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Sonya - posted on 10/27/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )




hi am a single mother who has a 3 months baby girl n is guna be living on my own pretty soon an was jus wundain wat other peoples feelings are on living alone and how to cope? :D


Mary Gail - posted on 11/09/2010




I raised my son from 18 months to 14 YO until I remarried. First, take care of yourself. Second, don't worry about your house. Sleep when your baby sleeps, only shop when your child is rested, enjoy them as much as you can. If you don't have family to help you, find a good church family. There will be times you are so tired that you don't think you will be able to move, but you'll find the strength. Your focus has to be your child in all ways. Sometimes you will be very lonely. Don't fall for some deadbeat - look for a quality man to have in both your lives. I waited 12 years for that, but it was well worth the wait. The key for me on all this was being organized. Doing things when my child's schedule allowed. Like I said - I didn't shop when he was tired - it just made for a bad experience for both of us. Trust your "gut" and your heart when it comes to decisions you have to make. Don't go against it. Never make financial decisions that would jeopardize the shelter/food you are providing for both of you. Find a Single Parent network in your area. Definitely find a good church home and go weekly. Enjoy every second of it! It can be a hard road at times, but never ever forget to enjoy your time with your daughter. Discipline when she needs it, but do it with compassion. Always always always be there for her.

Caitlyn - posted on 10/30/2010




Living alone definitely has its advantages, such as being able to do whatever you want whenever you want. On the downside there's no one there but yourself to help with the baby. What I've learned through living alone with my baby girl is that a schedule is key. Both parent and child anticipate what is coming, and when, and mama knows when it's break time.

Darci - posted on 10/29/2010




I've lived alone since 2003 when I kicked my husband out. Your home is your sanctuary. It's where you can be you with no judgments. You can dance naked or dress like a nun and there's no one there to criticize. It's the BEST!!!

Christina - posted on 10/27/2010




I loved living alone when I was a single mom. It was just me and my kids with no one else to interfere on how I raised them. What I said went, no questions at all. I had a ritual after they went to bed. I would drink a cup of hot tea and read a book for an hour or two before I went to bed so I could relax and have me time.
Now that my husband (we are common law married) lives with us, I have to negotiate parenting. However, same goes for him since we get his son every other weekend for four or five days.

Rosette - posted on 10/31/2010




it's really hard raising your child alone... diapers, foods and other stuff... teaching her to walk pee and poopoo in the right place and what so ever.... but then when you think the love you had to the baby all sacrifices is worth it, and time may come you'll get to used it...


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Sonya - posted on 10/31/2010




thank you everyone you's have been a great help. . and have really encouraged me to go ahead with moving out. . .yeahy :D

Belinda - posted on 10/29/2010




I agree...I love son and I bought my grandfathers house after he passed away...we have lived here since my son was it helped my son to still have his family home and feel comfortable even though Papa was no longer with us. We have our own way of doing things and yes...the house may be messy and lived in...but we are happy and healthy. You just have to make it your own. There are some days went it would be nice to have a big strong man around since we live in the boonies...but...we just keep your head will love it...just might take a little adjusting at first. ;)

Dana - posted on 10/29/2010




Being alone is good. It allows you to develop a relationship that will last a life time with you daughter. It allows you take a good look at yourself and be the person YOU want to be. Being alone teaches you life lessons and develops a strength that can never be taken away. It is a wonderful journey and in you do not really have to be alone in and never truly are, IF you choose to walk with God. He walks and talks with you each step of the way, if you ask. :) He is the BEST and has the BEST for you....if you ask. You go girl! It is an opportunity.

Danielle - posted on 10/28/2010




Love it! Happier than I have ever been with out stress and complications of having a roommate or significant other. My boys and I do as we please and have to answer to no one : )

Sarah - posted on 10/28/2010




It is a little daunting at first, but once u get into the swing of things, its great!!

I moved out of my parents home when my little girl was 4 months first, it was a little hard to juggle baby, housework and me time. but i quickly got used to it, and am LOVING it!!

Its a tough job, but you will definately realise just how much of a "super woman" you are! WISHINGYOU ALL THE BEST :)

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Hi Sonya! I think living alone is great for many reasons. For the most part, I think it is freeing because you no longer have the concerns of living with other people and you can just focus on yourself and accomplishing your goals. It also helps you become more independent and allows you to rediscover who you are that would not have been possible living with other people. And if you feel lonely, you can always call up your friends to come over, but being a mom I imagine that you will stay busy taking care of your newborn baby. It will probably take most of your time anyhow. I recently moved out to be on my own and it was a little scary at first, and I'm still adjusting to the change, but I was blessed to have supportive family and friends who gave me the encouragement that I needed to adjust to my new situation. I feel more confident now being on my own after just a few months. I am also proud of myself for finally getting to this point. It's a good feeling! So, I hope it will go well for you. Just give yourself time to adjust, I'm sure you will be alright. Plus, your baby will keep you busy, so you probably won't even notice you are alone. Learn to embrace this season of your life because no situation really stays the same forever. Well, take care and be blessed!

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