to their rooms for, let's just say behavior modification change. it's hard to give advice on certain matters because everything does not work for everybody, but one thing i do know is you have to find your medium and your patience will improve, trust me i know first hand. Good Luck

Candice - posted on 03/26/2009




i'm not the most patient person (not sure how i ended up with a kid) but when i find i'm stressing out on her i take a break (put her somewhere safe) and try to remember the joyful parts of motherhood. then i try to take a new more attention to her, get on the floor and play, just enjoy her. when they feel like the focus of attention, they tend to behave better too, which helps keep the mood positive. it's not a 24 hour solution, but it can help shift everyone's mood.

Alicia - posted on 03/26/2009




What i find very helpful and i have not had to do this in a long time (THANK GOD) is send the kids to their rooms and let them either take a nap or just sit there and chill~lax until you get back on track, and not until you are ready bring them back and start over. that help me when i first got my daughters ( i have 2 children by birth and i adopted 2 little girls) and at that time they all were 2,3,4,10..yes they did look at me like i was crazy, but i'd take that verses snapping out on them..Hope that helps!!


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