luxury to have your children when you ex doesn't?

Jen - posted on 02/25/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I having a huge court fight at the moment over contact with my son and father. My ex think it a luxury on the fact I got his7 year old son. I don't see the same way. One is I know that my son is safe and for the way my ex treat my son he let him room and dump on other women while he dating plus my son had autism . So far my son is in a peaceful home where if it was my ex it not a peaceful home. Worst when my ex fight with his own mother in front of his son.

One thing is I get blame for due to I not in the same town as him is the distant between him and me. MY ex wanted my son to travel to bus due to I don't have a car . I refuse due to my son is not a happy traveler he fall asleep on the bus and when woke up by a stranger he flip out trigger a meltdown.My ex can't handle a meltdown. let alone our son speech I thought over the year my son was quite due to the fight he witness . But it was small part to the real side to autism.

I also been class as a control freak . Sorry but I am the one living with my child. lawyers and my ex don't . Some of my friends seen my son melt down and watch me cope but they all don't jump in .
I don't see it control I have to make sure routine is ok and let my son know what is going on . I feel like the heartless mother when I pull the tough love card on him when my son doesn't like getting out of bed and going to school and doing what his teacher is asking him to do .
Oh I get blame for turning from my ex that I turn his son away from him... Sorry but all the time his son calls to talk to his dad he get message bank or no answer . When my ex does call it 5 sec call which my son does the talk and then it over. Like for example hello dad i play the wii and yes yes ok bye.The is common due to my son does that we every one . even when they want to talk to me he would hang up on them.
To me I am bless that I got my son and he is safe with me . 7 years of hard work it not luxury

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Jen - posted on 02/27/2009

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Quoting Gail:



If you dont feel happy with your son seeing his father in his own home (yours not his)  then perhaps you could try a contact center





At the moment the court grant a contact visit at a center and My son is not allow to be remove due to it been surpvise . I get the abusive phone call from my ex due to he can't remove his son. It not my fault . But I am happy with what the court done. It not I got to change my home number which is a pain due to so many people have the number so I can have peace. As for my son his mine and I happy that he doing well at school. he a human being and he not a car or tv etc.

Gail - posted on 02/26/2009

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If you dont feel happy with your son seeing his father in his own home (yours not his)  then perhaps you could try a contact center

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